Depression Support Thread

Tulip

:hello: Everyone,

I had a nice lunch at mums,went to my flat and she put up my Ambi pur air fragrance for me,then we went for a walk,I went to the post office to get money out for food shop tomorrow and then I came inside,I then went to Boots to get my prescription which was ready for me

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http://www.catapultassault.com/ its to do with Woolworths and you are automacally entered into a draw to win a prize when you complete a level,its dead fun,I have only got to level 7 and then my pc crashed on it


Katie

dawnylou

Hi all.

Hope everyone is well.
Struggling to get myself prepared for work even though I have til the 17th to get ready.

Please, please, please can you give me your tips for how to keep your emotions under control - how to prevent outbursts - how to avoid feeling that the world is against you just because something goes slightly wrong.

I need to know how you all do it. How do you get yourself through a full day at work??? How did I used to do it?

dawnylou

Btw Tulip - I meant to say well done for your comp!!



God I am so self-involved it makes me sick!!

Sazbo

dawnylou wrote: »

Hi all.

Hope everyone is well.
Struggling to get myself prepared for work even though I have til the 17th to get ready.

Please, please, please can you give me your tips for how to keep your emotions under control - how to prevent outbursts - how to avoid feeling that the world is against you just because something goes slightly wrong.

I need to know how you all do it. How do you get yourself through a full day at work??? How did I used to do it?

Dawny hun, big hugs xxx

You are not self involved - imo I'd say you are self-aware, which is very different.

I know with me, when I am down and really struggling, it looks to me as though everyone else is together, that everyone else is coping, which really isn't the case.

On a bad day, and there have been many of those, I have dreaded going to work - and I lie in bed dreading the sound of the alarm going off. Sometimes it's all I can do to get out of bed, get dressed and go out to work and not pick up the phone and say I'm not going in. I'm not going to lie; sometimes it is a real struggle.

But honestly, with the right help and support, it does get better. Not overnight, but it does get better.

I can totally understand how you feel about going back, but remember you did used to do it hun, and it will come back. Just give it time xx

As for controlling emotions, well, I'm the last person to ask about that lol For me it's worse if I bottle stuff up. If you have someone you can chat stuff through with, before it all gets built-up too much, that might help. Dunno if I'm making any sense?

That's just my two pennies worth hun.

You take care.

Much love,
Sazzy xxx

dawnylou

Thanks Sazzy. Been playing Snap on the search engine as can't even bring myself to do anything. Sitting in the dark naked on the bathroom floor! lol
I'm !!!!!!! freezing. Getting in the bath now. It's probably cold now too

dawnylou

I can't talk about my feelings. I get all choked up and end up crying then I can't talk at all!

That's why I need some way of controlling myself. I need to be able to keep it all in, to manage it all.

meyore

Feeling rubbish today, I feel like a horrible person. OH has the chance to go to Gibraltar next month as support staff for a week or so. I should be pleased for him, but instead I'm jealous and grumpy because we never get to go away together. Why can't I be happy for him and why can't I enjoy my life when he isn't around, its not normal is it? He gets on fine without me, going out with his mates etc, why can't I be more like that?

week

whitevanwoman wrote: »

Hi week
No probs - reply when you're ready or got time. No pressure.

Hmmm re : OT - sounds like another "tick in the box" service, well meaning but not really geared up to meeting the needs of the "service user" as they like to call us. Don't they realise that it's hard enough opening up and being honest with your GP and telling your lifestory to another stranger (I don't mean you personally) is both very stressful, very difficult and often a waste of time, leaving you to deal with the emotional consequences on your own afterwards. Was it Social Services OT or employers OT?

I definately think the highs are better than the lows. I had a wonderful few days last week and although I haven't crashed since, my mood has gradually dropped again to that kind of "not particularly depressed, not particularly happy" mood, which although it isn't great, I can live with, although it is difficult going out, being with people etc. I start on mood stabilisers tomorrow and I'm not sure what to expect.

I'm back at work after 6 weeks off on Monday. Its only 6 hrs ( 2 afternoons) a week at the moment (tourist industry - hours increase at Easter) but even so & despite having a great relationship with my fellow staff members and understanding managers, I'm beginning to feel a bit anxious. There's no real reason to feel anxious, they are going to give me easy, non-demanding work to do for the first few weeks (that means clearing out the stock room of all last years brochures and leaflets) and I won't be working with customers on my own, they are going to double me up with other members of staff for a while.

Did anyone see the surviving suicide programme last night (apols if this has already been discussed - haven't read all the past couple of days posts yet)? I thought it was excellent, the first person they featured, the lad who worked in the coffee shop, seemed to mirror my symptoms, feelings etc exactly. I have reached the point in my life where having lived with depression etc for virtually all my life, I'm tired of hiding it and pretending, which is part of the reason why I see myself as being a fake - and so I have made a decision to start being totally honest with people about my illness. I think it will be hard at first, but in the long run, hopefully people will be less judgmental about my not turning up for things, cancelling at the last minute or not getting in touch for weeks. Certainly my employers have been very understanding and supportive, for which I am immensely grateful, as it really does help in my recovery. I'm also very aware that I'm very lucky in having such support from employer, and I think it really depends on your immediate managers / boss and their understanding of mental health issues.

I won't get all those posts read if I keep sitting here waffling! Catch y'all laters.

Thanks for replying to my post WvW. I am seeing the nurse through my own psych, nothing to do with my work. I asked for some help(now) after my mainly positive oc therapy stint a couple of years ago. Also thought it would help with dla as well!!!!
I wish I hadnt bothered now, I am worried about what she will say to the psych re my mood.
What MS are you starting on?
I am due to see the psych again in 2 weeks but will have to call and change it as it is the same day my daughter is getting her braces off(and at a similar time).
I hate feeling depressed so much!!!
I am very anxious re the possible reduction/removal of my ADs. I spent a year depressed and have only had about 3 months high(er).
My daughter is giving me grief re the amount of time I spend online so I am sneaking on while she is at work. I might get a chance to come back on later!!
K.

Sazbo

Dawny - get in the bath hun ok? Get yourself warm. I know this sounds really weird, but talking about it actually helps control it. Keeping it all in doesn't control it - somehow it finds its own way out and often in a way that isn't very helpful, if you see what I mean.

Sxxx

ilovegreatdanes

meyore wrote: »

Feeling rubbish today, I feel like a horrible person. OH has the chance to go to Gibraltar next month as support staff for a week or so. I should be pleased for him, but instead I'm jealous and grumpy because we never get to go away together. Why can't I be happy for him and why can't I enjoy my life when he isn't around, its not normal is it? He gets on fine without me, going out with his mates etc, why can't I be more like that?

i dont think you are horrible. if anything, id feel just like you.think you wil have to find a hobby to engross yourself in.what stuff do you enjoy?i love sudoku and am addicted to games on the net.also like reading romantic historical novels(yes, alright....i know, !!!but its brill escapism.)go and raid your local library for some and ,dare i say, look at the self help section.i also like cross stitch and embroidery.you could enter the comps on the comp thread and believe me, that takes care of a few hours.
just got to start with something you enjoy and develop it from there.
then when oh rings or comes home, you will have something diff to tell him, and you wont be brooding on stuff.
always could do your drawers out:eek: if you get totally bored.
love ilgd xx