Pre nups

lulu_92 · 5 January 2015 at 1:33PM

Pollycat wrote: »

I remembered the OP (and his opinions of women) from an earlier thread:

Nice, eh?

I assure you that if I hadn't read that load of chauvinistic clap-trap from the OP, my reply in post # 2 would have been very different.

Maybe it's the OP whom you should be taking to task for his 'Victorian take' on women in the 21st Century.....

What a nice fellow.

SanguineSteve · 5 January 2015 at 1:35PM

Wow. That other quote is pretty 'choice'.

peachyprice · 5 January 2015 at 1:36PM

SanguineSteve wrote: »

Alimony is shockingly unfair and draconian. It's not fit for purpose in 2015 in my opinion.

I can't stand this "If this is something you're thinking about, then you shouldn't be getting married" It suggests that you should leave your brain on the aisle for the sake of luuurve. (Marriage is of itself, totally outdated too if you ask me... that's for another time though).

Almost half of all marriages fail for one reason or another. So, it's prudent to want to protect the assets you accrued before you met someone. Now that co-habiting couples are subject to almost the same 'rights' as married ones, I would see it fit that pre-nups become more common place.

We don't have alimony in the UK.

VestanPance · 5 January 2015 at 1:39PM

I've read and disagreed with many things on these forums, but the quote from the OP is the biggest !!!!!! I've ever read on here!

You do have to be careful of sex weapons though!

itsanne · 5 January 2015 at 1:39PM

Pollycat wrote: »

I remembered the OP (and his opinions of women) from an earlier thread:

Originally Posted by [simon]
Women:

As for women. In my opinion, Women are here to reproduce, not to work, not be more successful than a male, but to look after kids. The male does the work. The troubble is women are been given too much power, they now choose the male, they now have the money and work to be independent and leave the male. They also use sex as a weapon. This in all slows down reproduction. The women should stay at home.

I dont agree that women choose a male, the male should choose the women. And thats exactly what i do. A successful business women may not choose me, but i would not choose her for reasons i have mentioned above. The kind of women i choose are low on self confidence, don't have much a d wont have much, the kind of women who agrees the man takes control. They are less likley to leave also. I am happy to settle down with this type of women.

The buesiness women look nice yes, with there boots and skits ect, but i don't choose them for a relationship. At the end of the day they have to let their hair down, weekends in the clubs, when they have one too many and thats when you take advantage of the sort. And thats all thats needed to be fair. The ones that i settle with are ones who don't have an answer back. Its common phycology to be honest. So saying that a women wont look at me in my 30 / 40 years is a joke. I don't relay on them looking at me or wanting me, i take the ones who need me because they have nothing else. Win win.

The kind of friends i have and my social circle was mentioned. My social circle is make up of quiet, low self esteem people, i stand out with them, hence i attract girls that are also like that.

As for the car, i need the car at the moment, but when i get my own place i will probably ditch it. Or buy a ten year old run about.

Honesly the comments on extra income and jobs and training made me laugh. Some people must be working so,e right hours and then they moan because they pay too much tax !!! No body is forcing anyone to work ! If you decide to go to uni or other study and have it programmed in to you to work for other peoples benefit that is your own problem.

Just my opinions there.

Thank you for the replies and the help.

Nice, eh?

I assure you that if I hadn't read that load of chauvinistic clap-trap from the OP, my reply in post # 2 would have been very different.

Maybe it's the OP whom you should be taking to task for his 'Victorian take' on women in the 21st Century.....

Bloody hell, you weren't half restrained!

McCloud1 · 5 January 2015 at 1:39PM

Pollycat wrote: »

I remembered the OP (and his opinions of women) from an earlier thread:

Nice, eh?

I assure you that if I hadn't read that load of chauvinistic clap-trap from the OP, my reply in post # 2 would have been very different.

Maybe it's the OP whom you should be taking to task for his 'Victorian take' on women in the 21st Century.....

I was going to respond to your first post, thinking it unfair to use the comparison of the legally unenforceable, non-obligatory side of the deal of a home-maker to the very enforceable side of the deal of a bread-winner as a counter point to pre-nups.

However in context of having read the OP's other post, fair enough.

[simon] · 5 January 2015 at 3:10PM

Thank you all very much for the replyes. More than i expected to be honest.

Trust it to be a women who remembers and looks up my posts from the passed! Typical. Haha just joking.

Someone mentioned that when you marry you should be prepared to share everything. Lets be fair here, if my partner was moving in to my bought house, shes moving in to a better estate / community than she lived in previously, plus she getting a roof over her head and no monthly rent / mortgage to pay !! Now thats sharing. If for any reason the relationship breaks up, why should take whats rightly mine ??? Goals and ambishan are personal. i bought my own place as a goal for me, women also have the right to buy their own house too, if she has not done that, and chosen to live in a council estate or a rented property that is her own destiny. Why have rights to take whats mine ?? Just her moving in to a better estate and community is brining her up in the world, lets be honest.

Someone mentioned about a women doing all the chores in the home and looking after kids, so what ?? If shes not got a job consider that as working, most women do set their job titles on Facebook as house wife / full time mummy. If she is working, then again i don't see anything wrong with her doing house work and looking after kids, shes not got any rent or mortgage to pay, so shes actually financially better off than living alone. Nothing wrong with a women putting some money as side or saving up just in case the relationship breaks down, she can have a deposit ready to go back in to renting a property again.

Another thing is, and its right to bring this up here, usually break down of marriage is caused by lack of love making, caused by the women, fact. Lots of older men complain about this. Women also put on timber when they are comfortable which can alter a mans emotions , feelings towards her, even though she might have a great personality. However thanks to the run for life events, which women take very seriously, as well as been a great charity it also keeps a lot of women in shape which is great.

When you marry a women for better or for worse, its like when someone you may have care for becomes ill and the doctors tell you how hard its going to be to care for this person, people still go ahead with it, however when it comes to doing it, it starts to take it out on you and some people get very ill them selfs and realise thats sometimes its too difficult to do it all alone. Same as a marriage, you say you will stay with your partner even through the worse times, but when them worse times come you eventually look for a way out because it gets too hard. Its the same with anything. Sleeping with someone else is kind of like getting someone to help you to forget about the hard times, to give you enjoyment. Hence i beleive there is nothing wrong with changing your mined about a marriage, nothing wrong with doing what you feel is right at the time. Sometimes you feel in love and happy , other times you feel you need change. No one know what they will feel tomorrow or the next or next year.

Love is a feeling and feelings change. Property, assets and investments are what makes you who you are. Its silly to put all the things that makes you you on the line for which half of it can be demolished at anytime. Why build a tower where there is know to be a strong wind ??

Eventually your foundations will come loose and the tower will begin to fall down

Pre nups ... Yes !!!

Mojisola · 5 January 2015 at 3:18PM

[simon] wrote: »

Love is a feeling and feelings change. Property, assets and investments are what makes you who you are. Its silly to put all the things that makes you you on the line for which half of it can be demolished at anytime. Why build a tower where there is know to be a strong wind ??

Eventually your foundations will come loose and the tower will begin to fall down

So don't get married!

Cloudydaze · 5 January 2015 at 3:25PM

[simon] wrote: »

Women also put on timber when they are comfortable which can alter a mans emotions , feelings towards her, even though she might have a great personality

I'm guilty of this. I just can't resist putting on a bit of timber.

Poppops · 5 January 2015 at 3:34PM

OP I refuse to believe you have any idea of what love is at all. And your chauvanistic views are bordering criminal. I really hope you aren't in a position of responsibility with any women in your employ. If you are, I hope they at least pull you up on your grammar and spelling.

I wonder, if you married someone who was filthy rich, would your opinions be the same?

I would suggest you consider your question re pre-nuptual arrangements alongside your earlier comment that you prefer women with low self-esteem, who would let you control them and be less likely to leave.

Then when you've had time to consider, I would book yourself in to see a therapist. Unless you are 13 or 14, in which case I'm sure you'll grow up eventually.

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