[Troublesome co-executor]

Jennex

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silvercar

“ Couldn't the co-executor simply suddenly agree to act after I've applied to court”

That would be a good result. Draft the application to court and send it to them. Give them 10 days to either act or you will go to court. Suggest you will apply to the court for these costs to be assigned totally to them

twopenny

Sounds like you are being well and truly manipulated for some reason only known to the other person.

Presumably they have a list of their costs. If not they will be scuppered.
Have you kept a record of what you asked and the replies with dates? If not then start now. Build your case.
Also any requests made by the solicitor and costs.
Make a file with all of this in date order.

Arrange for anything like the car MOT that needs doing. List and costs.
Also your expenses for travel to the other executor because they wouldn't come to you or meet halfway.

Also know what you want to happen. Tell the co executor that everything is in place and agree with Silvercar. Have the application to court filled in and say you intend to proceed if they don't cooperate.
You don't have to but being ready to do so may wake them up.

Sounds like they will try and manipulate the situation again, they've obviously had practice but stick to one sentence and repeat.