How do you keep a small wedding small????

HopeElizzy

I organised my wedding without anyone knowing and then handed out the invites. No-one (including my interferring mum:rolleyes:) had a chance to change my mind or make suggestions as to who to invite as it was already done.
I had 9 people and a dog at my wedding! All the usual dog-sitters were at the wedding so the dog came too with a big ribbon attached to his collar.
I hate being the centre of attention so the idea of a huge wedding, walking down an aisle in front of loads of people would have been my worst nightmare.
Yes, I'm sure I did offend some relatives at the time but as it was my day I didn't care and no-one fell out with me and no-one commented afterwards.

Alot of people are quite interested when I say I just had my parents, dh's parents, my Nan, my sister and dh's brother there. Dh has 2 cousins (who are lovely)and that's it and I have aunts, uncles, cousins, children of cousins, etc, etc who I don't see and would rather not see!

In the end IT'S YOUR DAY - make it your day and no-one else's.
Good Luck and have a wonderful day whatever you decide. x

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How? Don't involve mothers - they are the cause of big weddings

Callisto

We're definitely considering going abroad (looking at Cyprus/Malta atm) so we can keep the wedding to immediate family and close friends only and have a UK party for the remaining family/friends when we return. I have 12 cousins I never see, plus various aunts/uncles I only see once a year, so they're party only invites.

I don't really want to invite the relatives I hardly see at all, but parents would be offended if I don't include them in some way... So that's the only way I can think of to get the wedding I want, I don't mind compromising for one evening for the after wedding party.

toniwoty2009

we were told something wise by OH's uncle - you will always upset someone no matter what you do, so you may as well have what you want and upset someone than upset yourself and STILL upset someone else!
we've upset several people (including OH's mum) before the invites even go out but as others have said - its OUR wedding. some of the people don't even send us xmas/birthday cards so tbh i don't see why they care!

HTH

LouBlue

ringo_24601 wrote: »

How? Don't involve mothers - they are the cause of big weddings

Not all, mine wouldn't have interfered at all, she would just want me to be happy and have it how I want, she passed away last year. It won't be the same without her.

MIL 2B on the other hand...:rolleyes: .I would quite happily not invite her but she lives 50 miles away so won't get the chance to interfere. I have a teeny tiny family, only me, my 2 sisters, and niece and nephew...no-one else! Though OH has a lot of relatives, I have never met any of them so if they think they are coming to the wedding, they will be disappointed, we only want close family and close friends.

mum2one

Just remember one thing its yours and your oh day, you share it with who you want, yes some relatives may get upset, at the end of the day, you wont be the 1st nor that last to upset them. Once something else happens you not inviting them to your wedding will be lasts weeks quipe and something else or someone else has replaced it.

Its like our family, we say we only get together for weddings, etc.

when I had my daughter christened, what started off at I would like 20 quests turned into over 80, as it was better invite them so we dont upset them, yes we had a super day, im not knocking it, but its too easy to get carried away. Out of those 80 people i would say we only see / stay in contact with about 20 of them.

Maybe can you compriminse on a larger evening do, then if family say x, y, or z should be invited, then politely suggest to the person doing the adding on that it costs £xx pp and maybe they could contribute, penny to a pound, the list will be cut to what you want. x

Good luck to everone with their weddings. xx

shelovestobuystuff

Book a small venue.Mine only sleeps 12 and can seat up to 16 for a meal and the tiny chapel can only fit 16 people max too.Its easy to keep it small because the tiny venue.

Lorne

Thanks for all of the advice. We have managed to come up with a small guest list and a small venue. Things are looking good for our 'small big day'