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Long distance relationship v debt repayment
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Your friends will have hyped you up to the ceiling - you supermodel you...
Would a relationship take you out of your comfort zone?
I think you have probably hit the nail on the head ZTD. I am perhaps a little out of practice. I don't enjoy the dating scene, never did as a teenager.. in fact I married my first boyfriend!
Apart from at work, when I am super assertive.. I don't have a lot of self confidence and always question why someone would want to be with me.
My last boyfriend 4 yrs ago contributed to my debt.. I was so grateful someone had asked me out I would do anything for him including buying all of his booze and lending him cash. He turned out to be a bankrupt alcoholic and after just 8 wks of dating he dumped me for someone richer and more gullible and left me with a £1000 overdraft. I then was so depressed I went on mad spending sprees such as massages, new clothes to cheer myself up.
I think having this debt is a bit of a passion killer, like always-amazed says "a DVD and a home cooked meal" isn't exactly appealing in a new relationship!
I have turned my phone off, I can't be bothered with him replying to my message.
Second and final LBM 01/01/11 Nearly got there but fell of wagon. HAVE to do it this time :mad:0 -
My OH spent nearly £1500 over a 19 week period hiring a car each weekend to come and see me. He stuck it all on his cc and then had to cash in his life insurance policy to pay it off, plus his bank o/d. Mind you that was 23 years ago, we are still happily married and it was worth every penny (but we had met before he moved away with his job and had both been bitten by the luv bug! :smileyhea )When you were born, you were crying and everyone around was smiling. Live your life so at the end, you're the one who is smiling and everyone around you is crying! :rotfl:0
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Squirrel29 wrote: »I think you have probably hit the nail on the head ZTD. I am perhaps a little out of practice. I don't enjoy the dating scene, never did as a teenager.. in fact I married my first boyfriend!
So use him as a disposable target to improve your technique, get you out the house and other such things. (:whistle:)
He's so far away, most of your friends will never know.Squirrel29 wrote: »I think having this debt is a bit of a passion killer, like always-amazed says "a DVD and a home cooked meal" isn't exactly appealing in a new relationship!
You'd be surprised. If he's interested in *you* he won't need to be entertained by anything else.Squirrel29 wrote: »I have turned my phone off, I can't be bothered with him replying to my message.
Use instant messenging - cheaper..."Follow the money!" - Deepthroat (AKA William Mark Felt Sr - Associate Director of the FBI)
"We were born and raised in a summer haze." Adele 'Someone like you.'
"Blowing your mind, 'cause you know what you'll find, when you're looking for things in the sky." OMD 'Julia's Song'0
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