advice about finding out if divorce is the truth

dithedancer

how do i go about finding out if my boyfriend is really divorced. i dont want to keep pestering him for the decree absolute as he says he cant find it and i have to take him at his word but he asked me to marry him and i have to protect my assets and kids. his ex girlfriend says that he his married but is it just sour grapes with her.if we argue and i throw him out he goes to his so called ex wife till he can find somewhere else to stay. i cant keep going on with these doubts so what should i do.

floss2

Well, when you go to the registrar to arrange your wedding, he will have to produce evidence of who he is.....and if he is divorced, he has to produce his decree absolut.

Maybe you could set a date & go to the Registrar's to pencil in the day?

frugallass

Does he have wedding photos, video, cards from the marriage etc?

Can't you ask his family or friends?

CB1979_2

to be honest your biggest problem seems to be why you argue, then proceed to chuck him out, then for him to go back to an ex.

sod the fact whether he is divorced or not!

skylight

http://www.direct.gov.uk/en/Hl1/Help/YourQuestions/DG_10013295

But I understand that they would charge a fee and not sure if they will give you one as you were not the one divorced. (Data protection etc...)

ameliarate

CB1979 wrote: »

to be honest your biggest problem seems to be why you argue, then proceed to chuck him out, then for him to go back to an ex.

sod the fact whether he is divorced or not!

I would agree with this. Ex-wife involved, ex-girlfriend hanging about, arguments, chucking him out - doesn't sound very stable to me. I wouldn't worry too much about the divorce, I think you should concentrate on seeing whether this relationship is actually going somewhere.

Sorry if that sounds a bit harsh.