Calling all you night owls

smashedbooboo

Woohoo, four day weekend. LOL. You mean there will be the male species there as well. OMG. Get my glad rags together. And the hair the teeth and the glasses. Here i come. Only to look good for my N&N of course. Nothing else. You understand x x x x x

Just_Me_4

Well they know we are upset that they didn't pay anything towards our wedding but are shelling out shedloads for my sisters' wedding - possibly because she is marrying a Jew and I didn't. The response is always "well you both have good jobs you can afford it". They have always given my sister more. My sis has a bit of a disability - not so much that she wouldn't be able to work but enough that she gets disability living whatever allowance and I feel that she could make more of an effort to get a job. Of course if I say that I get accused of being nasty.

I have never really felt I could open up to my parents. I would dearly love for us to tell my in-laws but DH is worried (probably rightly so) that they would try and pay everything off for us which we wouldn't want them to do. Its our mess and down to us to get out of it.

piglet29

Wol2 wrote: »

Like I said Piglet

This is an opportunity ..if necessary I can come and pick you up........with two boxes of Kleenex!!

Big hugs
Wol2
xx

Hey wol are you trying to say that Piglet has a big nose!!!!!!:rotfl:

Wol2

Just_Me wrote: »

Its so hard atm with all the stuff going on with my parents and DH and a few weeks before I joined MSE I was feeling lower than low, worse than I've ever felt before - I didn't even know the extent of the money problems it was just over the familiy stuff. I totally agree with everything DH says about my parents but they are my parents and my girls' grandparents and I can't just cut them out of my/their lives. Yet my mum pressures me all the time about when she's going to see the girls when she didn't see that much of them before the trouble.

JM...have similar problem with "slightly controlling" mother. (polite understatement). Please don;t "buy into it". You need to do what is best for you and therefore your family.

My bro and his wife are very very limiting in their contact with my parents purely because of the "controlling" and "emotional blackmailing" problem of "maman". not her fault...she can;t help herself...it's the way she was brought up. However we kids have a choice and my brother made his and elected not to "buy in" but behave on his own terms..and it has worked much better for them.

Big hugs
Wol2
xx

Just_Me_4

Bubbles its really complicated. I wouldn't mind my mum having the girls although there would be excuses like their social life would get in the way or she can't cope with them because of these aches and those pains etc. DH just wouldn't allow it though, he went into one when I said I was going to visit my parents at the weekend with the girls and he said if I did he would tell the girls exactly what he thinks and then let them decide. This is what I mean about being piggy in the middle. I don't mean to sound nasty but I wouldn't be too upset about cutting off my parents but I get the guilt trips from them and end up being walked over by everyone.

Sorry I'm really rambling on now aren't I.

bubbles0169

ah again just me im sorry
it sounds a right mess and i havent got anymore advice for you
smashed will
smashed , smashed where are yoooou
in the mean time have a ronaldo

smashedbooboo

Oh love. Your story is very similar to mine. I know how you feel. When it comes to family its very difficult. I was going to put something else but i think it maybe too personal to put on open forum. But i take it you are jewish hun. x x x x

Wol2

piglet29 wrote: »

Hey wol are you trying to say that Piglet has a big nose!!!!!!:rotfl:

Not at all Hun..actually I have biggest conk!!

But you could lose an awful lot of blood between the Severn bridge and Sussex ..(especially if I'm driving ) .and unfortunately I don;t do other people's blood I;m afraid

Well. no pressure....but I'm sure we can arrange a pick up and overnight floor for you and family if required!

Big hugs
Wol2
xx

bubbles0169

you keep rambling girl
itll feel better getting it all outxxxxx

im sorry everyone gosh these hours have gone quick
ive gotta go that alarms calling again
last alarm call for ages though
yipeeeee xx xx

Just_Me_4

smashedbooboo wrote: »

Oh love. Your story is very similar to mine. I know how you feel. When it comes to family its very difficult. I was going to put something else but i think it maybe too personal to put on open forum. But i take it you are jewish hun. x x x x

Feel free to pm me and yes I am Jewish although I don't do religion!