New dad- money advice for nearly parents

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BaritoneUK wrote: »

Thanks so much for all your help. All very helpful stuff. I am trying to sort out our life assurance this week- I really do need to sort that one out. It's all horrible and scary!

I think we will go for reusable nappies, but perhaps not in the first week or two. My wife and I care passionately about the environment and I just couldn't add to the massive pile of disposable nappies that end up in landfills (not that I am judging people who use them- we all have to make our own decisions)

We're very blessed in that my sister-in-law is handing us lots of stuff down- but we do need to get a pram. Don't know where to start with that- but my wife seems to have some ideas.

One other thing- has anyone got any tips for dads? I just don't have a clue about how I can be there for my wife. I don't know how I'll cope seeing her in pain- but I really want to be there for her and be as helpful as I can.

From what I have heard, reusable nappies are not that much trouble, once you get used to them - and if you've never known anything else then why not!

We haven't really got a pram - we have a pushchair which is supposed to be suitable from birth but doesn't lie flat so I am making some slings to get us through the first 3 months or so.

Tips for Dads - for the birth, try to go along to all the ante-natal classes you can and just get yourself prepared because although you will feel helpless, it would be a lot worse if you were completely shocked by what it happening. Remember birth is really not like it is on TV! Just keep offering her loads of reassurance that she can do it and you are proud of her and she's doing really well (even if you're not sure whether she is!) The midwives will be on hand to check for any medical issues, so don't worry about that, worry about how she is coping.

After the birth, look after her and the baby. If she's breastfeeding you won't be able to help with that but you could take one of the jobs as "yours" e.g. bathtime, which gives her a rest and you a chance to bond with the baby.

HTH