Overwhelmed Bumbling

joedenise

It sounds to me that if you can find the money it would be worth paying a man to cut the grass so you can then keep it under control. You'll still need to buy replacement garden tools but it will be much easier once it's been cut back.

vampirotoothus

Hi, you are going to need to sort the tools either fix them or buy replacements (maybe 2nd hand) and if you don't buy them but pay the man you are going to end up in the same situation. Do you know anyone that could lend you a mower? If not maybe a compromise and ask him to do half the work (nearest to what you want to use) and then repairs with the other half? You could probably do them both, the trimmers probably need some lubricant only. Good luck V x

Oceans7

Still no gardening done 😕 however I have bought tools so I can start! All bought for £30 off of market place. I think I might be able to do some on Saturday evening maybe, if not it will have to be Monday evening. I never seem to have any time to do anything.

In money news its not looking great. I am really worried about how I am going to cope. It appears that I might not actually get any wages from new job. Other colleagues have told me that it is paid monthly but how the pay periods are worked out I might only have a weeks wages or even none in my first pay. I just don't know. This is causing me a lot of stress but I think it will have to be a case of wait and see. I think I should get my first payslip on Tuesday or Wednesday next week. Knowing will be better than not knowing I think - even if its not good news. At least then I can try and plan.

Tomorrows plan is

• make lunch for work
• work day job
• work side hustle after work
• try and do a quick clean of kitchen

beanielou

Can you not ask HR or what is in your contract?

Oceans7

Still no gardening done BUT I am definitely going to do some this coming week. I am going to treat my home life like I do my work life and schedule myself times where I have to do things - its the only way I can see of organising myself enough. I think I might have ADHD, which isn't an excuse but I do think its maybe not helping.

Tomorrow is pay day!! I've got my payslip and its better than I thought which is going to take a huge weight off my mind. I will not have enough money to go wild but I will have enough money this month to pay my bills and basics. But I will 100% have to be aware of the budgets and stick to them. Am concerned the school holidays will make things hard and I would love to be able to just do whatever we wanted but I can't. We are planning some free activities and I intend to spend some time with family and packing picnics and taking DD and dogs off for some walks to areas we've not explored yet, I'm very lucky to live in a beautiful part of the country. I'm hoping perhaps DD will help me with the garden over the summer - I am trying to be realistic and think I will not have a lovely garden this year. I do not have the funds or the time. But I am breaking it down to manageable sections and my intention is to be able to fully enjoy my garden next year. If I can at least see small changes it will encourage me to keep going.

Jobs for tomorrow :

• Go to work
• Pay bills and transfer money to relevant pots
• Clean kitchen
• Research how to take / grow cuttings
• Buy a birthday present

Jobs for the weekend :

• Cut back some of the back garden
• Move fence panels ready to be erected
• Clean dining room
• washing
• Remove 10 items of clutter from the house (I think I will try and keep count of how many items I can remove by the end of the year)

Budget, budget, budget!!

beanielou

Budget budget budget is good!

Oceans7

Well it has been a little while since my last update and not really very much has changed financially. First round of repayments and Direct Debits have been paid and I have stuck to my budgets despite it being really hard - summer holidays are making it even more difficult! I have applied for free school meals for September due to the changes made to the eligibility, so hopefully that will help a bit?

I am feeling incredibly tired and exhausted both physically and mentally. There is only one of me but it feels like so many people want so much from me and there's just not enough time for everything. And all I really want to do is hide away and be left alone.

I have done no gardening at all BUT older DD has been looking after little DD while I have been at work and they have been tackling the garden as best they can - and they have done an amazing job and I am so grateful to her. She is now stuck though and cannot do anymore until I cut down the next bit. I am going to do it this evening.

I have decided I would like to live with my DP. I have not raised this with him yet. This feels like a huge decision and I need to sort my debts and house before this could happen. He has no debt and is the complete opposite of me as he is really tidy and organised. This is something I have been thinking about for a long time and I think this contributes to a lot of my issues as I go to his house to avoid my own as I don't know where to start and I just want to be with him - I realise this makes me sound about 15 🤣

Time to get ready for work!

PollyWollyDoodle

Maybe that is an objective - get yourself debt free so that you could start on a new page with him. Does he know about your debts? Could he help you to organise yourself?

I was really coming on here to say about the gardening; tell yourself you’ll just do half an hour each day. That way it doesn’t become overwhelming, and you’ll probably find that you want to finish the section that you’re on and do a little bit more. My other tip is ‘before’ and ‘after’ photos. You don’t need to keep them, but if you’ve got a lot of weeds or brambles, you can sometimes feel that you’re getting nowhere. Looking back at how it was when you started half an hour earlier you can see you’ve made progress.

You have got a lot to do, so be kind to yourself. It’s the little things you do every day (taking lunch, having an NSD) that will add up.

beanielou

Baby steps. Hopefully the free school meals will help a lot. Well done to both DD’s.

Oceans7

Whoops its been a little while since I've written in my diary. Good news though as I have continued to be aware of spending and am just about within the budgets. Being the school holidays is really hard. I have applied for a second job this morning so fingers crossed that will help if I could get it, if not I will look for another one. Earnt £60 today from side hustle. I have set up a further 2 payment plans and I think there is potentially another 2 debts I need to contact. I am feeling determind and motivated.

In other news I have finally cut the back garden!!