Washing crisis - help required!

debtworrier

jw1096 wrote:

You sound just like me! Mine is rediculous in the extreme sometimes, he will take off his jeans right by the PC and leave them on the floor, and watched while I pick them up, fold them and put them on top of his PC unit, so he can find them. Every day is the same, and he STILL hasnt learned to put them folded and off the floor!

AAARRRRRGGGHHHHHHHHHHHHHH :mad: :mad: (insert a smiley of girl strangling boy)

A big PLEASE to all mums of boys - please, for the love of God, train them - in at least the basics! :eek:

Jo xx

Have you ever lived in shared accommodation? I just ask because the old "clearing up the kitchen when everyone else just dumps their dirty plates in the sink" moan used to really screw me up and make me unhappy. But I *had* to share as I couldn't afford to live on my own. (Just the same as a load of other people, I know.)

What really helped me though was when I really took charge of my own feelings. I admitted that when I cleaned the kitchen, I *wasn't* doing my housemates a favour, I was doing it because *I* wanted a clean kitchen. Looked at that way, I was able to say to myself "yeah, I wish it was clean, but do I *choose* to spend the time?"

It meant that when I did clean the kitchen, I did it happily - well, okay, not a 'treat' that I saved up for myself, but without the cloud of angry resentment that I'd been living in before.

A side benefit was that because I consciously chose how to spend my time, I chose *not* to clean more often, and housemates ended up doing it more. But I stress that was a side benefit. No way did I try to "train" them, and no way do I/did I have the right to try. Assuming that you have the right to "train" someone is a claim to have power over them. That kind of thing messes up relationships real fast.

//Puts soapbox away//

millie

There is a colour run remover called Rescue they only used to make it for whites, but I bought one for coloured washing in Asda think it was about £2.80 for 2 sachets you need to use both if used in a washing machine but I soaked mine in a bucket for the recommended 1 hour and it only uses 1 sachet. I had a pair of new pale green pyjamas that had gone grey after being mixed with some dark socks, and it worked a treat, and I have a sachet left for the next time something like this happens.