A bit worried

Can you get your sister or a friend to stay at yours for a few days until you can get back? No way would I be leaving her alone in your home.

The kid is NOT YOURS. It's also NOT your problem. Take emergency leave, get home and "help" her pack her bags - order her a cab and send her on her merry way.

There doesn't have to be a confrontation - if she has no legal right to the flat she needs to get out - police can be called to prevent a 'breach of the peace' if you really can't get rid of her but stop texting her and telling her to leave - perhaps apologise for it etc... calm her down a bit and start plotting how to do this properly...

When you get home!!!

busbyboy wrote: »

Thanks. Good advice. I will do exactly as you say. I already stopped a text exchange. I will go home Wednesday night and (if she hasn't gone) ask her to leave face to face. Her friend has offered her a place to stay but she has refused on the basis 'then he gets what he wants'. If she is there when I get back can I call a copper to come and be present when I tell her ? I think even the threat of that would see her take her friends offer up sharpish and worry that if I leave it till I really need one it could be too late

I'm guessing, reading in between the lines, you are a bit frightened of her. If that's the case go home with a friend or family member and catch her unawares. If not wait until she goes out and then change the locks and leave a not on the door. If she breaks in then call the police.

busbyboy wrote: »

Not scared of her as such but she can be a bit rash especially after a glass of wine and I just don't want any confrontation whatsover because my job relies on security clearance and I am 6ft and 14 stone and she if 5 foot 3 and 8 stone....whose side of the story would you believe if you were the attending officer especially if there was an upset little kid cuddling their mummy ?

Don't be alone when you talk to her - have a witness on hand.

It wouldn't do any harm to record what happens in case she makes claims later on.

Yes have someone there with you for definite. I understand what you mean about how it might look and that you need to stay "clean" for work - even allegations can be harmful even if you are innocent so yes have someone on hand..

If she kicks off police can be called to stand by and basically "prevent a breach of peace" they will never get involved in physically removing her... if no family members are present you could call the fuzz but this would be last on their list of priorities if you know what I mean..

Placate her... tell her to come back on Monday if needs be... as soon as her car leaves get the locksmith in and text her the following day telling her to pick up her items on the weekend with a pre-arranged appt with police or she has to wait for an independent party to attend as well and leave it at that - don't go putting her stuff outside though for her, any idea of damage by rain or theft by accident leaves you liable.

Do not let her back in the house to get her things - have them packed and ready to go for her...;-)

And yes good luck!!