Depression Support Thread

Miroslav

Stephb1986 wrote: »

Every couple of months depends what he's done wrong and when i sulk with him he sulks with me but i dont last long and he does! im fed up of him sulking i txt him before and he's still not replied

Steph xx

So you're sulking because he's sulking about you sulking?

I don't know the whole story and what it's all about and i'm not going back through 14 pages

How many times have you text him? What did you say?

A previous girlfriend a few years back used to sulk all the time and at first I gave in, but then I started to tell her to stop sulking.

How many texts have you sent? Has he definitely got them? Does he have credit on his phone? Have you phoned him?

Maybe you haven't text more than once, in which case he may not have got the text. It does happen, although sometimes people use that as an excuse, I admit. I've had that one used on me many times!

Maybe you have sent numerous texts and he thinks you are a stalker.

Maybe he finds his mates more important than you, or maybe he thinks responding to you will be giving in to you and your text messages? Maybe he thinks you have more important things, like your car and feels less important?

How serious is the relationship? Is this the same guy from before Christmas? If it is, it sounds very destructive and insecure. How long have you been dating? Does he have depression?

Do I sound like a law enforcement officer with all the questions? :rotfl:

Basically, it sounds like you both sulk with each other and he's probably moaning with his mates about you, like you are here.

I can't say what he wants, as every man is different, as is every woman. For instance, I like a woman who stands up for herself, has the nuts to ask me out and I don't like girls who play games with me. The next guy may like the total opposite.

So, you know the guy........does he like being contacted alot by you? Or will it make him run away?

You have to sort the relationship out if it's the same guy as before Christmas, as these things keep popping up.

I had a very destructive relationship 14 months ago and trust me, sometimes you just gotta go for it, or say :wave: Silly games, whoever is playing them, usually end up with neither getting what you want.

Does any of that make sense? Thought not :rotfl:

Your relationship sounds all over the place and if you have depression, which I assume you have , by posting here, you need stability and not a destructive and/or insecure relationship.

Miroslav

Stephb1986 wrote: »

arghh im so angry!! ive told my OH to forget it ive had enough!

on friday he was going to look at a new car little did i know he was taking a mate with him and never thought to invite me even though he knew i had finished working early, then on saturday we went and picked the new car up and i drove his old s**t one back for him still not knowing that he took his mate and then yesterday we did stuff all and when i came home off to his mates again till 11pm when i said i wanted to talk to him about something. Im making all the effort in this relationship im so annoyed that he took his mate without even considering me have i been to rash?? he hasnt txt me back since so im guessing he's fell back to sleep and im still fuming he puts work and his mates before me i dont know if its worth it anymore.

Steph xx

Okay, so is this the post?

So have you told him to forget it, or are you still trying to text him? If you've told him to forget it, maybe he's trying to forget it? Did you 'dump' him?

On Friday, he was thoughtless, but I guess he does things with his mates too that don't involve you? Do you have any friends you do things with that don't involve him?

A relationship will rely on 2 people putting an equal effort in. If he's not putting enough into the relationship, you have to have words with him the next time you see him, but if you told him you've had enough, maybe he thinks he's 'dumped'? I think if someone told me they'd had enough of me, i'd assume I was dumped.

You just have to carry on living your life. If you've text him (once, twice, 15 times) you have to leave it now and wait for him to make the next move. If he wants to be in the relationship, he'll contact you and then you can talk. If he doesn't, he won't be in touch.

In the meantime, carry on doing whatever it is you do and think about what you want, because all the worry this relationship seemingly causes, cannot be good for you.

Miroslav

shazrobo wrote: »

hi all, been a tiring day today, but i have enjoyed it.
as a treat for mother's day, my sons decided to take me to the coast for mother's day, as they are only 12, it ended up me taking them, but the thought was there :rolleyes:
they were really well behaved and polite, daniel saw an elderly gentlemen struggle with a door and opened it for him, and joshua picked up a walking stick that an elderly lady had dropped and was struggling to bend down to retrieve it, really proud of them both.
had fish and chips as a treat, and walked plenty so hopefully the exercise will cancel out the cals lol
hope everyone else has had a good day
big hugs
shaz x

You've obviously done a very good job with your boys. :T

Miroslav

Well, i've gone as far back as I can. Miro is tired, so if i've missed anything, point me in the right direction

I have to say, i'm really enjoying expressing myself right now. I've upset people, but it weeds out the people who are false, from the people who are real. It brings an amazing amount of self confidence.

I've always been someone who stands up for what I believe in and someone who has always encouraged anyone to do the same. It despairs me when I see people not strong enough to do so. My flatmate for instance is a door mat for a few friends. She's better than she was, but one or two still take full advantage and I keep trying to get her to stand up for herself. She in turn, accuses me of being too aggressive with people and someone who can do things with no emotion.

It's a little untrue. I wouldn't say I was aggressive, but I can be very firm. I also have emotion, very much so. However, if I don't know the person that well and they make a wrong move or mess me about, I can dismiss them from my life with no hesitation.

That may sound harsh, but it's important to stand up for what you believe in and realise you have the right to your dignity and beliefs and not be taken advantage of. You are who you are, and if that's not good enough for someone, then there are 6.5 billion others that it may be good enough for.

I've spent numerous years getting over things and building myself back up. It will remain a battle and I don't think I will ever find the things that I want, but it won't be for lack of effort and I hope I get some nice surprises along the way.

I'm a long way from being where I want to be. I still have depression, I still have bad days, in fact I very very rarely have a good day, but I do things about things now and not just sit and let them take over me.

I hope Wednesday (that is tomorrow, right?) is a good day for you all and that you all empower yourself and beat anything thrown at you.

I'm aiming on going shopping and catching the eye of this sweet young lady I met on Monday :rotfl:

:wave:

Miroslav

COCO-POPS wrote: »

new username as don't want my ex reading this post,
but i am a regular poster on here so thought i would ask you guys:o
there is this guy who attends the same woodwork class as myself. i'm 37 he's 32. we get on well and have a laugh together in class.
last week, he came up to me all nervous and said, "can i tell you something"
i replied yes, and he said he thought i was nice.

i replied thanks. was too shy to say anything else. i really am attracted to him, but dont want to say anything to scare him off.

i gave him a lift home after class, and he gave me a hug, and kissed me, on the neck.

i do know that he hasn't got a girlfriend at the mo.

am i reading too much into this ?

:T :T :T :T :T :T :T :T

Enjoy and go with the flow. There are no rules, just let the journey be a long and and enjoyable one

Love is in the air
Everywhere I look around
Love is in the air
Every sight and every sound
And I don't know if I'm being foolish
Don't know if I'm being wise
But it's something that I must believe in
And it's there when I look in your eyes

Love is in the air
In the whisper of the tree
Love is in the air
In the thunder of the sea
And I don't know if I'm just dreaming
Don't know if I feel safe
But it's something that I Must believe in
And it's there when you call out my name

Love is in the air
Love is in the air

Love is in the air
In the rising of the sun
Love is in the air
When the day is nearly done
And I don't know if you are an illusion
Don't know if I see truth
But you are something that I must believe in
And you are there when I reach out for you

Love is in the air
Everywhere I look around
Love is in the air
Every sight and every sound
And I don't know if I'm being foolish
Don't know if I'm being wise
But it's something that I must believe in
And it's there when I look in your eyes

Love is in the air
Love is in the air

Love is in the air
Love is in the air

Tiff_2

Hi guys!:hello:
Apologies for missing Mewsday peeps - I had a medical appointment.....

!

And then I got home, with strict instructions to rest, which I managed for 35 minutes while watching Jasper Carrott and his Golden Balls. :silenced:
At this point, DS came in from college and it took me over an hour to decide whether to get him a takeaway, and what kind, and whether or not I'd kill him in his sleep!
I ordered his takeaway and then ordered a taxi and went to Asdaland alone. Hey - don't knock it - you haven't lived until you've been down the nibbles and dips aisle on a Mewsday night! Asdaland is my leisure trip out, I'll have you know! I keep lurking in the men's aisle by the Lynx deodorants, waiting for some lovely gentleman to test out the spray and then I could dive in and prove the Lynx effect!:dance: Well, I mean - what could they do to me? I'm already seeing a psychiatrist! See guys, there IS an upside to mental ill health!

It's nice to see peeps posting and I hope everyone is hale and hearty...that sounds like a soup advert, doesn't it?
Special thoughts to horace - I hope all went well sweetie and I kept you in my thoughts, as I do with you all. Good luck katie-tulip - I hope you get good results from the karaoke competition.
Just afore I go...and before the joke police get me......

State Trooper
A state trooper pulls a car over for speeding. In the car is an old lady who is hard of hearing and her husband.

When the trooper asks the lady for her driver's license the lady responds, "Heh, what did he say?"
The old man speaks up as he says, "HE NEEDS YOUR DRIVER'S LICENSE."
A few minutes later the trooper comes back to the car and says, "Ma'am I see you're from Florida."
The old lady comments, "Heh, what did he say?"
The old man speaks up as he says, "HE SEES YOU'RE FROM FLORIDA.'"
The old lady nods her head, "Yup."
The trooper mutters, "Boy, one time, I got the worst piece of !!! I ever had in Florida."
The old lady replies, "Heh, what did he say?"



The old man yells, "HE SAYS HE THINKS HE KNOWS YOU!


Sorry for lowering the tone there, guys. It's either too many hormones in the catnip ths morning or else it's the miro-effect!
Right everyone, make sure you wash behind your ears, wrap up warm and don't talk to anyone stranger than yourself - oh and beware of counterfeit smarties!




Be kind to yourself guys and safe journeys.
Much Love,
Tiff xxx

Tiff_2

Hi guys!:hello:

juno wrote: »

........ !!!

Bad Tiffy - bad! Sorry juno hun.;)

rbk - sorry it's a day late hunnie...

I hope your new birthday year will bring you only good things sweetheart.:T :A
Con-cat-ulations!:rolleyes:
Oh boy - are you guys in for it today!:p
Much Love,
Tiff xxx

Tiff_2

Hi sazzy!:hello:

Sazbo wrote: »

Everybody lift up your feet/paws - I'm coming through with the hoover:D:D

Sxx

YA MISSED A BIT!!!



:eek: :rotfl:

I know she won't get this until 12.30pm when she gets up :rolleyes: , but...
How's you hunnie? Don't forget to make time for some r & r, angel.;) Thinking of you sweetie.
Much Love,
Tiff xxx

BigMummaF

Just thought I'd let you know I'm still around even if me blummin tinternet isn't.....IYSWIM

I get thru vatching up on about a week's worth of posts to catch up on the [STRIKE]gossip[/STRIKE] news & then when I've written a really eloquant & amusing post, the bluddin fing turns into The Poota from the Black Chat-Room:eek:

Hope you had a good b'day RBK, & it will bring nowt but nice things for ever & a day:p

Thanks for letting us know you got home safely Tulip, & I'm keeping me fingers X for a good result.

I so agree with you ILGD....regardless of what breed involved, there is absolutely no excuse for that kind of behaviour. It's an outrage that they'll get off with a slapped ankle for that, but if they call a teaching aid used commonly with chalk by it's practical name, they would get kicked out of the forces for being racist:mad: This whole world is going to screwy.......

Nice to see you back Miro, QWB, Rose, Gillie,Tiff....ummm..& everyone really:D ....medications are beginning to wear off so I'd best go plug in the back-up gennie.

Hope you find a smile in your pockets...I find a feather in yer pants helps in that direction...& I wish you, as always, Peaceful Minds folks. BMFx

Stephb1986_2

Hi Miro i txted him last night and said that maybe he should grow up at bit and stop sulking and then we ended up arguing for a bit and he didnt reply to my last txt, he can get on with it now ive had enough. I just want him to make more of a effort is that too much to ask?

He can !!!!!! off now he's pushed me too far so much so i called him a !!!!! too lol, he got all my txts just decided not to reply to some of them. Ive involved him with my car, he has nothing to sulk about he aint the one who was left out. he said that he knows i want to be involved but we shouldnt do everything together. Its fault to begin with he was the one who went on nights not me.

Hope everyone is ok today

Steph xx