Daily Chat:16/4/08

floss2

keren29 wrote: »

she is in Grimsby floss.....

Oh poo! Oh well, the info should give you an idea what to look for on her local Council's website, apart from the phone number!

Snaggles

I would second Pania's idea of a pendant - my Gran had one, and when she pressed it, it would activate some sort of speaker system thing (I don't know what it's called...lol) in her living room, where someone would talk to my Gran and keep her calm until help arrived.

It gave her a few more years of independance, and being the stubborn lady she was , she really valued it, because she knew she would need to go into a home otherwise.

Burlesque_Babe

called my Mum and I've given her a local organisation who work alongside the council.

Apparently there was a brand new emergency pendant in the bureau in her house still in its packet - nobody knows where or when it appeared in her house but she must have asked for help at some point, but nobody knows when or who.

The water boiler broke down ages ago and she said she didn't need it - my parents have been washing her clothes for ages but she stopped bringing them round months ago. Apparently she has gone down hill very fast mentally over the last year, my Mum found loads of brand new clothes in carrier bags in the house but nothing she wore was washed etc.

I offered to help financially but it seems she agreed to make her bank account a joint one with my Dad just a few weeks back and there is loads of money in it and somehow she is getting huge pension payments each week so they are going to replace the carpet and the boiler and then see what can be done to help - as my Mum said, if she had used the money she has, she wouldn't have fallen, but in a way, at least she is being 'forced' to be assessed now. The very least she will need is some kind of respite care until the house can be sorted. She is also going to contact Warm Front.

Thankyou for the support guys.

Toto

It's really tough keren, we went through it with our nan. She was totally fit and mentally sharp until the day mum died, she coped for a little while but kind of just gave up when the dust settled and life went on. So, my once very houseproud nan who was always baking something, became unable to cope with washing and cleaning and wasn't eating. The problem was, she was the carer for her other daughter, my aunt, who has severe learning difficulties, so both of them were just going downhill. Only nan refused all help. She got to the point where she would no longer climb the stairs and started using a comode. One day while emptying it she fell and broke her arm. So, she went to hospital, social services came and did a brief look around and said they could get a home carer to come in. But realistically my old nan was just too tired to cope with being the mum to a handicapped daughter any more. But, she was refusing help and social services weren't too bothered about forcing the issue.

Anyway to cut a very long story short, in the end my brother and I had no choice but to force her to go into a care home. We turned up one day only to find nan and aunt filthy dirty and covered in flea bites from the stray cats she'd let move into the house (she lived on a farm). She was making tea with milk that had been left open for at least a week and was just in a dire mess.

Obviously she protested, cursed us and told us we were interfering fools. I don't think she ever really came to terms with losing her home but she did settle down. We would visit her and she was really well cared for, she gained a bit of weight and made it her job to help out with tasks around the home. So, we know it was the right choice. Sadly she passed away almost 3 years ago, she died on the 4th anniversary of mum's death which I thought was touching in loads of ways.

What I'm trying to say is, sometimes our old nans need a bit of a push to accept that they are moving into a new stage in their lives. Having someone to help out around the house or even moving into a care home is scary for them because it means they have to face the fact that they are getting old. And none of us ever want to do that do we.

barnaby-bear

keren29 wrote: »

she is in Grimsby floss.

Just called the hospital and asked for a message to be passed on but they said she probably wouldn't take it in. It was the Sister on the ward and she was a bit naughty and told me what she was going to have done test wise (although I appreciate her 'naughtyness) , but said there were no breaks, but also no diagnosis until after the scans.

Old people get dehydrated very easily if they fall and as a result very confused. IT's amazinghow they can rally very quickly so stay positive.

immoral_angeluk

OOOOOOOOOOOH CRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRAP IPTW is coming on!!! eeeeek!

immoral_angeluk

OH god.... help! lol!

Snaggles

Oooooh, thanks for reminding me!!! :T :T :T

I'm recording it!

pania

for the first time ever!! *hangs head in shame* I am able to watch it!!! yay!!!

Snaggles

immoral_angeluk wrote: »

OH god.... help! lol!

You will be fine...stay calm....deep breaths! :j