Am i horrible

destiny_star2006

Thanks for all replys when i see them i will say oh am getting married abroad your invited but im not expecting you to come and wont hold in against you for not coming etc hahahahahah noing my luck the !!!!!!s will come by the plane load if they ask about a reception afterwards im going to say were celebrating out there so wont be a reception but will catch up with you all when i get back xxx

squidge60

hi ow i love shameless its great but in saying that if they were my family it would be a bit different.yep wouldnt want them at my big day !god after reading about your family maybe they should have a part in the program :rotfl: all i would say is do what makes you feel happy and comfortable with bottom line is you arent going to please everyone sadly.good luck x

destiny_star2006

I love watching shamless aswell its awesome and funny but not funny at all when theyve made the prog from observing my family lol terrible to say i know but i rekon some members of my family actually put them to shame
and my uncle is worse than frank totally

poppyscorner

Exactly why I went to the dom rep to get married there were some of the family making comments etc but I blanked it all and we got married with both parents my sister and some friends I wouldn't have done it any other way.

I did have the reception when I got home just in a local bar and invited them all thankfully there was no trouble but thats because some of them didn't turn up and to be honest I didnt care I was with my hubby and walking on air.

Good luck with whatever you decide x

Mutantk

Congrats Destiny_Star2006 on pregnancy and wedding! I would decide what you and your partner want and do exactly that and don't deviate to please anyone else! The reason I say this is from experience - me and DH had been together for 7 years with 3 kids when we got wed - started planning a really nice do for 60 family and close friends and after a month of planning we were sick of all the interference, even from people who said they wouldn't!! You know the sort of thing, cant invite this one without that one, got to have this, can't have THAT for the wedding meal!! His Mum then had a huge tantrum cos she expected to be allowed to ask a WHOLE table of her own mates and I said no way - don't like her, let alone her drunken mates! I know this is a bit different from your own reasoning but the upshot is, we cancelled the planned do before we'd had to pay out for anything and booked the registry office for 5 weeks time. Bought new outfits for us and the kids, booked a local family restaurant that we like and is welcoming for our young kids. and ordered some flowers. 2 days before we told my Mum and Grandad (as Dad sadly no longer alive) and his Mum and Dad, my Mum was fine and thought it was very 'us', his Mum and Dad were p***ed off. We had a great day, his Mum and Dad didn't say two words to anyone but that suited me. It was just we we wanted - a very small initimate wedding for us and the kids. the fallout afterwards lasted about 6 months, his parents didn't speak to us (result!) and his siblings were annoyed too - mine all understood.

The point of all this (sorry) is that you can do what you want and although it may ruffle feathers, it's better than looking back and regretting not doing things differently. Hope that makes sense, sorry for going on and goodluck!!

belfastgirl23

Your day your rules.

TBH in your shoes I'd tell your mum you've thought on what she said (about getting married before baby) and have decided to get married very quietly abroad. That way maybe you wouldn't have to invite the whole circus

But read any other post on weddings and you'll see that you will always p**s people off no matter how much you try to do what they want so you may as well do exactly what you want and be hung for a sheep as a lamb.

Good luck and congratulations!

pulliptears

Yes, you are horrible, go and stand in a corner

Its your day and your only day (hopefully)! Its a day that should bring back lovely memories for the rest of your life, so if you want to do it in outer Mongolia you should.

Go abroad, be happy, and have an intimate meal at OH's parents on your return, but above all good luck!

countrygal

What about eloping to Gretna Green???

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Krystaltips

I like the Gretna green idea, I would do that if we had horrible families to deal with but as it's just the MIL thats horrible we'll stick to our current arrangements...