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  • DUTR
    DUTR Posts: 12,958 Forumite
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    Rasharoon wrote: »
    Hi
    Just after some thoughts please.
    I have a 19 year old Son who lives with his Dad and Step Mum in a 2 bedroomed rented flat.
    His wife has a Daughter who is about 22 and has just come back from travelling.
    They are having to share a bedroom- separate beds and my Son is ok with this.
    I feel very unsure about this situation but can’t speak to the Dad as our relationship is non existent.
    Am I just being silly. I don’t think for a second anything is going on but privacy etc. In my min - just doesn’t sit right.
    Thanks

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  • Tabbytabitha
    Tabbytabitha Posts: 4,684 Forumite
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    DUTR wrote: »
    Are you paying your CMS contribution though?

    For a 19 year old?
  • DUTR
    DUTR Posts: 12,958 Forumite
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    Tabbytabitha wrote: »
    For a 19 year old?

    Yep, it can be paid up until the 20th birthday nowadays. If the QC is still in non advanced education full time.
  • silvercar
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    Pollycat wrote: »
    As you say your son is OK with the arrangement, I can't see your problem.

    If he'd told you that he wasn't happy about sharing this room, I could understand your question.

    Maybe he can't admit to being unhappy with the living arrangements as he doesn't want to be the cause of an argument between Mum and Dad.
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  • frugalmacdugal
    frugalmacdugal Posts: 10,077 Forumite
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    Hi,

    if he was staying with you and wanted his 22 year old girlfriend to 'sleep over', in room with separate beds, would you allow that?
  • barbarawright
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    If we all said it was inappropriate (and frankly, I would hate it if I was either of them), what would you do about it?
  • Pollycat
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    silvercar wrote: »
    Maybe he can't admit to being unhappy with the living arrangements as he doesn't want to be the cause of an argument between Mum and Dad.
    Or maybe he's just telling the truth and really is OK with the arrangements......

    If the OP suspected he wasn't happy, she's probably have said 'he says he's OK but I know he's not'.

    And she says
    Rasharoon wrote: »
    Am I just being silly. I don’t think for a second anything is going on but privacy etc. In my min - just doesn’t sit right.
    Thanks
    I guess she means 'mind' so to me at least it sounds like the issue is in the OP's head.
  • hazyjo
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    Yet another strange question for a newbie (let's hope they don't trip over the Ugg Boots LOL).


    If real - as above, what is the issue?! I have no idea what you're asking. My friend was in a relationship with her step-brother for a while. It's not illegal. If they're not in a relationship, then I'm not sure what it's got to do with anyone else if the two of them are okay with it.
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  • PasturesNew
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    It depends on the people and family dynamics. On its own, then so long as they don't mind sharing, then that's fine.

    Either of them have the option of sleeping on the sofa in the living room, so they must have chosen this arrangement over that for whatever reason.

    For the record, in my family tree I have a couple where the parents met/married and each of them had a child they brought into the marriage - and those children married.
  • JayJay100
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    I get it; as a parent it just doesn't 'feel' right. When you're bringing children up, you're expected to provide separate rooms for different sexes, as soon as you realistically can, and this, in a way, goes against that.

    The reality is that they're both adults, and it's up to them how they handle this. It could just be a short term fix, or they've decided to give it a go, and see if it works. I'm pretty sure that one could sleep in the lounge if it didn't work out.
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