Funeral Costs

floss2

I agree - my dad had allocated monies to pay for his funeral, and my mum had bought a "pre-paid" funeral from the Co-op shortly after Dad died...we had to top it up a little, but there was enough in her estate to cover that.

dawna_2

sloughflint wrote: »

If there is no estate or even if there is debt, couldn't they a) either pay for the sentimental heirlooms so that the estate contains funds

Problem could be here if creditors did not agree value of heirlooms.
Would be better to put them into an auction, so there could be no dispute over value.

rosie-lee

just a thought if finances are a bit tight - check with your local county council. If you are not particularly religious you can have a civil funeral ceremony. Each council charges it's own rates but 'up north' it is £100, the ones I have seen have been really lovely with no religious content but poems and songs which are meaningful to the family and friends.

*Louise*

I think threads like this demonstrate how important it is for us all to have some sort of arrangements in place for when we depart. If anything, it eases the burden on our children/family.

My funeral is going to be 'cheap as chips' lol, because I already have a burial plot and headstone ready...depressing really, but can you imagine how much more expensive it will be in *xx year's time?:rotfl:


* Is hoping that xx = 50

sloughflint

dawna wrote: »

Problem could be here if creditors did not agree value of heirlooms.
Would be better to put them into an auction, so there could be no dispute over value.

What about seeking written valuations instead? It would be a shame to have to attend auctions and end up bumping up/ paying silly prices through desperation to get the sentimental goods.

oldernotwiser wrote:

If your friend were abused then I doubt she'd want anything from their house, whether heirlooms or money.

We simply do not know enough on a forum to talk like this.
I'm just using my imagination here after this post. Unwell person remarried, Op's friend =stepchild of this person. Heirlooms from predeceased spouse's side of family ( direct blood relative) passed to spouse on death......Sentimental interest from Op's friend.

Or I'm barking up the wrong tree. It doesn't matter.The point is Op was looking for facts.

I think people do need to be careful what they say.

dawna_2

sloughflint wrote: »

What about seeking written valuations instead? It would be a shame to have to attend auctions and end up bumping up/ paying silly prices through desperation to get the sentimental goods.

Or I'm barking up the wrong tree. It doesn't matter.The point is Op was looking for facts.

I think people do need to be careful what they say.

Written valuations would of course be an appropriate compromise if you did not want to go to the auction, but you could end up paying more. You cannot tell.

I do take your point sloughflint about people being careful about what they say, and you probably are referring to me commenting on how Margaretclare discusses her affairs and tells us all of her daughters shortcomings.

I realise that just because one person behaves badly, does not mean that we all should do likewise.

I apologise Margaretclare for commenting on your behaviour towards your daughter.

sloughflint

My comment comes from reading many posts from many people for quite a long time;not just this thread in particular.

Sometimes people are looking for opinion ( particularly this section) and of course then it's fine but not when people are specifically asking for pure facts.

I see people get upset because they have given minimal information ( very wise) about their private life and posters then make their own interpretations.If negative, I see OPs come back and justify themselves. It's just a shame I feel.Nobody should have to justify themselves when they have just requested facts.

Errata

*Louise* wrote: »

I think threads like this demonstrate how important it is for us all to have some sort of arrangements in place for when we depart. If anything, it eases the burden on our children/family.

My funeral is going to be 'cheap as chips' lol, because I already have a burial plot and headstone ready...depressing really, but can you imagine how much more expensive it will be in *xx year's time?:rotfl:


* Is hoping that xx = 50

I've decided to leave no instructions re funeral arrangements. Those that want to can organise it the way they want it. Funerals are for the benefit of the living, they convey no advantage on the dead.

Oldernotwiser

sloughflint wrote: »

My comment comes from reading many posts from many people for quite a long time;not just this thread in particular.

Sometimes people are looking for opinion ( particularly this section) and of course then it's fine but not when people are specifically asking for pure facts.

I see people get upset because they have given minimal information ( very wise) about their private life and posters then make their own interpretations.If negative, I see OPs come back and justify themselves. It's just a shame I feel.Nobody should have to justify themselves when they have just requested facts.

The OP wrote " Is it best to walk away from this and deny any responsibility?". If that's not asking for an opinion then I don't know what is! Posters often want opinions but don't like it when the opinion doesn't agree with what they think already.

*Louise*

Errata wrote: »

I've decided to leave no instructions re funeral arrangements. Those that want to can organise it the way they want it. Funerals are for the benefit of the living, they convey no advantage on the dead.

When I said some sort of arrangements, I was meaning insurance policies or money set aside inorder for people to do the necessary.

The example in my second para was just referring to my own situation.