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Old 05-12-2012, 11:21 AM
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Remember accidents...this morning I kept seeing spots of dried blood on carpets all over the house and I knew I had cut myslf shaving but thought it can't be that...It wasn't I had cut my big toe on something sharp without knowing amongst the rubbish, good job I had a thick thermal sock on as it had even cut through that!

Well that sock is now darned and my toe has a variety of plasters on it!

Later I will have to go around removing the blood spots on the carpets, they may need replacing but they don't need blood on them as well.
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Old 05-12-2012, 11:25 AM
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It's so icy here today, please everyone be careful when your out and about the roads and paths are very slippy. I'm not looking foward to driving at night tomorrow night and sat
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Old 05-12-2012, 11:31 AM
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It's just said the average family spends 435 a week

My dh brings home half that on flat weeks in spring and summer. He makes up for it around October to end of December when he does 12 hour days for 5-6 days a week. That is when I do any major purchasing and add to my storecupboard bulk stuff. We also get ctc and ch. benefit so that adds around an extra 60 a week. If we were renting I do not know how we could cope. Our mortgage payment is less than half what rents are here.

We are not the only ones. His wage is pretty much standard in this area.
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Iget so annoyed about this with work places, we have some places that are not putting the heating on for workers or have it so low people are cold even though I thought we had some ruling on that or they don't like their workers arriving with extra items like bags to put clothes/footwear in whilst on their premises even if what the worker is bringing in makes them safer or warmer in the kind of weather we have at present.

Some time ago on another thread there was the chance someone's buses/trains could be taken off because of the weather so to show willingness to the boss/company and not leave early or get home and not be able to come back in, they took some items so they could stay there. And he was told no way. It was not because of health and safety either.

I heard on the radio the other day that because of the cost of petrol and travel to/from work some people are sleeping in their cars.

Being a temp I really don't have much choice but got chinned earlier as yesterday due to numerous trains getting cancelled I chose to work from another office I could get to. If i'd continued onto the one I normally work from it would have menat tagging on at least an hour onto my usual finishing time. Factor in trains later run less frequently and I'd be looking at getting home over 2 hours later. There's only so much you can carry when taking public transport without looking or feeling like a pack horse which makes walking even worse when its snowing. I know in previous jobs I've had it relatively easy as I've been able to drive door to door. Here although I could do that the time it would take and the cost of fuel and parking far outweighs what is costs on the train.

..... oh and I'm keeping my feet as far as possible under the desk!
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Old 05-12-2012, 11:53 AM
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It's snowing hard here now and I am about to drive to the other side of Co Durham to a strange hospital, sorry, sounds daft ...I've not been there before. IYSWIM
Wellies torch etc are in the car and instead of going over the tops I am using the main roads. I hate waiting to go for appointments, it's like waiting for a delivery man, the day is so long.

I have kept myself busy by filling Christmas stockings and polishing my Christmas napkin rings. I have a really odd life!!

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Old 05-12-2012, 12:19 PM
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My dh brings home half that on flat weeks in spring and summer. He makes up for it around October to end of December when he does 12 hour days for 5-6 days a week. That is when I do any major purchasing and add to my storecupboard bulk stuff. We also get ctc and ch. benefit so that adds around an extra 60 a week. If we were renting I do not know how we could cope. Our mortgage payment is less than half what rents are here.

We are not the only ones. His wage is pretty much standard in this area.
It's worse...I looked at the story again and they say people spent an average of 483.60 a week and they are saying that what people have cut back on is the hiring of cleaners and gardeners(seriously how many of us have either)and not buying clothes.

But if that is what they say we spend what is the wage itself and what is left after spending that?
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They obviously only looked at the south then. I worked for a cleaning agency when I lived in the south. The pay was pretty good there and then I worked in a care home where the pay was good. When we moved up here I refused to even look at care jobs because the wages were half of what I had been earning and you were expected to do more work too especially on nights. It was slave labour. A friend here had to have three care jobs as well as her dh's wages just to get by.
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I have found the rat - thankfully it wasnt aimed at us it was to prevent me seeing something I shouldnt and telling the family concerned!! Turns out that one family believe they have a specialist placement with DS8 but it wasnt confirmed as definite due to a diagnostic delay - however new applicant with a more urgent need for the place has been approved so first child is back into mainstream after Christmas.

As for the incident they have agreed to increase staffing (which sort if says they know there is an issue) on the breaks - they had not factored in that with the group at capacity the staff were stretched. I will now monitor carefully what happens and will also make an effort to call past at breaks to check the staffing - one of the other dads is going to take turns with me.


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Old 05-12-2012, 1:02 PM
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No it's OK...it's HER OH, he does eat fish!!!!

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Ah a Piscaterian not a Vegetarian then , any how I hope the meal/s go well

A quick reminder to folks that if you get repeat prescriptions to think about getting them sorted for Christmas sooner rather than later
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Hi again everyone, and thanks for the welcomes! it's such a good idea to get organised regarding prescriptions - my kids take so many that I need to be super-organised about this.

I just had a letter from the foster support team telling me that they "would discourage" me from taking the kids to a carol concert/nativity play this year. I'm fuming, I'm not trying to force religion on them at all but they all enjoy singing carols. I'm not generally a stress bunny but we have to take DD3 to hospital on Monday and we'll learn more about the type of treatment that she'll have. I've been reading up on it (I know I shouldn't get ahead of myself) but my heart is breaking for her. Plus, DD2 is having a horrid time at school.
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I disappeared and had no idea that my post had successfully appeared because...there was a powercut here.

Rare but luckily I had a radio that had batteries in it so I had something to listen to(sadly it was only the budget statement)

But for all my OS skills that meant no hot drinks(I did not have the flask full of water)and no hot meals but if I had been hungry I could do salads, sandwiches etc...and eventually got the camping stove out but I decided to avoid opening and closing the fridge/freezer.

Thankfully it only lasted an hour...and not in the evening when it is dark, that's funny as I only use one light anyhow and could use candles/tealights and torches.
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PippyDee why don't they want you to take the kids to the carol concert/nativity? I used to enjoy the carols even though I was (and still am!) an out and out Pagan
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Old 05-12-2012, 1:33 PM
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Oh for goodness sake, surely showing acceptance of all forms of Christmas celebration is to be encouraged and is less likely to result in extremist views in later life if they have a basic understanding early on?????? A blinking nativity play missed out on means they are more likely to feel hard done by than grateful you are not bomabrding them with religion - clearly taking a kicking and screaming child in who doesn't want to be there is a different story.

I have just sorted the winter walking items storage out for staff - loads use public transport so we have to cater for them. And our winter bad weather transport problems strategy - put staff up in the Tr@velodge at the end of the road
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Oh for goodness sake, surely showing acceptance of all forms of Christmas celebration is to be encouraged and is less likely to result in extremist views in later life if they have a basic understanding early on?????? A blinking nativity play missed out on means they are more likely to feel hard done by than grateful you are not bomabrding them with religion - clearly taking a kicking and screaming child in who doesn't want to be there is a different story.

I have just sorted the winter walking items storage out for staff - loads use public transport so we have to cater for them. And our winter bad weather transport problems strategy - put staff up in the Tr@velodge at the end of the road
I agree and well done regarding the looking after of staff and it looks like you go the extra mile
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Hi Pippydee, thats a shame,children should get as many experiences in life as they can. My DGS is auty and nearly 3, his Mummy and Daddy took him on a speedboat recently ( at a handicapped centre) and he loved every minute of it, now if they had thought it was too dangerous he would never have had that experience.


Im so cold again today and have my primarni extra thick socks on - they are well worth the 2.50. Have to venture out in a minute but the walk will do me good.
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Hello everyone, welcome newbies and hugs to those who need them. Hope everyone is bearing up. Sorry been MIA last few days, will try and catch up later but lots to do nxt few days.

Today is a sad date for me, no-one else really thinks about it but I do. Don't need to explain further, just wanted someone to know if that makes sense? Been so busy that have felt ok for once, usually don't so maybe I can move onwards with that particular sadness which is positive.

Snow here this morn so crazy before school - kids excitable, txts from friends asking if school open (how would I especially know?), me listening to radio, checking radio website and trying to get through to school simulantaneously trying to find out!! Then got through to school - yes open at last minute, txting friends message and arriving at school by skin of our teeth as no roads gritted and traffic sloooow. Kids wore muddy wellies (from horse sanctuary at wkend) and DS1 didn;t pack his school shoes as asked - hope he has sense to wear his PE plimmys.

Crazy thing is our nearest school (which DS1 attended for his 1st year and thank goodness had the gut instinct/sense to change schools as going downhill rapidly now) which we could easily walk to is closed today. Our school which we have to drive to (well could walk but an hour in 'normal' weather) is open. I love the look of snow but am scared whatsitless of driving on it and don't get me started in ice. I will only drive when absolutely essential on ice.

Gave school mum friend lift to supermarket, got petrol as on red and we had a coffee, cake and chat in cafe (to warm up you understand!) -this is friend who upset me before and we are back in a firm footing again . Stocked up there and at 3 further supermarkets. Bags of stuff (store cupboard stuff) all over kitchen/hall and loo rolls littering living room (was down to last pack of 9 rolls) Breakfast detrious (sp?) and mud from snow/muddy wellies all over hall. Whole house a pigsty!

Gone from feeling totally unprepared to now having loo rolls, store stocks (though more odds yet to buy), cat litter and de-icing salt and a full tank of petrol. Feeling much better and in control.

Need to defrost both freezers Thurs/Fri and re-stock, buy lots of Xmas food/pressies, wrap and send/give, do Xmas cards, get tree and decorate, do other decs, help kids do their bits, lots of sewing jobs, clean and tidy whole house, let people know what boys want for Xmas and vice-versa with their sprogs, make social arrangements (and go!), apart from that nearly there And just volunteerd to escort kids to school carol concert, make *cakes for a charity teaparty attending on Sun and for both boys' school xmas parties.

* just typed kids instead of cakes! ha ha

And what am I doing amidst the mess? Drinking coffee, eating banana cake and typing this! Right off now to tidy up best I can pre school run and try and read others' posts later this eve.
Just need to get stripey boy cat off me first

take care, stay warm and safe, thinking of you all and wishing you all the good stuff today
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A heads up to let everyone know that Chocolate Oranges are Buy One, Get Two Free in Tesco until 11th December. DS2 is planning on buying our local one out of them, just to warn those of you near Leicester.
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Home again. No snow on lower levels so roads fine, but heavy snow falling here now. Only DD2 and SiL to come home so will be on tenterhooks till they get back. She has just phoned to say work is sending them home early

sq:- for your sad day.
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[QUOTE=Popperwell;57717839]Little things mean a lot...I said the other day I had not done the National Lottery for years and perhaps the money could be used elsewhere but at the minute(I'll regret saying this)I have been winning just enough to often keep it ticking over without buying with my money.

Recycling the winnings. Last week I won enough to almost pay for two weeks of the lottery and Euromillions and last night one of those tickets won enough for another week of tickets...

Hope it continues...

Well done Softstuff,

Well I do think it depends where you live in the country, where we live in the vicinity of the power station they are very well paid jobs there and I mean well paid.....................

Cleaners get 8 to 10 per hour, much the same as gardeners, jobs without qualifications at private houses, we do have some very expensive houses with large gardens where mostly the owners are retired.........Loads of people have 2 homes about here..............

Rents here are also high, seems hard to get rented places nin the villages......

But after todays budget where he said he is going to give HMRC 77 million to investigate tax dodgers, I wonder what will happen to cash paid people doing odd jobs........?

Its cold here today as it is in most areas, we have no snow, but we are in for a -4 tonight............
Ive been getting a bit of grub in for the store cupboard, mostly stuff what will get us through , like tinned stuff, etc, ive got plenty of coal, none of us know what the weather will throw at us this winter, so its good to try and be prepared........Keep warm sheila
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Pops, if I told you what our mortgage, body corp and various utility bills come to here on a tiny 1 bed unit you'd pass out
I'm prolly the only one stuggling but, please, what is body corp?

Pootling gently about as still feeling overtired and fragile. Have decided if staying up out to 9.30 pm and 10.30 pm and sober has trashed me so badly, there's no way I'm doing new year's eve out. Can't hack all this gadding about (OK, I was 5 mins' walk form home one night, and given a lift door to door on the other, but it's still OUT).

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