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Hi
Just after some thoughts please.
I have a 19 year old Son who lives with his Dad and Step Mum in a 2 bedroomed rented flat.
His wife has a Daughter who is about 22 and has just come back from travelling.
They are having to share a bedroom- separate beds and my Son is ok with this.
I feel very unsure about this situation but can’t speak to the Dad as our relationship is non existent.
Am I just being silly. I don’t think for a second anything is going on but privacy etc. In my min - just doesn’t sit right.
Thanks
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  • Comms69
    Comms69 Posts: 14,229 Forumite
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    Well they're both adults so I don't really think you have a say on it - to be frank.
  • gonzo127
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    Rasharoon wrote: »
    Hi
    Just after some thoughts please.
    I have a 19 year old Son who lives with his Dad and Step Mum in a 2 bedroomed rented flat.
    His wife has a Daughter who is about 22 and has just come back from travelling.
    They are having to share a bedroom- separate beds and my Son is ok with this.
    I feel very unsure about this situation but can’t speak to the Dad as our relationship is non existent.
    Am I just being silly. I don’t think for a second anything is going on but privacy etc. In my min - just doesn’t sit right.
    Thanks

    not being funny, but they are all adults, so im sure they can decide for themselves what is ok and what isnt.

    and unless i am reading this totally wrong, the daughter is not a blood relative to your son, so even something does 'go on' taking into account once again that they are both adults, there really isnt anything wrong with things. although could make your sons dad and wife feel a little awkward haha
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  • martinsurrey
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    Rasharoon wrote: »
    Hi
    Just after some thoughts please.
    I have a 19 year old Son who lives with his Dad and Step Mum in a 2 bedroomed rented flat.
    His wife has a Daughter who is about 22 and has just come back from travelling.
    They are having to share a bedroom- separate beds and my Son is ok with this.
    I feel very unsure about this situation but can’t speak to the Dad as our relationship is non existent.
    Am I just being silly. I don’t think for a second anything is going on but privacy etc. In my min - just doesn’t sit right.
    Thanks

    can I get this right,

    An adult is living with 2 other Adults, and a 4th Adult is going to share a room with the first Adult.

    You, a 5th adult, wants our "internet adults" opinion?

    Why are you unsure?
  • silvercar
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    martinsurrey wrote: »
    can I get this right,

    An adult is living with 2 other Adults, and a 4th Adult is going to share a room with the first Adult.

    You, a 5th adult, wants our "internet adults" opinion?

    Why are you unsure?

    As her son loses the privacy of having a bedroom to himself and is forced to share. Not only share but to share with a slightly older female. AWKWARD.
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  • Pollycat
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    As you say your son is OK with the arrangement, I can't see your problem.

    If he'd told you that he wasn't happy about sharing this room, I could understand your question.
  • lewishardwick
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    He may very well be OK with it... ;)
  • Ronaldo_Mconaldo
    Ronaldo_Mconaldo Posts: 5,197 Forumite
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    lewishardwick wrote: »
    He may very well be OK with it... ;)

    I’d be more than OK with it if I were him
  • peachyprice
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    silvercar wrote: »
    As her son loses the privacy of having a bedroom to himself and is forced to share. Not only share but to share with a slightly older female. AWKWARD.

    Her son is an adult though and according to OP, is fine with the situation. It's not for OP to interfere with the living arrangements of 4 adults.
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  • martinbuckley
    martinbuckley Posts: 1,713 Forumite
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    Why don't you offer your son a room at your place?
  • Spendless
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    What do you want them to do though? If all they can afford is a 2 bed place, then there's not much option. Unless you are going to offer to pay the rent on a 3 bed for them, or pay for your son or the daughter to move into a bedsit? You could tell your son if he doesn't feel comfortable with the situation he can move back in with you instead.
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