New bed or potty training?

BrokeBrokeBroke

Which comes first?
My husband, our son and myself emigrated last October. We have been living with my parents since then up until 2 weeks ago when we bought a house of our own. Because of the changes he would be going through (also changed daycare 3 weeks ago), I have tried to 'hold back' some stuff, namely changing from cot to bed, and starting potty training. Which of these usually comes first? I would like to attempt them both quite soon. He asks for the potty sometimes, but not hugely interested in what goes on down below! Also he is very tall and at 27 months, I worry every night that he will topple out of his cot. He has been coping with all the changes very well and is very very impressed with his new house! but I'm concerned that if I try both together we may stress him out too much. The other thing is I am working full-time at the moment, which he is non too impressed about! but is only until September. (I got a contract as we wanted to get some money together quickly to buy our house). Any ideas on which should come first? Or do we try both together and do the whole 'Big Boy' bit in one go? Which would you try first? Thanks in advance!!

swizzle_2

I would say a new bed, both mine were in big beds before potty training.

As for the potty training I would say 27 mths is still young for a boy, keep a potty about so he knows what it`s for and let him go nappy less outside in the summer, so he can see whats going on. Then when you have more time in sept see how he goes.

Good luck!!

Mumstheword

I'd agree, new bed first - you can get plastic backed sheets.
Even if you manage to potty train now, he could be in nappies at night til 5 or older - look a bit daft in a cot then!! And if he does decide to get up in the night for a pee, he needs to be in a bed.

Mumxx

BrokeBrokeBroke

Thanks for these, that's kind of what I thought too, but there seems to be a lot of emphasis on whether kids are potty trained or not I almost thought that was the most important thing to be getting on with. Now I just have to work on my middle of the night gegotiation skills, 'Back to bed, it's night night time you little monkey'.
This is exciting as I get to go 'Big Boy Bed' Shopping!!!!!!

jenpoptab

I think bed first. I struggled with changing little one to bed but now she really likes it. I think I did it whilst she was too young as she was only 19 months old.

With regards potty, I have left one in living room since she was 18 monthsold, 4 weeks ago she just started on it herself with no pressure from me and has only had few accidents since then, so I'd say be led by what they need.

Dormouse

I would say go with the flow as well - do whatever he seems to be ready for first.

I've just got mine out of nappies at daytime (at 24 months - a bit of a miracle) but as he's still in his cot, this morning we were woken up at 5 by a whingeing boy who did not want to wee in his nappy but wanted the potty :rolleyes:. Then again, even if he was in a bed, would I really trust him to go on the potty by himself at this age, don't think so! A bit of a catch-22...

quietheart

Having just caught my nearly 2yr old toppling out of his cot I would definitely get him in a bed! Safety first and all that.
My first was nearly 3 before he was potty trained, we waited until he was ready and he was dry day and night within a day or two. I see people potty training for months on end and it just seems like madness.
Best of luck

Ally

I'd agree with the bed first .... much safer with adventurous kids!

Our eldest was fantastic with potty training, and just before her 2nd Birthday, she wasn't wearing nappies during the day, just before her 3rd birthday, she stopped wearing them at night! We got her one of those potties that looks like a really mini toilet, which she loved, 'cos it was "grown up"! Later is can be added to a "adult" toilet seat to adapt it, and the base is used as a step.

Our youngest is gonna be 2 on monday and we have decided to push her a long a little 'cos she is not showing the right kinda interest in the potty, she thinks its for hiding things in :rolleyes: But she has been letting us know when she is about to make a deposit in her nappy, but just never wants to sit on potty .... time for pull ups me thinks ... 'cos I've had enough of sitting on her potty and singing "pee pee in the potty ... pee pee in the potty"

You could try both, just go for what feels right for your little boy .... make it exciting with the whole "big boy" song and dance just don't go OTT 'cos you'll drive yaself mad if you have to do it over and over

Dormouse

Ally wrote:

make it exciting with the whole "big boy" song and dance just don't go OTT 'cos you'll drive yaself mad if you have to do it over and over

I think I went a bit OTT with all the praise while potty training... Every time me or hubby go to the loo now, Dormouse Jnr is clapping his hands going "Yeeeeeaaaah!" :rotfl:

katskorner

I think the two things are down to your son. My son is 20mths old and he is fascinated with the toilet and hs own personal toilet seat but he is not really keen on the potty. I think we are moving towards getting him on the toilet soon - he will sit on the potty with a nappy as a seat but he will more readily sit on the toilet.

He is still in his cotbed and I am preparing to move him out but not until we feel he doesn't want to be in the cotbed anymore. Once he starts showing signs of climbing out or complaining about the bars then we will consider moving him.

I guess I am letting him guide things. That way he has a big part and should adjust easier as he will have instigated the changes. It has seemed to work with other things so far.

jellyhead

i'd say get the bed first, but then my son was past his 3rd birthday before he was toilet trained, so he went onto the toilet with a seat to make it smaller, stop him falling through, bypassed the potty although i did try the potty from time to time when everyone else was potty training their children. he just wasn't ready to come out of nappies. he was dry night and day at the same time, about 3 months after his 3rd birthday. people would stress about potty training or brag at toddlers about theirs being toilet trained much earlier than other children but they still wore nappies at night long after my son stopped. it's nothing to worry about, when a child wants to come out of nappies they will. it was the same with walking, everyone at toddler group saying 'oh, isn't she walking yet' in a snide way to those whose are slower at crawling/walking. mine was walking at ten months, it means absolutely nothing, he's clumsy and has no balance now, early walking isn't a sign of great genius and neither is early potty training. i used to get upset at how long potty training was taking but with my second baby i'll just relax, it really doesn't matter.