Splitting moving costs

dogmummy

I moved in with my boyfriend three years ago. I have my own room(menopause } but none of the furniture or household bits are mine. I still have a house elsewhere. My boyfriend has sold up and we are going into rental. He wants me to pay 50% of the moving costs £1000 my share. He refuses to get a lower quote or move ourselves. Renting a van and buying boxes would cost £500. We are moving locally. For info I’ve been paying £600, keeping house and doing all the chores as I’m semi retired.

Jemma01

To me, it is not relevant if the stuff is yours or his, since you both use it equally before and after. What IS relevant to me is agreeing on the moving costs you're prepared to pay, and being willing to move things with him equally (if there's manual labour involved). If he's refusing, and you've got a lower quote, then split the lower quote and tell him, "This is my half of the quote that I think we should go for. If you want an expensive service, pay the difference."

What makes you want to pay rent when you've got your own home? Is your home a rental?

gwynlas

I suspect that there is far more going on here than you are saying eg you haven't given any background to the issue of why the sale is happening and the need for a rental.

So essentially you are paying to be a live in housekeeper with the £600 presumably covering more than your share of food and bills.

Fair enough that you have kept on your house are you letting it out to cover costs there?

If you are happy to be leaving that property and moving to the rental with him to continue your relationship then I suggest that you pay half the cost to keep the peace.

On the other hand you could say that as a lodger you should not be contributing to this move