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penny-less_4

The two things I remember most about my grandmother from when I was young are delicious homemade cakes, and staying overnight with her and being the centre of attention for that period of time.

I too have suffered from depression, in fact only last year. I wasn't BR then, but maybe wish I could have been because life wasn't easy.

Please, please find someone to talk to that can offer you professional advice. It would probably be the most valuable thing you could do for yourself and your kids/grandkids at this time if you are suffering. Depression is a serious illness that needs treatment.

Regarding your financial situation, maybe you could seek some help here also to re structure things and find out if there are any benefits that you may be entitled to but are not yet claiming. Maybe citizen's advice would be a good port of call, or at the very least a good rummage around on the whole of this MSE site?

Make sure you allow yourself enough sleep and relaxation time. This has always been one of my downfalls. Trying to do too much, or not sleeping enough leaves me feeling really down. Also bear in mind that diet is important, and I personally couldn't survive without going for a walk in the fresh air every day.

Sending you lots of hugs at this difficult time, and hoping that you will seek help where necessary to make things a little brighter for you.

Kindest regards

Penny x

everyonesmum1

What can I ad to what everyone else has said, my grandparent were very special people and I am sure you are very special to yours, time and love cost nothing but mean far more than throw away gifts, some presents can cost nothing more than some time and love, how about making a little photo album for them of you, their parents and them showing all the love and fun every one can have? This may help too with your depression, please dont dismiss professional help it really can help,try to focus on the future and remember the good times cos I bet at the end of the day they outweigh the bad. Love and support sent to you xxx

dodecanese

Hi Leahjessy
Just wanted to say my memories of my grandparents are how lovely they were, not what they used to buy me. best memories I have of my gran was when we used to do baking and stuff, your grandkids will probably be the same.
Do your family know you are bankrupt? I found it hard telling my family/friends- but once I did everyone was fine and made allowances for the fact Im totally skint. I cant afford to buy my mum a birthday present tomorrow, I feel pretty bad about it but she knows why. Its easier when people you care about know what is going on as they will support you and understand.
All the best.

So_Sad_Angel

leahjessy1 wrote: »

With a heavy heart I thank you all for your wonderful responses. The one good thing that I have learnt from this site is that I am not alone and for that I thank you all. Your kind words and support will help me through today and when I hit rock bottom again, I have your responses to keep me focused.

Many many thanks

Hi Leah

<<<HUGS SWEETIE>>>

Sorry I`m a bit late to your thread. You know now that you have friends on here who will give support when you need it & understand what you are going through. Bad days come to us all so recognise it as a bad day & remember that a good one will be along soon!

Hope your ED is soon...maybe call the OR office for advice & follow it up? I think that will give you `closure` to the recent past.

Well done on getting through this...you are a strong person & need to keep reminding yourself of that.

Take care, Angiexx

leahjessy1

I cannot express how much the good people on this site and their kind words of encouragement have lifted my spirits.I have cried beacause of the offers of support and now knowing that I am not alone, this has made a huge difference. I wish I could say that I can progress but the waiting game has taken it's toll. I will say this, I will seek medical help as the impending doom does not stop. At times it feels like the walls are closing in and I have nowhere to escape.
I know my 3 grandchildren love me for what I am and not what I can give them, one hug from them is like winning the lottery, but my first grandchild is autistic and cannot accept change, nana has had to change, my having to move house was a huge challenge for her. That said so far I have hidden my sadness and tried to improve her quality of life.
One day in the not too distant future, this nightmare will be over and I will be forever thankful to the wonderful people who took time to support and encourage me to carry on, who told me I was not a failure, who with their kind words made me cry. Once again I thank you all.

Fondest Regards

Leahjessy