Bitten 3 times now

mrcow

Bitten wrote: »

I have no guilt either i stand by my decision - the nursery was the best and i doubt there is a nursery out there without a problem of some kind,

I disagree. The nursery sounds very far from the best!

If you are choosing to keep your child in there, then at least be honest about your reasons. You have already stated that they are not providing adequate care....and almost every poster here has agreed with you. If that's how you feel, leaving your child there without appropriate supervision is a mistake and you owe it to them as a parent to look into alternatives.

affordmylife

i just wanted to add that i dont think it is normal or acceptable at all.

i have three children who have all been through toddler groups and playschool and nursery school (although never paid nursery care as that is not for me) and there has never been a biting incident of any kind.

i have also been a childminder of under five and school children and never had an incident.

is it one child doing the biting or a general problem. i realise that they are not going to tell you who but will they tell you if it is one child?

that childs parents should be notified that there is a problem and that child should be excluded in order that the remaining children can have a happy time at nursery.

i hope you manage to sort this out soon.

sticher

Have to agree that I don't think its normal or acceptable either. The parents of the child doing the biting should have been made aware the very first time it occurred!

OP says that the nursery is now starting to watch to see if the child biting needs an earlier nap, etc - that should already have been happening since the first bite!

I certainly would not want my child to go anywhere where they are likely to get hurt (I did in fact stop my eldest visiting a friend when her son kept biting him), and if I were the OP I would want much more definite action to stop it happening again.

magic57

Hi sorry to hear your child has been bitten. I have worked in a school for many years and have seen this sort of thing lots of times. I've also been bitten and kicked by children. I agree that having a child there who is a biter doesn't necessarily make the nursery a bad one. Unfortunately there are a lot of kids who have behavioural problems and it is not until something like this happens that they get professional help. Is the nursery seeking any help with the problem child do you know? Could he be autistic? Not that all autistic children bite of course but I know of many that do out of frustration when they cannot express themselves properly.

It's horrible when your child gets hurt so I hope you can get it sorted out. Good luck.

chivers1977

My son is at day nursery and will be three next week. For the last year there has been one child who is one of my son's best friends and I drive his mum from work every day who is a biter. The nursery have done loads of work with him to try to resolve it and it appears that it is just age that it working for him. He is more able to communicate now and therefore can express himself in another way than biting. I am perfectly happy with our nursery but have to accept that children are children. My son is a spitter - which in my opinion is much more of a health hazard. I feel that sometimes people are too quick to criticise the nursery. You do not know what work is going on behind the scenes with the parents and child due to DPA concerns.

LifeisEvenbetter

Hi Bitten, sorry to hear about what is happening. I agree with many others who have posted advice. I think you should contact Ofsted (on their helpline) for some advice. I would also contact your local Early Years Childcare Dept at your Local Authority. Someone will go in to advise this Nursery on all sorts of issues and this could be an area they need support with.

Many children go through a biting stage. However your Nursery MUST be correctly staffed with staff who are appropriately trained. They might also need to look at the rules for the children in this room - maybe those need to be reinforced. They should have a named Behaviour Coordinator and a behaviour policy - as about this.

Hope that helps.

kitchpoo

pickle wrote: »

My daughter has been at nursery for a year and nothing like this has happened. I would be concerned especially if the skin is broken as the biting child may have a disease which could be transmitted in this manner. I would think it was a health and safety issue.

I was about to say the same thing...my son has been at the same nursery for a year and a half...he has never been bitten or hurt by any other child. I am totally happy with his nursery in all respects.

Carmina_Piranha_3

affordmylife wrote: »

is it one child doing the biting or a general problem. i realise that they are not going to tell you who but will they tell you if it is one child?

that's what i wondered? it might be more than one child who has caused the bites you know about. maybe one started biting but another is copying?

it happens really fast. my son has been bitten 3 times. on two of those occasions i was the person looking after him and there was no way i could have reacted fast enough to stop the bite from happening, and each time i was watching my son and saw the incident. it just all happens really fast. the nursery might be doing all they can. is your child happy to go back? mine is older, nearly 3 but i am sure that if he was worried about playgroup and didn't want to go that he would make his feelings known :rolleyes: