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    • pushing40
    • By pushing40 5th Mar 18, 1:56 PM
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    Suspected affair - Tracking a mobile phone
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    Suspected affair - Tracking a mobile phone 5th Mar 18 at 1:56 PM
    Hello. I need some advice/information.

    I suspect my husband might be having an affair. Occasionally, he will go somewhere for the evening and tells me he's going out with a friend, but I suspect he's not.

    Is it possible to track his whereabouts based on his phone? He has an iphone. I did a quick google search and there are several companies that claim they can tell you the location of any mobile phone - for a fee. If I pay the fee, will I be able to see the location of his phone?

    I know there are various apps that enable this, but I believe (tell me if I'm wrong) that it would require him to install the app on his phone and authorise me to view his location.

    If he has "location" turned off on his phone (which I suspect he does have turned off) would these websites work, or are they a money making scam?
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    • Lioness Twinkletoes
    • By Lioness Twinkletoes 5th Mar 18, 1:58 PM
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    Have you considered actually talking to your husband before you spy on him?
    • pushing40
    • By pushing40 5th Mar 18, 2:00 PM
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    Have you considered actually talking to your husband before you spy on him?
    Originally posted by Lioness Twinkletoes
    I knew I'd get replies like this.

    He's hardly going to admit it is he? I'd rather have some evidence of his infidelity, rather than just a hunch, before I bring the subject up.
    • Comms69
    • By Comms69 5th Mar 18, 2:05 PM
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    • 5th Mar 18, 2:05 PM
    Hello. I need some advice/information.

    I suspect my husband might be having an affair. Occasionally, he will go somewhere for the evening and tells me he's going out with a friend, but I suspect he's not.

    Is it possible to track his whereabouts based on his phone? He has an iphone. I did a quick google search and there are several companies that claim they can tell you the location of any mobile phone - for a fee. If I pay the fee, will I be able to see the location of his phone?

    I know there are various apps that enable this, but I believe (tell me if I'm wrong) that it would require him to install the app on his phone and authorise me to view his location.

    If he has "location" turned off on his phone (which I suspect he does have turned off) would these websites work, or are they a money making scam?
    Originally posted by pushing40
    1: no they will be scamming you.
    2: it's possible using certain apps, but - Only if you want to go to prison.....
    • Comms69
    • By Comms69 5th Mar 18, 2:06 PM
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    • 5th Mar 18, 2:06 PM
    I knew I'd get replies like this.

    He's hardly going to admit it is he? I'd rather have some evidence of his infidelity, rather than just a hunch, before I bring the subject up.
    Originally posted by pushing40


    And knowing his location will give you what evidence exactly?
    • pushing40
    • By pushing40 5th Mar 18, 2:06 PM
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    1: no they will be scamming you.
    2: it's possible using certain apps, but - Only if you want to go to prison.....
    Originally posted by Comms69
    Thank you. That's what I thought.
    • pushing40
    • By pushing40 5th Mar 18, 2:07 PM
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    And knowing his location will give you what evidence exactly?
    Originally posted by Comms69
    That he's lying. If you've nothing to hide, why lie?
    • onlyroz
    • By onlyroz 5th Mar 18, 2:07 PM
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    You can track phones with the Find Friends app, which is built into iPhones by default. But yes, he'd have to agree to let you track him.


    I routinely track my husband and kids - it's very useful for when it comes to planning meal times, or when we go out for the day and get separated, e.g. the one who is doing the cooking can see how far from home the other one is and make a judgement on whether to put the pasta on yet.


    My mum also uses it to keep tabs on my dad, who has mild dementia.
    • Comms69
    • By Comms69 5th Mar 18, 2:10 PM
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    That he's lying. If you've nothing to hide, why lie?
    Originally posted by pushing40
    But it wouldn't if it showed a bar or a restaurant or a caf! or whatever.


    Look I don't know if he's having an affair or not, but if you question him every time he goes out (and you must to consider having a comparison address to track) then you will push him away for good.


    Does he hide his phone, where he previously didn't? Does he get dressed up where he previously wouldn't? Who do you think it is - you must have an idea.
    • pushing40
    • By pushing40 5th Mar 18, 2:11 PM
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    You can track phones with the Find Friends app, which is built into iPhones by default. But yes, he'd have to agree to let you track him.


    I routinely track my husband and kids - it's very useful for when it comes to planning meal times, or when we go out for the day and get separated, e.g. the one who is doing the cooking can see how far from home the other one is and make a judgement on whether to put the pasta on yet.


    My mum also uses it to keep tabs on my dad, who has mild dementia.
    Originally posted by onlyroz
    Yes, I've seen that I have that app on my phone - but I don't seem to be able to see details of anyone else on there. That's what made me assume that they must have to do something on THEIR phone for me to be able to see it on MY phone.
    • Oakdene
    • By Oakdene 5th Mar 18, 2:11 PM
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    Hello. I need some advice/information.

    I suspect my husband might be having an affair. Occasionally, he will go somewhere for the evening and tells me he's going out with a friend, but I suspect he's not.

    Is it possible to track his whereabouts based on his phone? He has an iphone. I did a quick google search and there are several companies that claim they can tell you the location of any mobile phone - for a fee. If I pay the fee, will I be able to see the location of his phone?

    I know there are various apps that enable this, but I believe (tell me if I'm wrong) that it would require him to install the app on his phone and authorise me to view his location.

    If he has "location" turned off on his phone (which I suspect he does have turned off) would these websites work, or are they a money making scam?
    Originally posted by pushing40
    What has made you suspect this?
    Hiraeth
    • pushing40
    • By pushing40 5th Mar 18, 2:12 PM
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    But it wouldn't if it showed a bar or a restaurant or a caf! or whatever.


    Look I don't know if he's having an affair or not, but if you question him every time he goes out (and you must to consider having a comparison address to track) then you will push him away for good.


    Does he hide his phone, where he previously didn't? Does he get dressed up where he previously wouldn't? Who do you think it is - you must have an idea.
    Originally posted by Comms69
    All of those things: secretive with his phone, (it's always on his person or turned off - never left lying around), he goes out more, he's unavailable when I try to ring him when out, he's distant with me and disinterested in doing things with me, constantly texting someone with a smile on his face, the list goes on really...
    • onlyroz
    • By onlyroz 5th Mar 18, 2:13 PM
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    Yes, I've seen that I have that app on my phone - but I don't seem to be able to see details of anyone else on there. That's what made me assume that they must have to do something on THEIR phone for me to be able to see it on MY phone.
    Originally posted by pushing40
    You have to mutually agree to be able to track each other. Personally I'm OK with my immediate family being able to see where I am, but I can see why some people (even those with nothing to hide) wouldn't be happy with it. For example I'd never let my mum track me because she's nosy and she wouldn't be able to help herself from constantly asking me why I was in place XYZ.
    • pushing40
    • By pushing40 5th Mar 18, 2:14 PM
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    What has made you suspect this?
    Originally posted by Oakdene
    I've never met this "friend". He has plenty of friends who I regularly meet and chat to. But this one is one that I couldn't possibly confirm whether or not he was with them.
    • cjdavies
    • By cjdavies 5th Mar 18, 2:16 PM
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    Have you considered actually talking to your husband before you spy on him?
    Originally posted by Lioness Twinkletoes

    Don't waste your time doing this, this will spin it around on you, evidence is key, and go with your gut instinct - personal experience.
    • pushing40
    • By pushing40 5th Mar 18, 2:17 PM
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    Don't waste your time doing this, this will spin it around on you, evidence is key, and go with your gut instinct - personal experience.
    Originally posted by cjdavies
    Exactly. My gut tells me something is wrong. I just need some evidence. But I can't follow him and just wondered if there was someway of tracking his phone without him knowing.
    • Comms69
    • By Comms69 5th Mar 18, 2:18 PM
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    All of those things: secretive with his phone, (it's always on his person or turned off - never left lying around), he goes out more, he's unavailable when I try to ring him when out, he's distant with me and disinterested in doing things with me, constantly texting someone with a smile on his face, the list goes on really...
    Originally posted by pushing40
    In which case it's time to talk.


    If he's having an affair, which presumably would end the relationship for you, he may well be open about it.
    • pushing40
    • By pushing40 5th Mar 18, 2:19 PM
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    In addition, I don't want him to know that I suspect something. Forewarned is forearmed. If he knows I'm onto him, he'll just get cleverer with his deceit.
    • keith969
    • By keith969 5th Mar 18, 2:22 PM
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    google 'gps tracker'.
    Heaven wasn't built in a day
    • pushing40
    • By pushing40 5th Mar 18, 2:23 PM
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    google 'gps tracker'.
    Originally posted by keith969
    And do what with it? Put it in his car?
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