A bit worried

busbyboy

Hi...long time browser, first time poster. I hoped maybe someone could confirm or allay my fears. My ex girlfriend moved in with me about 9 months ago bringing her little girl with her. Long story short she had become a nightmare to live with, wont really work as all jobs seem below her and just moves from one pie in the sky get rich scheme to another while I just plod on paying my mortgage and bills. Fair does she did buy the majority of the food but I work away all week and block bought for the freezer.

Anyway she drinks a fair bit and the weekend before last after another drunken scene I told her that I didn't want to be in a relationship with her anymore but she could stay in my house until she was all sorted. Her parents have rented her a place but it won't be ready for a month...things are a big awkward when I am back at the weekend but I just gritted my teeth or went out.

The reason for the post is that I overheard her on the phone to a lawyer friend of hers yesterday asking about any legal ways she could make me suffer. I honestly dont deserve to suffer and if it wasn't for her little girl I would have asked her to leave the house there and then. I just don't want to get home one weekend for a legal surprise...and she does have friends and family she could stay with until her rental was ready. I just don't know what to do for the best or if I am at some kind of legal risk.

Thanks in advance for any help or thoughts

Heffi1

I would ask her to leave immediately and stay with her family and then I would change the locks before she clears the house out while you are away.

CH27

Are you still at home?
Tell her to leave at once & change all the locks immediately.

busbyboy

Thanks for the advice. I am really considering it but as I am working away all week she has 4 days to 'do something'. Do you think I need to send a text or email as a record that I asked her to leave and hope she has gone before I get back ? Just not sure I can risk sitting back and waiting in case she does do something

bagpussbear

I would also give her marching orders now.

In your shoes, I would take a couple of days emergency leave, go home and just say you overheard the conversation, and you want her out tomorrow. If there are friends and family then I am sure the little girl will be ok, and she can make phonecalls tonight to family to arrange to stay over at someone elses.

She isn't your responsibility. Don't be walked over.

And agree with others, change the locks!

busbyboy

Thanks. Its sounding unanimous and I am starting to panic a little.

Can't go home before Wednesday but was thinking if I send her a text first then she might just go before I get there...I can ask my sister to get the keys off her. I have no idea what advice her friend gave her or if there is anything she could do but I worry that if she goes beserk when I tell her face to face anything she does would be my word against hers.

BitterAndTwisted

Only bloody fool would give her her marching order by text-message or email when they're miles away from home for several days!

OP: wait until you've finished work for the week and tell her face-to-face. Then you can help her pack her stuff and lock her out.

In the meantime, if you get the chance between now and the weekend, have a look in somewhere like B&Q and find a replacement BARREL for the front and back door locks. It's fairly straightforward and should take you only about five minutes with a screwdriver.

You're not married and she doesn't have any way of "screwing you legally", so don't worry about any of that. She might be willing to try and waste your time with a few pointless letters but that's all it could be.

BitterAndTwisted

busbyboy wrote: »

was thinking if I send her a text first then she might just go before I get there..

No, she probably won't but giving her advanced notice might give her the opportunity to trash your home and steal your stuff. Or worse.

DON'T DO IT!

Heffi1

I would wait until you can see her face to face and then she will not have the opportunity of two days with you not there, to clear the house out, if you warn her it gives her time to do something stupid.

If you can't get home before Wednesday, then leave it until then, and ask your sister to keep an eye on the place for you til you get back.

stebiz

I'm agreeing with BitterandTwisted twice in the same thread. Something's wrong. Good Luck OP.

meritaten

I agree too - this woman is likely to trash the place, steal all your stuff or let squatters in. don't give her any warning, but tell her face to face to get out NOW. and stay put and help her pack once she has a place for her and her little girl to stay.