Depression Support Thread

rose07

ilovegreatdanes wrote: »

hi,

did you hear about patrick swayze?:eek: was really :eek: when i heard.thought he was so great in dirty dancing.wouldnt throw him out of bed on a cold night:D
has pancreatic cancer which is a bad one.....so just shows you.money cant buy health and happiness...so lets all thank him upstairs for what we have:T
dont sweat about the small stuff ,cos its all small stuff.
and with that thought ill bog off.....
love ilgd xx

you know ilgd you make me smile

i was gutted to hear about patrick swayzee, he can sway me anytime :rotfl:
your right money cant buy happiness, its the little things that count. like friends , family and dogs . oh and sex and chocolate is always good too :rotfl:

http://news.bbc.co.uk/newsbeat/hi/entertainment/newsid_7281000/7281657.stm

did you hear about the ADs that bring on suicide
http://news.bbc.co.uk/2/hi/health/7281305.stm
well seems we put our hands in the professionals, but they are not always right. hard to know when your takin soo much medication if it actually helps.
when my parents seen the news, set alarm bells as they obviously know what meds i been on. but im keepin stum
How are we meant to get better if there are constant questions about the drugs we are on.


how r u ilgd? hows the doggie?

my little one apparently had a good day, chasing the birds, and with her head down holes :rotfl:. me i work all day to feed her lol

take care
xxx

rose07

dawnylou wrote: »

I can't talk about my feelings. I get all choked up and end up crying then I can't talk at all!

That's why I need some way of controlling myself. I need to be able to keep it all in, to manage it all.

hi dawny

i agree with saz, much as we may want to keep our feelings in side, they have a way of sooner of later coming to the surface.
i keep things in, but it doesnt help it just builds up and thats when i explode, doesnt help me or anyone around me.
do you think you could start a diary, just writing little things to start with. maybe write it down here if you want. just soo you can let some of it out.

take care x

rose07

meyore wrote: »

Feeling rubbish today, I feel like a horrible person. OH has the chance to go to Gibraltar next month as support staff for a week or so. I should be pleased for him, but instead I'm jealous and grumpy because we never get to go away together. Why can't I be happy for him and why can't I enjoy my life when he isn't around, its not normal is it? He gets on fine without me, going out with his mates etc, why can't I be more like that?

aww hun, you sound like ya need some of these...





I think its natural to feel needed, to feel wanted. maybe this is how you are feeling. it sounds like you barely get to see your o, is tis right? so your bound to feel left out in some way, and this may be makin you feel the way you feel.
when we love someone we just want to be with them. hun what is normal, we are all different, god if we were all the same how boring would that be. im mad and proud coz its who i am, i know im not right but its a part of me.
people deal with things in different ways, cope in different ways. so the way you feel is natural to you hun

im here if ya ever need a chat
xxx

meyore

ilovegreatdanes wrote: »

i dont think you are horrible. if anything, id feel just like you.think you wil have to find a hobby to engross yourself in.what stuff do you enjoy?i love sudoku and am addicted to games on the net.also like reading romantic historical novels(yes, alright....i know, !!!but its brill escapism.)go and raid your local library for some and ,dare i say, look at the self help section.i also like cross stitch and embroidery.you could enter the comps on the comp thread and believe me, that takes care of a few hours.
just got to start with something you enjoy and develop it from there.
then when oh rings or comes home, you will have something diff to tell him, and you wont be brooding on stuff.
always could do your drawers out:eek: if you get totally bored.
love ilgd xx

I just hate feeling like this, I feel bad because he wouldn't begrudge me doing anything. I try reading (yes romantic stuff, I'm a sucker too!) and going to the gym etc, but I just don't get the enjoyment out of it without him here. Sad, but I don't know how to make it better.

I've cleaned, I've chucked out stuff and I've organised everything half to death. Just don't know what to do with myself.

meyore

rose07 wrote: »

aww hun, you sound like ya need some of these...





I think its natural to feel needed, to feel wanted. maybe this is how you are feeling. it sounds like you barely get to see your o, is tis right? so your bound to feel left out in some way, and this may be makin you feel the way you feel.
when we love someone we just want to be with them. hun what is normal, we are all different, god if we were all the same how boring would that be. im mad and proud coz its who i am, i know im not right but its a part of me.
people deal with things in different ways, cope in different ways. so the way you feel is natural to you hun

im here if ya ever need a chat
xxx

Thanks rose, I'm just feeling a bit crappy I guess. I don't have many friends around-my best friend moved to Ireland and my other friends have children etc and can't just drop them to look after me!

I'm applying for new jobs to try and make my life a bit nicer-why do I have to live in an area where theres no interesting jobs?

How are you at the moment, I haven't caught you on here in ages.

Xx

juno

dawnylou wrote: »

Hi all.

Hope everyone is well.
Struggling to get myself prepared for work even though I have til the 17th to get ready.

Please, please, please can you give me your tips for how to keep your emotions under control - how to prevent outbursts - how to avoid feeling that the world is against you just because something goes slightly wrong.

I need to know how you all do it. How do you get yourself through a full day at work??? How did I used to do it?

What I did was start off slowly. I only did 12 hours at first, and then I did occasional overtime when I felt up to it. This year I increased my hours permanently to 22, although I've been doing overtime recently to bump that up to over 30.
Is there any way that you can do something similar? Or have more breaks or delegate some of your tasks to other people?
If not, then I'm a strong believer in what Tiff and a few other people have said. You have to do things every day, like getting dressed etc, and then you'll start to feel better. You wouldn't be going back if you couldn't cope with it, so you just need to believe that and it will get easier in time.

Can you write down your feelings? Get one of those kids books with a lock on it if it makes you feel better that no one can read it. It's usually easier than telling people, and it will help you work things through in your head.

rose07

Miroslav wrote: »

:wave:

Hi Rose,

I'm not too bad, considering.

How are you? How is Jose?

I went back to my old gym today. I bumped into a chap that lives near me who asked me to go back, as a new chap has joined and is really annoying all the members talking about himself and his amazing physique and being really sleazy with the female members and putting them off going. He's been warned about his conduct but laughed in the managements face.

Anyway, I was told I was bigger than this guy, so I went in today and done some weights and the guys face when he saw me was priceless :rotfl: It's not my usual style but I told him to behave himself or i'd get upset and he agreed to be a good boy. I just hope he's not frightened some of the other members off as they've noticed some of them have disappeared. They said they would call them to try and convince them to come back, so here's hoping.

The extra good point about it was I enjoyed getting back into serious action and i'm thinking of making it a regular thing again. My free weights here are great, but I don't have the vast array of choice like this gym offers.

Enough of my boring stuff, hope you're well

:wave:

Hi darlin miro

how u doing hun?

Well me am soildering on. ive had a very strange 24 hours, all good, which is obviously good.
started with a phonecall last night that picked me up a little, its amazing how the small things make the world of difference.
then i was on my way into work and i got a phone call that i never expected!!! dont know if you remember me applying for a photography job on a cruise ship, get to travel and take photos, :D, anyway i wasnt expectin to hear back, but i got a phone call on my into work from mark, who is the boss of ships photographer, he rang, and we had a mini chat/interview, asked me there and then what experience i had, and if i was any good. so there and then i said im darn good, soo passionate and hard working, and i know my stuff. he said cool sounds great, but then he had another phone call and said how he would send me an email, and we will chat soon.
then i went into work....work today things were normal till about 2, one of the girls hadnt gone on her lunch and rang me, coz i am not on the shop floor, i can help. so i sorted and delegated other people so she could have her break, as our manager wasnt around. we never seem to be able to find them when we need to. she said, wow rosie something needs doing and you do it, you make things happen :D:D, so then i was upstairs and i kept gettin more phonecalls, from the other staff, askin for help, and consulting me on what they should be doing :rotfl::rotfl:. i think if you just show a little care, and help it can go an awful long way.

anyway then i went to the gym, so how much do you lift hun?, i bet it was great for the women there to see you, if they have felt threatened by this other guy with his oh look at me attitude, then it woulda been good to have a friendly face.
and it sounds like it helped you to go too. which is greeat do you make noises when you exercise? some of the guys at my gym, make groaning noises, ya would think they were in bed the noise they make :rotfl:
i do weights, one that ya have a bar and ya sit down and pull the bar down towards your chest, i also do this one where you sit down, with feet on bar, and ya hold handles and push. then another one where ya sit down, and there are two handles ya grab and push up, then i lift weights, and today i did 120 sit ups....come on :D:D
what is your routine you do?

you could never bore me hun, ya can go on as muc as ya like i will just listen

xxx

oh forgot to say the email i was expectin from the guy about the photography job, didnt come, i was waiting all day to get home and see my emails, but nothing was sent, so now im and , because i dont know if he had 2nd thoughts, or if it hasnt came through or what. he did seem real keen on the phone. but was gutted there was no email. should i get in contact with him and ask? or will i seem too keen?

thanking you

huggles
xxx

rose07

meyore wrote: »

Thanks rose, I'm just feeling a bit crappy I guess. I don't have many friends around-my best friend moved to Ireland and my other friends have children etc and can't just drop them to look after me!

I'm applying for new jobs to try and make my life a bit nicer-why do I have to live in an area where theres no interesting jobs?

How are you at the moment, I haven't caught you on here in ages.

Xx

aww you poor thing hun, keep the good fight going tho

i know what you mean, my closest friends live in london, very farr away for me, not just an easy train journey. so i avent seen them in 2 - 3 years. we speak every now and again but its hard. so understand on that front.
as for your friends that have kids, cant you go round to thiers, kids can be tucked up in bed while you have a chat and chill with your friends. im an auntie to about 3 children coz a few people i know have children. im auntie rosie that comes by whenever people are stressed and entertain the kiddie with a bedtime story, which is usually bob the builder. or thomas the tank engine. i know all the engines names:rotfl:

i know what you mean about livin in the wrong place, its soo how i feel, im trapped and isolated where i am, not easy to get anywhere. but hun, if your truly not happy, do something about it, move get jobs etc..i ave applied for jobs all over the place. sometimes we just need that someone to give us a chance.

yeah soz for the lack of posting atm, im really going thru it , just alot going on. and im feelin quite unwell.

u take care hun
xxx

rose07

Miroslav wrote: »

Because they are just not very nice. If they are just trying to hurt you, just get rid of them, you don'tneed it and deserve better.

Do you work for a big company? Do you have a head office? File a complaint, get the police involved if she makes an attempt to strike you.

aww thank you hun

unfortunately i cant get rid of this particular person, im either going to have to put up or storm out of it. and it will quite literally be a storm.

Yes i work for a big company, right ejits that they are, and the big boss is an ejit too and a baboon. i will do something if it gets too bad, i will either quit or make a officiial complaint and get her bum fired soo quick she wont be able to extiguish it :rotfl:

xx

rose07

ilovegreatdanes wrote: »

hi,
am just waiting for the survey man to come....we will see.
bmf.....im so glad you felt same re the puppy.was a bit scared that i would be reported for abuse button with my comments.....but i felt really strongly.
rose....hi, hope things are a bit brighter for you today.take care.xx
catch up l8r.
love ilgd xx

i agree wid ya bout the puppy, how dare people do that to poor dogs, they should be shot, erm the owners not the dogs, god me diggin a hole. :rotfl:
things are just ok today, not great, just kinda floatin by like a mashmallow, yum...mashmallows :drool: :rotfl:

how are you today? everything ok?

xx