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incontinence is expensive. Can my deputy refuse my continence purchases?

I buy my own pads because the NHS ones are rubbish, they are Tena slip Maxi but they are cloth backed and they are rubbish so I buy my own, which I get the better ones but they are expensive, but they are worth in for pease of security. It seems I keep asking my deputy for money for continence purchases, its not just the pads but skin cleaning foam and dry wipes, XL nappy bags, disposable gloves, it all adds up and its cheaper to buy in bulk, I'm waiting for my deputy to put £220 in my bank to buy my hygiene products, they should last 3 months because its in bulk, can he refuse to give me the money even though its needed. I'm spending £270 a month on continence products, can they force me to use the rubbish pads the NHS wants to give me. What can I do and say if he starts refusing it, which he hasn't yet but I'm anxious.

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  • Grumpy_chap
    Grumpy_chap Posts: 19,373 Forumite
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    It sounds like the purchases you wish to make are perfectly reasonable choices.
    The role of your Deputy is to facilitate your wishes so far as practical (all in your best interests) and to support you in not making rash purchases that will have a negative outcome.
    From your previous threads, I understand you have sufficient financial means to support this type of choice.
    How long has your Deputy been holding off from processing this transfer?
  • marcia_
    marcia_ Posts: 3,803 Forumite
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    I buy my own pads because the NHS ones are rubbish, they are Tena slip Maxi but they are cloth backed and they are rubbish so I buy my own, which I get the better ones but they are expensive, but they are worth in for pease of security. It seems I keep asking my deputy for money for continence purchases, its not just the pads but skin cleaning foam and dry wipes, XL nappy bags, disposable gloves, it all adds up and its cheaper to buy in bulk, I'm waiting for my deputy to put £220 in my bank to buy my hygiene products, they should last 3 months because its in bulk, can he refuse to give me the money even though its needed. I'm spending £270 a month on continence products, can they force me to use the rubbish pads the NHS wants to give me. What can I do and say if he starts refusing it, which he hasn't yet but I'm anxious.
     If you are being provided with what they deem to be a suitable service they can refuse funding for an alternative they do not feel is necessary. 
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