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    • forgotmyname
    • By forgotmyname 22nd Dec 16, 6:19 AM
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    Alternative to friendsreunited?
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    • 22nd Dec 16, 6:19 AM
    Alternative to friendsreunited? 22nd Dec 16 at 6:19 AM
    Are there any RriendsReunited UK style websites anymore?

    Trying to track some old schoolmates that were listed on there, but now its all gone. Where to turn?

    Obviously not fans of facebook or have private profiles that cannot be searched.

    Anywhere else?

    Thanks
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    • EssexExile
    • By EssexExile 22nd Dec 16, 9:57 AM
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    • #2
    • 22nd Dec 16, 9:57 AM
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    • 22nd Dec 16, 9:57 AM
    Have you tried LinkedIn?
    Tall, dark & handsome. Well two out of three ain't bad.
    • agrinnall
    • By agrinnall 22nd Dec 16, 11:52 AM
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    • #3
    • 22nd Dec 16, 11:52 AM
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    • 22nd Dec 16, 11:52 AM
    Perhaps they don't want to be found by somebody who they have not kept in touch with.
    • forgotmyname
    • By forgotmyname 22nd Dec 16, 12:28 PM
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    • #4
    • 22nd Dec 16, 12:28 PM
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    • 22nd Dec 16, 12:28 PM
    Perhaps they don't want to be found by somebody who they have not kept in touch with.
    Originally posted by agrinnall
    If that were the case why would they contact me on friendsreunited?

    Not everyone wants to share buying a tin of beans at the supermaket with strangers you know. Only created the facebook account to see if i could trace some, and i have now deactivated it again.

    I would not give facebook my real details.

    Found some on LinkedIn already and some on whitepages. A few have required some stalker strategy, of kids likely to be living in the same area.

    Googling their names and having just 2 years to choose from as their year of birth has narrowed some down also.

    Just a couple left that had friendsreunited accounts that had no other online presence.

    Same with some old work colleagues also, and that was in the IT field, no facebook accounts.
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    • agrinnall
    • By agrinnall 22nd Dec 16, 3:58 PM
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    • 22nd Dec 16, 3:58 PM
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    • 22nd Dec 16, 3:58 PM
    If that were the case why would they contact me on friendsreunited?
    Originally posted by forgotmyname
    There's nothing in your OP to suggest that they did try to contact you on friendsreunited. And if they did, why didn't you get some alternative contact details from them at the time?
    • forgotmyname
    • By forgotmyname 22nd Dec 16, 9:36 PM
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    • 22nd Dec 16, 9:36 PM
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    • 22nd Dec 16, 9:36 PM
    Because life happens and people move around. Why do you think i wanted an alternative to FR?

    With facebook i got tons and tons of friend requests from total strangers and often people not even living in the UK..

    Adding friends for the sake of it. Not real friends, which is where FR had the edge, but like most i had not checked the site for some time and lost contact info.
    Last edited by forgotmyname; 22-12-2016 at 9:40 PM.
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    • Moneyineptitude
    • By Moneyineptitude 23rd Dec 16, 12:07 AM
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    • 23rd Dec 16, 12:07 AM
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    • 23rd Dec 16, 12:07 AM
    The advent of true social media rather killed websites like Friends Reunited.

    I'm struggling to understand why you were "inundated" with spammy Friend requests on Facebook? Did you start a Facebook page or a Facebook profile?
    • Reckless Saving
    • By Reckless Saving 23rd Dec 16, 1:43 PM
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    • #8
    • 23rd Dec 16, 1:43 PM
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    • 23rd Dec 16, 1:43 PM
    Facebook has replaced friendsreunited, people don't necessarily friend everyone from the past, for many someone has created a group for old school, workplace etc... which people who are interested join. I've never had a problem with in wanted friend requests, perfectly manageable who you want to accept.
    • Farway
    • By Farway 23rd Dec 16, 2:48 PM
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    • #9
    • 23rd Dec 16, 2:48 PM
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    • 23rd Dec 16, 2:48 PM
    Facebook has replaced friendsreunited, people don't necessarily friend everyone from the past, for many someone has created a group for old school, workplace etc... which people who are interested join. I've never had a problem with in wanted friend requests, perfectly manageable who you want to accept.
    Originally posted by Reckless Saving
    The group thing in FB works, I am member of few groups, old schools etc. If set up correctly joining is "apply to group owner only" so not open to any old tom, richard or harriet

    try FB, but search for your old school name or town and see what pops up

    I limit my FB to friends only, and have unticked / excluded friends of friends so do not get any requests, but that could be grumpy old "Farway no mates" of course
    Last edited by Farway; 23-12-2016 at 2:50 PM. Reason: typo
    • forgotmyname
    • By forgotmyname 23rd Dec 16, 2:56 PM
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    I have created a FB account and searched out some names i remember and sent friend requests. Not many from the people in my year though.

    Quite a few from 2 years below though. Some older people that went to the school a long time before me. I may end up creating a website. Nobody else seems to have done it.

    Doesnt help that the school closed 12 years after i left so info is a little scarce.

    Do you not get friend requests from total strangers on FB? Is it just me? I got all sorts from all over the world.

    Seems like some people just want to have the longest list of friends even though they do not know you.

    I thought about the friends only and public and thought just friends may block anyone who doesnt really use facebook to share. So its public and searchable outside FB..
    Last edited by forgotmyname; 23-12-2016 at 2:59 PM.
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    • EssexExile
    • By EssexExile 23rd Dec 16, 4:02 PM
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    Do you not get friend requests from total strangers on FB? Is it just me? I got all sorts from all over the world.
    Originally posted by forgotmyname
    A couple a year. I only ever responded to one & she turned out to be a great FB friend.
    Tall, dark & handsome. Well two out of three ain't bad.
    • forgotmyname
    • By forgotmyname 23rd Dec 16, 5:37 PM
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    Because im looking at creating a year by year student list, i dont know who did and didnt goto the school in question so i need it public really.

    I guess i will have to weed them out later on. Some maybe just nosey to see who went to which school i guess.
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    • Moneyineptitude
    • By Moneyineptitude 23rd Dec 16, 11:15 PM
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    Do you not get friend requests from total strangers on FB? Is it just me? I got all sorts from all over the world.
    Originally posted by forgotmyname
    Generally spammers, you just click on "decline friend request" and you never hear from them again. Absolutely no need to close your Facebook account.

    Also an idea not to reply to public posts where hundreds (or even thousands) have already responded...
    • forgotmyname
    • By forgotmyname 2nd Jan 17, 8:44 AM
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    Well its going well, almost everyone in my class has been named and a few have got in touch and some know others who still live local to the area.
    A couple of disagreements on who is who.. The one on the left is XX not thats YY. No its def XX.... Amazing how quickly your memory fades.
    I may start a page now with all the other classes in my year and then other years.
    For some odd reason my year appear to be shy of the internet.

    Over 100 friends already, but a couple more from Australia and a few that i think are spammers but not checked yet. A couple I have not clicked accept request yet because i think they wanted to get some spam in before xmas.

    Let them wait it out for a few days.
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    • ballyblack
    • By ballyblack 14th Apr 18, 8:30 PM
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    saw this recently
    http://www.classmates.co.uk/
    • Broadwave
    • By Broadwave 11th Aug 18, 3:11 AM
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    An alternative has been setup at schoolmates.co.uk

    Free to join - everyone welcome
    • forgotmyname
    • By forgotmyname 11th Aug 18, 7:59 AM
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    Thanks Broadwave only 18 month too late. I will warn everyone that your site needs to spam other sites so one to avoid.

    If you were not in tunnel vision of spam mode, you may have read post 14 where I found a lot of school chums. Since them its really taken off and using my facebook account they have also been in contact with old friends.

    Just a couple that I have not found and a couple of faces in the class photo i cannot put a name to.
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    • custardy
    • By custardy 11th Aug 18, 9:48 AM
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    Because life happens and people move around. Why do you think i wanted an alternative to FR?

    With facebook i got tons and tons of friend requests from total strangers and often people not even living in the UK..

    Adding friends for the sake of it. Not real friends, which is where FR had the edge, but like most i had not checked the site for some time and lost contact info.
    Originally posted by forgotmyname
    Really? With a fake profile.
    I get maybe a few fake requests a year.
    What if these people are looking for you,why wouldnt you put your real name to help them?
    • Neil Jones
    • By Neil Jones 11th Aug 18, 10:47 AM
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    Really? With a fake profile.
    I get maybe a few fake requests a year.
    What if these people are looking for you,why wouldnt you put your real name to help them?
    Originally posted by custardy
    I have an abject feeling some people don't quite "get" how Facebook works. And you can change whether you want to be found in your Facebook privacy settings in any case.

    And most importantly there is absolutely no obligation in any way shape or form to approve or even acknowledge a friend request, you can just ignore them.

    People with thousands of friends on Facebook probably accumulate them from work, friends, school, families, birthday parties, marriages, funerals, other social events and pub crawls. If they even talk to 10% of that figure they're doing well. I have 82 friends on my list. I only ever typically interact with about six of them...
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