how much to charge a mate who wants to be a lodger???

Snooze

tomaz64 wrote: »

now he rang me last week and states he needs to vacate in two weeks and cant find anywhere ?????....and im like 'erhhhhhh'........personally i dont want the hassle and getting the 'are you letting him move in then' from some friends and 'i wouldnt touch him with a bargepole' from others!!lol

Tough !!!! for him. I suggest directing him at the rightmove website and the 'lettings' button. Thousands of properties on there that are 'available now'.

He's clearly not much of a friend if he isn't considering what you want. You don't want him living with you (or anyone else for that matter) because you like your own space too much, so tell him so.

It sounds like he's trying to take you for a ride to be honest. I mean, why exactly does he want to move in with you all of a sudden? I reckon he's deliberately not looking for anywhere else so that you will be forced to take him in when he has to move.

You need to put your foot down and tell him to forget the idea because it isn't happening.

Rob

Catblue

Hmm, yes I can see the pitfalls. Your schedule and his don't seem to be compatible.

The main one would be, if he doesn't work, that means he is going to be home a lot. Can he be quiet enough in the house during the day when you are trying to sleep? What if he has the telly blaring etc, or if he is in and out all day, banging the door?

Also, you need your own time with the kids at tea-time each day. How would that work - would he need to make himself scarce every day? Would he be happy about having kids in the house every day?

Also, if he does sell this other house, you said that he is waiting for prices to drop. What if they don't drop, or don't drop enough? Seems like he'd just want to stay put at your place - you might have trouble getting him out.

You are being a good friend even thinking about it.

I'd have to say no to him, I'm afraid.

You could help him look for a different place, though.

pollyanna24

I also would say "avoid."

Currently, we have my bf's best friend and bf's little brother living with us.

We made the mistake of charging too little and it's like "Why would we move out when we can stay here?!" We've given them a deadline of a year (yeah, I know!) to get out and seeing as I'm now pregnant, they definitely have no choice in the matter.

The mate is better than the brother as he has a life. But the brother is constantly at the house. He never leaves unless it is to go to work and seeing as he works the same times as us, we never ever have the house to ourselves. In fact, he gets it to himself more than us as we do, in fact, have a life. So, I think you would feel like we do. A bit claustrophobic in your own gaff. He's always around, the only time we get to talk is in bed or when we are taking the dog for a walk.

It's helped all of us how, i.e. we now have savings and they had somewhere cheap to live, but I know neither of them have saved up and now will be shocked when they find out how much things actually cost in the real world. However, I really don't think I would do it again, esp not on the terms we have. They basically pay us rent, and we pay everything. Bills and food. Idiots? Yes, but we didn't expect them to stay so long, and we didn't know how much they would actually cost!

I'm definitely counting down the days till they leave.

missyg_3

I had a friend live with me temporarily once, she paid her way but after she left (she went to live in another country), I discovered she had racked up a massive phone bill. I asked her for the money more than once but it never came... :rolleyes:

maninthestreet

If this mate is prepared to sue his own brother, then avoid like the plague. Tell him your personal circumstances prevent you letting him lodge for the time being. What reason has he given for having to vacate his current residence? I bet he would have trouble providing references.

Andy_Hamilton

I change my opinion to AVOID THE SITUATION
Help him find a room or flat via spareroom or rightmove etc but if you have any doubts avoid it all together.

tomaz64

maninthestreet wrote: »

If this mate is prepared to sue his own brother, then avoid like the plague. Tell him your personal circumstances prevent you letting him lodge for the time being. What reason has he given for having to vacate his current residence? I bet he would have trouble providing references.

Must admit this does disturb me that he could/did do the above!!one friend says "he wont stay long as he wont want to give you much money,and he wants to try and hide his released equity so he can claim housing benefit,council tax rebates etc"..........not the cleverest thing to try and get away with!!

thevinternet

Go with your gut instinct my friend. If it's saying 'no', which I suspect it may be from your posts, then don't let him get a foot in the door, or you may struggle to get him out again.
Plus do you really want him around setting a bad example for your kids? Most adults have to work for a living, not skive around with a 'bad back' for 8 years...is his back so bad that he can't even type at a desk?!

Lol - sorry if that sounded harsh, I just don't really have time for scroungers; they push the price of taxes up for the rest of us.

tomaz64

yep i could never get my head around how you can have a bad back for eight years!!hes the first to admit theres nothing wrong with it!