The giving up/cutting down alcohol support thread!

winebox

mornin all - just a quickie from me this morning - lots to do at work. How's your ankle shoppy? remember when I dropped that door on my foot in the summer? had to wear flip flops for 6 wks in the end - & that was due to too much wine.....

Had a fairly moderate (for me) weekend.....building up to abstaining this week....my usual trick is a "final binge" but that's silly cos then on day 1 I feel too rough to bother & so another week passes.

oops must go catch ya later.....

shopaholictiedtheknot

Depressed in the extreme, had too much wine AGAIN yesterday, was just feeling so down about my work situation so obviously I had to go and waste more money getting P&*%ed and obviously the answer was in the bottom of bottle number 2

Not much else to say really I am just a hopeless case!

polaroid

Hi guys, just read through the threads.
Oh no shoppy I know how you feel (well not with the ankle) but you drink, get blathered, wake up, you;ve done something silly, feel like carp, drink again, more problems, more to numb out, more drink, more guilt, more problems...

i was doing this viscious circle almost all week- with maybe one day of for good behaviour! It wasnt until i sought help and was (eventually) referred to a councellor that she explained what alcholol actually does to the brain. And sometimes if we are a depressed (or down) and we drink, it may seem to numb problem but it actually just blurs it but makes you more depressed. It is a depressant. if it were in tablet form we wouldnt dream of taking it. theres just something about that glass of wine (in my case) that seems so soothing and reassuring in difficult times.
please dont beat yourself up about this, we are human , we make mistakes and life is bloody hard work sometimes. today is a new day. sending hugs
xxxx

winebox

shopaholictiedtheknot wrote: »

Depressed in the extreme, had too much wine AGAIN yesterday, was just feeling so down about my work situation so obviously I had to go and waste more money getting P&*%ed and obviously the answer was in the bottom of bottle number 2

Not much else to say really I am just a hopeless case!

Watch out shoppy in case you do the other ankle. You & me need our heads banging together. Let's have a new start this week.

Polarid thanks you are spot on. My whole sense of worth is non-existent at the moment, mainly cos of my excess weight which is due to guess what, & I wake up feeling even more fat & worthless cos I had too much wine AGAIN the day before & so.........I do it again. It's a sort of torpor I can't snap out of at the moment, but feel a bit more positive for this week than I have in a while. So much is sheer habit rather than addiction with me. The time of year is forcing a change of routine which I think will help - mornings are getting too dark to go out early (I usually walk dog before DD wakes up) so I will have to start walking him when I get home from work, instead of glugging down that first glass

shopaholictiedtheknot

Thanks both of you, I have excess weight too and it is mainly down to alcohol, I have been trying to diet on and off for around 2 years with no success whatsoever:rolleyes: I am going to try really hard not to drink this week I am so sick of it!

jo1972

Needless to say, it all went wrong

So, I'm back :wave:

Wanna_Bee_Free

Been lurking on this thread for a while, which has been thought provoking for me and I'm ready to say hello and delurk now. Jo, this might sound odd but even though I've been reading this thread and not posting I was really pleased to see your post just now, welcome back.

So the last two weeks I've been trying to cut down on my booze (wine usually for me) . And it's been a bit of a shock becoming aware of quite how many units I'm drinking, finally them up counted for a change. Sign me up to the once I start I want to drink the ocean dry approach. So I am taking this a day at a time at the moment. Will initially try to increase the number of AFDs, and see how I go from there.

I had two AFDs last week, which I don't usually do. Although overall the rest of the week wasn't great, I was on a bit of a mission the other 5 days so will aim for three AFDs this week and try not to drink even more the other days to make up for them!

Cheers,
Bee

polaroid

so glad you are back jo :hello: :A

Different_Corner

Hi all,
Had a couple of lagers Sat and Sun night, no idea why didn't enjoy them.

Shoppie, I have several war wounds from PFO's. When I was around 18 - drinking that gut rot - hock - I fell and my my bottom tooth went through my top lip, still have a small scar over 20 years later. Just take it easy on yourself.

Polaroid I like that reference to taking alcohol in tablet form, I wouldn't consider it for a second, instant loss of control, and strange brain functions.

Jo, don't take this the wrong way, but welcome back.

On Lorraine Kelly this morning they had a piece on drink aware and how many people are just totally unaware of how many units they drink a week. 80 % don't know what the guidance levels are. They interviewed a mum of 6 who admits after the kids have gone to bed, she and hubby sit down, eat and share a bottle of wine together up to 4 times a week, not including any socialising. Pretty sure this is just average. The woman interviewed said she only really began to think about it when she put her recycling box out.....

I have to say I have lost around 5lb in the last two weeks - according to the Wii fit. Also I suffer from a mild form of psoriasis, this has calmed down amazingly recently, obvious to see why

I have family coming next week, and am not going to say no way, will just see how I go, then I'll be back on the wagon until Christmas.

Just like to say thanks to you all for posting on this thread, this is helping me keep my feet on the ground while the rest of the world rushes by.

SiannieLaz

:hello: afternoon all,
had a good weekend, a bit knackering. Worked behind the bar in my local on Friday night, no temptation at all watching all those idiots getting plastered. Had a few drinks bought for me, but just had pints of lime & soda. Was feeling so pleased with myself yesterday, made the classic mistake. Thought to myself how easy it had been, how good i was, therefore I don't have a problem - my addictive voice speaking :mad: gave into it and had a beer, and another, etc, etc. Woke up this morning feeling like death, really fed up with myself, told OH to move out last night which I don't remember. Can't believe what a total tw*t I've been:embarasse. I know that I just need to climb back on the wagon and not beat myself up but it's so hard. Feeling so low, but that's partly because of the drink. I realised a long time ago that I don't drink because I'm depressed, but I'm depressed because I drink. I just feel like such a d*ck, I know the warning signs that lead up to falling off the wagon, and I ignored them, and managed to justify my behaviour.
Oh well, I'll stop with the big sighs now and give myself a stern talking too. No doubt I'll get one off the OH tonite after virtually throwing him out for no particular reason.
I'm not even going to count today as a AFD as the amount I had last nite, there was definitely plenty left in my system today. If I'd have been pulled over and breathalised on my way to work this morning, I would have failed.
Anyway, time to stop whinging and jump back on the wagon
hope you're all well and being better than me!!!!