Dealing with someone else's depression

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Mips

My hubby can be like that at times, I remember we were in bed one night a year or so ago and he told me he felt like killing himself and the only reason he didn't is because he couldn't bear to leave our baby daughter.

I was speechless. I literally couldn't speak for quite some time.

When I did, I just said he had better do it now then before she realises she has lost a Daddy :eek: - and I didn't put it as nicely as that.

I was furious.

I see where you are coming from, depression can come across as very selfish but then you can't understand the pain they are going through.

Tough situation.

ailuro2

Was depressed because of my S.A.D. a couple of winters ago, and I can seriously say my DH was wonderful throughout even when I was at my worst.I have also had PND quite a few years ago now..

It's a dreadfully dark place to be, and it's just as important as taking the medication to have the support of those around you to hold you when you need to cry, and to try to keep your spirits up when you're struggling to make it through.

I just wrote another post where I told the person I always tried to look on the bright side, to find a silver lining in every cloud. Sometimes that attitude just can't get you through it and you need medication to help.
Even though I ended up on anti depressants my silver lining is I know now what a wonderful husband I have, because he helped me through my depression. I'm sure it was tough for him too, not telling me to pull myself together, but he never did, he was there for me.

If you can be a real friend to the person who is suffering depression, and encourage them when they are down and manage to ignore the more awful behaviour, then I'm sure you'll have a partner/friend for life when they've come through this..