What can i feed the fussiest eater in the world?

themmackas

my ds is a very fussy eater and i think its all down to texture. I used to send him with a jam sarnie every day until one day whilst helping out on a school day out i saw him actually balking eating his sandwich. i didnt make a fuss at school but afterwards asked him about it, he said that he usally doesnt eat his sandwich because he hated it. I looked on here for some different inspiration for his lunch and now he alternates between buttered crackers and cooked chicken strips and i put a tub of sauce in for him to dip. He also has cucumber and carrot sticks, quavers a cheese string and a choc bar. He is starting secondary school in Sept and is looking forward to school meals.

LouBlue

Sarahsaver wrote: »

I wouldnt put up with it. I enjoy a good meal, and he is an adult. I couldnt have a relationship with someone that fussy. You are so patient! (Too patient?)

Totally agree! A fussy eater as a child is one thing, but a full grown man? Its taking away a lot of pleasures that you can both share as a couple, cooking each other a romantic meal, going out for meals etc...you stressing out each night about what to cook......I couldn't put up with that.

I wish you good luck and there are lots of helpful replies on here.

maypole

I think by now I would be telling him to cook his own.

kacie

i am a fussy eater too, at one point the only veg i would eat was whole tinned carrots, i've never eaten what most people would call normal meals, but there are times when i feel like trying new things at times where i like less things, but i've had to work that out for myself. My mum always made the same for everyone but i would only eat what i liked.

LittleTinker

hilstep2000 wrote: »

It drives me mad when I see posts like this! Bad enough making fussy kids, but fully grown adults!!!! In our house I decide what we're going to eat, and they either do, or starve! I'm a single divorced mum on a very limited budget, no fussy eaters here, they know better!!

Finally!! SOmeone with a bit of sense! You are exactly right and I do exactly the same.....as far as Im concerned its called Tough Love. I make a beautiful, healthy, well balanced meal.....you either eat it, or you dont. You dont eat....you go hungry! :-))

buxtonrabbitgreen

I have a fussy OH who doesn't seem to like my cooking so he does his own now. It helps that he doesn't want to eat at normal times and cooks usually after I have gone to bed. Early as I have to get up early. I also have a fussy veggie ds and a lovely unfussy dd. What I do now is one night I cook something vegetarian that I know ds will like and the next night something that dd and I like (anything really) That night ds cooks himself smoething or has a meal out of the freezer of leftovers from a night he likes. It's not ideal, but if I tried to give the fussy ones stuff they don't like they just leave it and make themselves midnight feast anyway.

moanymoany

I'm with ashmit on this. The danger you have is that if you work the family's meals around his likes and dislikes you could make the children just as fussy. I would batch make his favourites and then freeze them in portions he can get out of the freezer and microwave.

It would drive me bonkers, I wouldn't be able to cope. In the past I've had lots of French kids stay with me and only one of them has been the least bit fussy - and then it wasn't too bad. I think we mothers in the UK create fussyness.

I know in many family's each family member eats something different - it can be done because of ready meals. However, this is a bad thing as the children expect to be pandered to and become demanding. It is like dogs, they have to know their place in the pack as that is when they are happiest.

Saying all this, I didn't force my children to eat food they didn't like. However, if they decided to have a fussy day and wouldn't eat their meal - they had nothing else until the next meal. My dd hated and still hates anything that squeaks as you eat it - mushrooms and runner beans.

They are now both great cooks and very adventurous - as long as it doesn't squeak!

pigpen

I'd cook whatever I fancied and serve him some up.. if he chose not to eat it he would go without and I'd put it in the fridge for my lunch the next day or freeze it for another day.

I would not be limited by one personas to what I could or couldn't eat and I sure as heck wouldn't be cooking 2 meals.. I'd tell him to get a grip.. treat him like a child and say he was not allowed to leave it until he had had 3 fork fulls..

My husband didn't eat meat for years and years purely because his mother was such a horrendous cook it tasted foul.. he loves my food though.. ..

He is behaving like a spoilt brat and I would tell him so. I would also probably insist he cooked and you would eat it and if you cook he eats it.. both without complaining.

I don't ever eat any indian food but at the chinese there are only 3 dishes I will eat.. BUT.. a takeaway/eating out isn't quite the same as being a painint he rear at home!

welshmaiden

hi does anyone have any ideas on how i can feed my 11 year old son. i found this site a couple of weeks ago and i think its amazeing. started makeing changes one being trying to cut down my food bill. since my marriage broke up and my two eldest children left home i havent been eating very well and have lost too much weight which doesnt help when your suffering from depression. this is because when the other three lived with me i used to make large stews and casseroles and they where all good eaters and could eat there way through everything i made and i would eat with them. so now all the foods i like i no longer eat because it isnt worth makeing them because there would be a lot of waste. it never occured to me that i could make them and freeze them into individual portions. i have now started doing that again and freezing into portions whcih are just enough for myself and the baby and hopefully i will start to regain some of the weight i lost as im pretty underweight.
now i have two dependant children an 18 month baby who like my two older children will eat anything you put in front of him and an 11 year old who drives me mad with his eating because he wouldnt eat any of the stuff i am freezing because he wont eat anything in a sauce such as stew casserole spag bol.
his diet mainly consists of ham, beef and pork sandwiches ( he loves bread) chips lots of raw veg and cooked veg and lots of fresh fruit( so getting him to eat fruit and veg isnt a problem). he loves a roast dinner his favourite but not always practical and is expensive.he also likes plain spaghetti or pasta shapes. with grated cheese on top he will eat cheese on toast he wont eat pizza because it has tomato sauce on it. he wont eat any processed foods like burgers and sausages and fish fingers. it is a big worry to me that his diet is so limited and i worry that he might not be getting the right nutrition ( he is also on meds for adhd which suppress his appetite) i dare not put a box of mushrooms in the fridge without washing them because there eaten raw by him. tried him with home made bread last night and he absolutely loved that
if anyone has any ideas or easy recipes of things that i could try him with then i would be very gratefull. because im trying to cut my shopping bill down and i want to improve on his diet

LittleMissAspie

His diet doesn't sound that limited to me? If he's eating a large variety of fruit and veg then he won't be short on nutrients. Make sure his carbs are healthy, ie wholemeal bread, wholemeal pasta. Try to make sure his meat is proper meat, instead of processed slices which are high in salt and things.

I think he sounds pretty healthy actually. I guess you need to think of meals that aren't too saucy. How about stirfry, homemade pizza without the sauce, quiche, meat and veg etc.