Girlfriend Wants half of everything

liney

While they were together they were obviously happy with the arrangment that he paid the bills and she paid for other luxury items/did the
housework/bought the grocerys each week.

They bought the house and had a join mortgage knowing what they could afford as a couple. If you want to split all the bills 50/50 then you either live in a house share, or buy a property based on the lower persons earning so they can afford to contribute equally.

If you are living as a couple and intending to get married i think arguing over who paid the mortgage payment, and who paid the leccy bill is rediculous. In fact i think i will have to change my own Direct Debit arrangments as the account the mortgage and bills comes out of is from his wages only; i suppose it wouldnt matter i buy grocerys/petrol/clothes/holidays?

Perhaps if the lady had know this your friend would lay stake on the house she would have insisted her contribution go directly to the mortgage payment instead of the Water Rates (or whatever it was she was repsonsible for).

What i am getting at is they were obviously happy with the arrangment when the relationship was running smoothly so it's not right to change the rules of the game at this point.

floss2

liney wrote: »

.......it's not right to change the rules of the game at this point.

But she did change the rules by having an affair, and continuing with her engagement & wedding plans.

She can't have it ALL her way.

liney

floss2 wrote: »

But she did change the rules by having an affair, and continuing with her engagement & wedding plans.

She can't have it ALL her way.

I dont think he'd be volunteering his half of the equity if it had been the other way around though, do you?

People split. It's a shame. It doesn't change what the financial arrangments were.

JimmyTheWig

Agree with liney. Some good points well made.

Consider the alternative? What if they bought a new build 6 months ago with a 100% mortgage and were now looking at negative equity? Would he insist that as he had been paying the mortgage it was his 'right' to pay off the negative equity? I doubt it.

He earned more than her, so he paid more than her. That's the way things work. They bought the house together.
She spoiled the relationship. That's a shame. For _that_ reason she should take the moral highground and refuse her share of the equity. But that's up to her.

50/50 I'd say.

Clive_Woody

He could make her disappear for a lot less than £20k :whistle:

Oldernotwiser

Clive_Woody wrote: »

He could make her disappear for a lot less than £20k :whistle:

In the current climate they'll be lucky to clear £20K between them, that's why I think that that it's not going to be a large amount different between a 75/25 and 50/50 split. (Yes, I know £5K matters but it's not a lot in the great scheme of things.)