Live on £4000 for a year - Part 3

Marru

DdraigGoch wrote: »

"bad housekeeping" and "stubbornness"

DG: Are you my long lost twin?

bails

Thanks so much for your support guys, means a lot xx
LOL at Semi-Modern Man Nyk! :rotfl:Acutally made me very grateful because OH isn't like that at all - in fact it reminded me that he is wonderful in just about every other way. We had a long talk (did you see the steam coming out of my ears from yours Marru?:D) and he has finally admitted that he has a total disregard for money :T (I'm clapping the admission not his disregard, he's a stubborn so and so :rolleyes:). That's not to say that he spends it willy nilly or has any debt etc, it's just simply that money has no meaning for him. A nice idea but we live in the Consumerist West... It comes down to a complete lack of financial education growing up and never having to find money himself (always got paid to do jobs round house, is now very good at DIY so always an upside I guess ). He is trying and to be fair, has changed quite a lot since we've been together...there's just still a long way to go!! Bizarrely, defleaing our cats turned out to be the bonding task that stopped me escaping but he is under no illusion that this is sorted. But enough of him...

JumbleBee, I completely forgot to say how fantastic that you've reached your target already, you are indeed the Frugal Queen :T

BB, fab that you are so frugally excited and great stuff for approaching the energy rises with your houseshares. Thanks for the link to the jobbywatsit too (you know what I mean), they're quite expensive though.(BTW did you see my PM about yoghurt quantities?)

Sophiesmum, another great haul! :T I picked my first beans too today, only 5 as most of my plants were mullered by the slugs. I have a whole colander stuffed full of broccoli that needs eating and I also got some more redcurrants (and about 6 blackcurrants), in the freezer with the others til I work out what to do with them. Thanks for the strawberry plant tip, I have put little pots round my plant too so hopefully will have several plants next year. I've also weeded the broccoli bed as I thought I would plant some lettuce in there as it's the only bed currently with a slug fence...but I found a couple of slugs and a snail in there :mad: Not really a problem for the broccoli now (except the leaves) but don't want to risk the lettuce for the 4th time! If I plant some in pots, is keeping them in the greenhouse the best option? And my windfalls, any use I can put them to please?
Which reminds me BB, why not have a go at a couple of pots and see what happens? If even I can grow stuff, you'll be able to as well Do you like spinach? Throw the seeds in and it grows like a weed :T

Thanks again everyone - I'm not quite sure where we'll go from here financially speaking but I am going to find the strength to put my own needs first (and hopefully in the process OH will develop more financial responsibility too).
Have a lovely afternoon, hope the sun is shining with you all now xx

slowlyfading

warning, moan ahead:
I had the worst day at the bakery today. there 6 members of staff where i work, including me, and apparently someone had complained about me - i thought i got on with all the people i work with - but its that they said i wasn't doing enough - I run around that bakery all day. Anyway, the manager got me in her office and told me about it, and said what i should do etc, and i ended up crying which was stupid, and even more embarrassing. I think it was just that I am always shattered after work, as you never stop, andsomeone has said that behind my back - it made me feel frustrated more than anything, and also kind of hurt - which i know is stupid. So, yes. I cried in front of my manager today - I never cry at anything normally, so yeah

anyway, meant i had a NSD, so thats something... x

Frugaldom

Sending hugs & moral support to Slowlyfading. Sounds like you need it, and it is not stupid to feel hurt when someone you think of as a friend stabs you in the back. It's natural and can dent your confidence and trust in others big style. Try not to let it get you down. If it's something you love doing, then perhaps the other person is jealous and fears for their own job. If it's just a job then look at it as a means to an end, the end goal being whatever goal you set yourself. Besides, BAKERY???????? Do you get discount on cakes and fresh bread? :rotfl:

Bails - I stewed my apples supposedly for freezing but ended up turning them into apple sponge, which was yummy! They did need extra sugar and I mixed in a little cinnamon just for good measure, but they tasted lovely, even if they were a bit 'tart'. :rotfl:

TBeckett100

£4,000 a year, thats what i spend a month!

bails

Aah, hugs Slowlyfading! Good advice from Nyk. Sounds to me that you work as hard as you can so you have nothing to feel bad about, it's their iusse. It does hurt when someone shakes your confidence in other people like that. As for the crying, I do that in stressful situations sometimes, not because I'm upset but because I'm angry and can't show it. Don't worry about it, just your frustration finding an outlet. Big hugs xxx

bails

Are you joking TBeckett? :eek: You must have a well paid job!

Right peeps, which is more cost effective - getting a second small freezer for my veggies and more whoopsies, or not? My freezer is rammed.

Marru

nykmedia wrote: »

the other person is jealous and fears for their own job.

SF I saw your post and went away to think about it and this is exactly what I thought but Nyk beat me to it. Normally situations like this are raised by busybodies who know that they are no good at anything so they need to raise their own profile by putting other people down. You know you work hard so you can take your strength from that knowledge. It doesn't mean that it is not upsetting. Of course it is.

If it helps you I started crying once when one of our parners accused me for not wanting solutions and claimed that I was just bringing more problems to the table. It is a long story but it got sorted in the end.

To the other subject I am so going to be naughty tonight and go and buy some crisps and wine. I know it is not good for my weight loss challenge or my £4k challenge but just feel I need it. I sneaked upstairs to do some MB while DD was finishing her food and then the house just went quiet. Too quiet. Went downstairs to find DD fast asleep. I feel bad for having to wake her up but we really need to nip to the shops or else there will be no breakfast.

Take care all,

Marru

slowlyfading

nykmedia wrote: »

Sending hugs & moral support to Slowlyfading. Sounds like you need it, and it is not stupid to feel hurt when someone you think of as a friend stabs you in the back. It's natural and can dent your confidence and trust in others big style. Try not to let it get you down. If it's something you love doing, then perhaps the other person is jealous and fears for their own job. If it's just a job then look at it as a means to an end, the end goal being whatever goal you set yourself. Besides, BAKERY???????? Do you get discount on cakes and fresh bread? :rotfl:

Thanks Nyk, guess it was just one of those days! I do, I get 20% off :rotfl:

slowlyfading

bails wrote: »

Aah, hugs Slowlyfading! Good advice from Nyk. Sounds to me that you work as hard as you can so you have nothing to feel bad about, it's their iusse. It does hurt when someone shakes your confidence in other people like that. As for the crying, I do that in stressful situations sometimes, not because I'm upset but because I'm angry and can't show it. Don't worry about it, just your frustration finding an outlet. Big hugs xxx

Thanks, it just shows that you can never really trust anyone, anywhere.