some advice please!

kronas

so here is the situation, family member is being disruptive, behaving like a child, playing mind games, and is acting like your enemy in your own household, trying to be controlling etc, hes an adult! so father wants him out, as do i, so does everyone else, hes out on probation for incidents relating to this, my father is ill, so he cant be physical with him etc, where do you turn to, will the police turf him out at my father's request ?

Sagaris

Well the police will certainly turn up if you report a 'disturbance' if he starts anything - but as for turfing him out, I have no idea. I'm sure someone more knowledgeable will be along with some proper advice soon.

purplesmiler82

If he is on probation would it be something that you could talk to his probation officer about???

Have never had any experience of this just posing the question to see if it is an option

CB1979_2

get his stuff, put it outside change the locks and have the police on speed dial for when he eventually comes home.

if not tell his probation officer that he will no longer be living there, they will no doubt have to rehouse him.

Savvy_Sue

If he's on probation, then probation need to know where he's living, and it may be a condition that you're living at a particular address. So talking to the probation officer would be useful, making it clear that he CANNOT continue to stay there rather than 'we'd rather he didn't'.

Also if he's in breach of the conditions attached to his probation, tell the probation officer.

Paparika

I work in probation

You need to talk to his probation officer, he maybe on licence, or have bail conditions.

be aware that your actions of wanting him out of the home could put him in prison (depending on his bail / licence conditions)

But his behaviour is something to discuss with his PO, it is something he can work with him on.

Again depending on bail / licence requirements, his PO might be able to find alternative accommodation.