Money Moral Dilemma: Should Marge stop Lisa spending the glam cash?

lulu1980_2

Lisa should definately be allowed to spend the money on what she wants as it is a good lesson that hard work and saving will get you the things you want, and at 13 how you look is starting to become important. Unfortunately, for us women, however much we hate it, our image counts for a lot and at 13 she is just starting to explore hers - HOWEVER I agree that a 13 year old should not be bleeching her hair and wearing high heels or mini skirts, even if we have allowed them to look at the likes of Britney as their role models, Marge should explain to her she is too young to look like that and help her buy other more appropriate clothes instead.

irishwench69

I think as she's earnt the money, it's up to her how she wants to spend it. Not like it's anything illegal (the only reason the mum should step in, IMO).

IW x

halia

I would compromise on nice shoes (with lower heels) highlights or colouring done at the hairdressers and the skirt.

immortaljaz

blagger101 wrote: »

Lisa can spend the money on what she wants. If Marge tries to stop her it will end up in a battle that only Lisa will really ever be able to win.

Or she could celebrate the fact that Lisa is taking a step closer to adulthood by recruiting a responsible cousin that Lisa admires to go shopping with her. The cousin can give her adult advice and guide her to buy clothes that are not only appropriate, but that are also fashionable (which Marge probably wouldn't know about, even if Lisa would take her advice), and make the shopping trip a bit more special (maybe all go out for meal afterwards as well).

Lisa will have a great day out. She'll learn about how to buy clothes. Her money won't be wasted. And Marge will maintain a respectful relationship with her daughter.

Definitely! Take Lisa shopping, and #ahem# advise her towards some more age-appropriate clothes and shoes. Then pop down the hairdressers after convincing her to get some natural looking highlights. :T

fionaralston

sounds worse than it is.
bleached hair isnt uncommon on 13 year old girls where im from... and anyway it might only be some bleached highlights.
i know 13 year old girls with 4 inch heels, for going to school parties and discos. not for during the day.
and the mini skirt again is not ridiculous for a disco or with some tights during the day..

sorry i dont see the big deal. everyone seems to have the image of a hooker, but it doesnt have to be that way if you open your mind a little!

harryhound

There is nothing new about daughters wanting to experiment with their adult fantasies.

I well remember the now pensioner Helen Shapiro, who now claims to be younger than me, singing "Don't ever treat me like a child" at the age of 14.

http://www.eastlondonhistory.com/shapiro.htm

http://uk.youtube.com/watch?v=nUq56642R0g

She will cheerfully admit that publicity photos in provocative (?) school girl clothes were all part of the image, long before Britney Spears had the same idea.

Us parents have a major job getting our children through the temptations of the teenage years, it is just a matter of time, but we fear a "train wreck" (as BS above) on the way.

I think young teenage girls looking ridiculous dressed as 20 something tarts, especially when they down an "alcopop" and fall of their heels:rolleyes:, is mainly something to do with "street cred." in front of their mates and trying to get one up on their mum. (If they are thinking "boys" they probably don't realise that the message they are putting across is not what they think and would be disappointed if they overheard themselves being discussed as a piece of meat in male company).

Stick with your teenagers, they will grow out of it. You don't want to be "estranged" for the next 10 years.

Harry.

Winky,_The_House_Elf

Its good that she is actually talking to her mother about what she wants to spend the money on, at least the way is open for discussion and compromise

Teens naturally want to be fashionable, and copy older Teens. I went out with my birthday money when I was 13, and got my ears pierced and my hair cut into a short punky spikey style(it was the 80's )

My mother was horrified as she had forbidden both, but years later she admitted she had a hard time keeping a straight face telling me off, as I really suited the new look!

Winky x

Saucepot

On the basis that I will have raised my daughter right, to have good values and stay away from drink, drugs and sex and only hold hands with boys until she's 40, I would trust her enough to spend the money how she wished whilst raising an eyebrow at the crazy fashions the kids are wearing these days. I would tell her not to run in the heels.

WKD-Lauren

bleached hair is getting a hard time here! my hair is bleached blonde - i get a toner put on at the hairdressers that makes it look more classy than brassy, thankyou i just found that it was the only way to achieve the full coverage of blonde-ness i wanted

if 'lisa' wanted to bleach it then id let her, only at hairdressers tho, anyway she'd need more than £150 to keep getting it re-dyed every 6 weeks, she'd soon decide she's rather be natural

Teacher2

No, she should not be allowed to leave the house sending signals to others she clearly does not understand herself. To allow her to do so would endanger her. Always be honest and firm with teenagers. Discuss the matter, give reasons for the ban on unsuitable clothing - but enforce it. And encourage her to save her capital sum and invest it in something which will be worthwhile in the long run like education, training, a cultural holiday or property with intrinsic value.