Made a mistake - sorry. Shouldn't have posted, deleted posts.

zebidee1

Post deleted. I'm sure my issues are too boring anyway.

hobo28

Ok, you've listed the negatives about him and your relationship, what about the positives? What do you love about him?

zebidee1

Post deleted.

vixarooni

Men eh!

Perhaps zeb youre going through a phrase. I think you need to look back and see what improvements you can make in the relationship. Talk to him and tell him how you feel. Get everything out in the open about how you both feel. Start kissing each other again, im just realising how little me and my boyfriend kiss compared with a year ago! Have a romantic night, touch each other, go out for a meal. Do something spontanious together. It might bring back feelings that have got lost along the way.

(just suggestions though!)

zebidee1

Thanks both of you for the replies. I think I made a mistake in spilling things here so I deleted my posts.

I'm sure my low ebb will pass.

emmy05

hey zebs, chin up hun, hugs to ya xx

hobo28

Ok, you asked to be talked out of being a single parent.

Firstly don't knock the value of having a stable man. There are many out there who are liar's, cheaters and/or both. Remember, no-one is perfect and everyone has their faults.

I was a single parent for a few years and have been a step parent for 4 years now. Looking back now that all the emotions have died down, was it easier? No it wasn't. Certain bits were and to this day I miss being able to make my own decisions. But what I did find were a lot of the problems were just replaced with different problems! For example, ex not looking after the kids? Well guess what, after we split I then had to worry about her not looking after them but this time I wasn't there to step up when it was her time. I hated having to watch my kids be palmed off to all and sundry so ex could go to the pub etc. OH spending all the money? Well after you split you have to worry about making ends meet still on a reduced budget now there's only one income! Do you see what I mean?

Also, you've been in charge for such a long time that although you dream of having a white knight stroll up and sort everything out for you in a manly sort of way. After though would you then want to be back in charge again or could you adapt to the "little woman" role?

I think ultimately you need to figure out if you still love this man. If you don't then the answer is clear. But for your kids sake I'd hang in there a bit longer until you figure things out. Splitting up might seem attractive right now when your tired and emotional but its really not as easy to cope on your own as you imagine.

Hope that helps