Confessing my debt to my family
vyvyan_2
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I'm about to drive 100 miles to visit the folks and 'fess up.
Everyone knows something is 'up' and 'things have always been tight'
I am bricking it but I think it's got to be done I've kept it secret for so long but it's doing my head in
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Everyone knows something is 'up' and 'things have always been tight'
I am bricking it but I think it's got to be done I've kept it secret for so long but it's doing my head in
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If your family are like mine all you will get is support!
I know for a fact if they could they would bail me out - but I don't want that I am getting myself out of it and all I needed from them was some understanding and support which is what I have got
Good luck and let us know how you got onThe worst cliques are those which consist of one man ~ George Bernard Shaw
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youll be fine, im sure you will feel better when its off your chest, never know they may help you out!:)0
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Good luck xxx0
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I am honestly not looking for a bail out. It is not the answer. I couldn't accept that sort of help without feeling worse than I do now. Besides I know they can't afford it so it won't happen!
It's the understanding and support I desperately need, and to be able to share it. The risk is that it will become a worry for them too ~ different generation and all that.
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Good luck! I felt so much better when I told my mum and sister, however my mum is now so worried about me, whenever I see her she asks about it so be prepared to for tears and lots of questions.Debt-Free Wannabe / Long Haul Supporter 238 - Proud to be Dealing with my DebtsLBM Moment June 2010 DMP with CCCS Started August 2010Total Debt at LBM = £17,602.74 / Current Debt = £16,285.76 / Cleared = £1.316.98 (7.5%)0
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Good luck vyvyan. I'm sure everything will be fine!0
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Go and tell them but my view is do not borrow off them to get yourself out of this mess, get out of it yourself and you will not do it again , well that is hope anyway.But they are your family all stand together through good and bad and you will always have some one close to talk to .0
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Vyvyan, your family might be cross at first - not just because you have the debt, but also because you kept it from them for a while. They will more than likely offer you the support that you need, though. I hope that everything works out for you xx0
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Martin's advice seems very appropriate here:Many people hide their debts from friends and family or sometimes even themselves (by not opening statements or not totalling their liabilities). If that’s you, then it's time to come out of the closet. You can only sort your debts out if you know the scale of them. It may feel better not to know, but in the real world it makes things worse.
For those hiding debts from partner, spouses, family or loved ones...
Seek help, or work out an action plan first, so you're telling them about solutions, not just problems. It's easier to break the news if you can show you're determined to improve.
It’s much easier that way and remember; if you're prepared to take action the question isn't "will I ever get through this?", but "when will I be through this?"0 -
Hope it went well, as I think anyone in debt has had to do this with friends or family.
My dad always said to me, after a confession of a problem, 'a problem shared is a problem halved'.
He was right!PMA - Positive Mental Attitude
It works for me - you try it!0
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