**DFW Weekend Chat Thread**12/04/08

jinky67

Buffythedebtslayer wrote: »

ok Z you have asked for it now.

Ex boyfriend from over a year ago, still texts me very regularly, never phones, just the texting to see how I am and what I am doing, nothing weird, rarely sexual, just chats. maybe on average once or twice a week.

why is he doing this?

men being *simple* and all....to see how you are?
do you mind him doing this?

Buffythedebtslayer

do I mind him doing this?

hmmm. somedays I wish he would get lost, so I could look for some one else, other days I miss his friendship so no.

He'd never get a bonus night. We broke up because even to we had been seeing each other for over a year he just would not make any kind of commitment at all - I figured if I had to force the conversation he wasnt the guy for me as much as I love him. I think a big part of me is hoping he will" come to his senses" - how lame. but true, so I never see him or meet up with him cos I know he can't give me what I want. just when he stays in touch so regularly I am weakening and day dreaming. BUT I have been here before. If a man wants you he will come and get you and he doesn't do that.

xx

lynsayjane

buffy I have a similar problem though much less regular. I came out of a long term relationship and made the mistake of falling into bed with a guy still in a long term relationship. It went on for a few months until I came to my senses and ended over 18 months ago. When we were 'together' I would get a call when he had problems or wanted his leg over and now I still get the odd call or email but I just ignore it, he is nothing more than a terrible mistake and I don't want him in my life anymore, whether he gets it or not.

If you want him out of your life I'd highly suggest ignoring all contact until he gets the hint! (which with him being a man might take a LONG time!)

Bunnyinthelights

Men nark me off because they are generally passive agressive-never just come out and say what's bugging them, and they also don't know when to leave well enough alone-when I say 'let's agree to disagree and leave this' why must they insist on continuing???

argh.


bath didnt work

lynsayjane

try a glass of wine, I'm having one and the world looks like a much rosier place

jinky67

Bunnyinthelights wrote: »

Men nark me off because they are generally passive agressive-never just come out and say what's bugging them, and they also don't know when to leave well enough alone-when I say 'let's agree to disagree and leave this' why must they insist on continuing???

argh.


bath didnt work

it is in their nature..they dont understand we are actually saying...if you keep talking I am going to do you in;)

penguin83

Kick him in the nuts bunny - that'll get him listening!

Should I be concerned that I am listening to christmas music in April? x

Buffythedebtslayer

I did ignore him for a while and then he came round to see if I was ok - it had been three/four weeks. He is not weird - that makes him sound weird. I always got the feeling that he liked me but he and I had very difficult family lives, I am not good at explaining things - and I just think the whole thing got too complicated for both of us.

I am not exactly a success in relationships and neither is he, we were friends for ages before anything happened and then everything happened - loads of horrible things and I know I didn't deal with it well.

Oh well I like him, its hardly the worst thing in the world. I just wonder from time to time.

Bunny - sorry yours is being a pain. I think people insist on continuing a "discussion" cos stopping is the same as losing and that is no good!

xx

Buffythedebtslayer

*mumbles about renaming herself the Thread slayer*

huff. going to have a beer.

jinky67

Buffythedebtslayer wrote: »

*mumbles about renaming herself the Thread slayer*

huff. going to have a beer.

I was just pre-occupied...there is a thread in The Arms about camel toes...it is v.v.v.funny