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My Marriage is Over - What Next?
Horasio
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I have endured 27 years of verbal and emotional abuse from my OH, it is spilling over into our 20 year old son being disrespectful to us and has done for 4 years and I am not getting support from my OH about it, in fact I get verbally attacked when I try to sort it and he does nothing about it. Basically I am being undermined.
We are all renting a place until September.
Should I leave now or nearer the end of our lease?
We are all renting a place until September.
Should I leave now or nearer the end of our lease?
An average day in my life:hello: :eek::mad: :coffee::coffee::coffee::T 
:rotfl: :rotfl: 
:eek::mad: :beer:
I am no expert in property but have lived in many types of homes, in many locations and can only talk from experience.
:rotfl: :rotfl: :eek::mad: :beer:I am no expert in property but have lived in many types of homes, in many locations and can only talk from experience.
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can you afford to leave now? if so get packing, the sooner you put an end to that misery the better.0
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sorry only you can answer that one - if it were me i would leave now
i hope you find the strength to do what's right for youThe mind is like a parachute. It doesn’t work unless it’s open.:o
A winner listens, a loser just waits until it is their turn to talk:)0 -
Leave now, as long as you can manage it.
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Money isn't an issue just now but it will take whatever time it takes to get a new place and I am not working either - I am too ill to work living the way I have for so long! I have just moved to a place and been there for 5 weeks but it isn't working!
Will anyone rent me a place without me working but have the ability to pay?An average day in my life:hello: :eek::mad: :coffee::coffee::coffee::T :rotfl: :rotfl: :eek::mad: :beer:
I am no expert in property but have lived in many types of homes, in many locations and can only talk from experience.0 -
Will anyone rent me a place without me working but have the ability to pay?[/quote]
Probably, if you pay the rent upfront.This is an open forum, anyone can post and I just did !0 -
you have already wasted enough of your life with this man, don't waste any more - move out now if you can and be free and true to yourself0
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Please get out if you can and if you need support try one of the domestic abuse helplines who will arrange things for you and will be a shoulder to cry on if necessary. A lot of people think these services are for physical abuse only but they are for all types of abuse, indeed from experience emotional and verbal abuse can be worse.......just because you don't have a bruise doesn't mean they can't help you..
On the rent issue, either pay upfront or maybe someone can act as guarantor for you0 -
I am afraid that young people, once they start to feel independent and 'do their own thing', soon pick up on the idea that it's OK to behave badly at home because that's how Dad behaves and he gets away with it. They will go on to treat any relationship they get into in the same way as your OH has treated you - they've absorbed it over the years and don't know any different.
I can't understand why you're even considering not moving out? Contact your local Women's Aid for help and advice.[FONT=Times New Roman, serif]Æ[/FONT]r ic wisdom funde, [FONT=Times New Roman, serif]æ[/FONT]r wear[FONT=Times New Roman, serif]ð[/FONT] ic eald.
Before I found wisdom, I became old.0 -
The women's refuge will be able to advise re housng etc I am sure, once the decision has been made to walk away it does get easier, I wish you well and we will be here if you need emotional support. You deserve better go out and find the life you were meant to have x0
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:grouphug:Hugs for you.
Only you can decide but bouncing ideas and fears around on here can be a big help.£2 Coins Savings Club 2012 is £4
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