incontinence is expensive. Can my deputy refuse my continence purchases?

williewonder

I buy my own pads because the NHS ones are rubbish, they are Tena slip Maxi but they are cloth backed and they are rubbish so I buy my own, which I get the better ones but they are expensive, but they are worth in for pease of security. It seems I keep asking my deputy for money for continence purchases, its not just the pads but skin cleaning foam and dry wipes, XL nappy bags, disposable gloves, it all adds up and its cheaper to buy in bulk, I'm waiting for my deputy to put £220 in my bank to buy my hygiene products, they should last 3 months because its in bulk, can he refuse to give me the money even though its needed. I'm spending £270 a month on continence products, can they force me to use the rubbish pads the NHS wants to give me. What can I do and say if he starts refusing it, which he hasn't yet but I'm anxious.

Grumpy_chap

It sounds like the purchases you wish to make are perfectly reasonable choices.
The role of your Deputy is to facilitate your wishes so far as practical (all in your best interests) and to support you in not making rash purchases that will have a negative outcome.
From your previous threads, I understand you have sufficient financial means to support this type of choice.
How long has your Deputy been holding off from processing this transfer?

marcia_

williewonder said:

I buy my own pads because the NHS ones are rubbish, they are Tena slip Maxi but they are cloth backed and they are rubbish so I buy my own, which I get the better ones but they are expensive, but they are worth in for pease of security. It seems I keep asking my deputy for money for continence purchases, its not just the pads but skin cleaning foam and dry wipes, XL nappy bags, disposable gloves, it all adds up and its cheaper to buy in bulk, I'm waiting for my deputy to put £220 in my bank to buy my hygiene products, they should last 3 months because its in bulk, can he refuse to give me the money even though its needed. I'm spending £270 a month on continence products, can they force me to use the rubbish pads the NHS wants to give me. What can I do and say if he starts refusing it, which he hasn't yet but I'm anxious.

 If you are being provided with what they deem to be a suitable service they can refuse funding for an alternative they do not feel is necessary. 

sheramber

marcia_ said:

williewonder said:

I buy my own pads because the NHS ones are rubbish, they are Tena slip Maxi but they are cloth backed and they are rubbish so I buy my own, which I get the better ones but they are expensive, but they are worth in for pease of security. It seems I keep asking my deputy for money for continence purchases, its not just the pads but skin cleaning foam and dry wipes, XL nappy bags, disposable gloves, it all adds up and its cheaper to buy in bulk, I'm waiting for my deputy to put £220 in my bank to buy my hygiene products, they should last 3 months because its in bulk, can he refuse to give me the money even though its needed. I'm spending £270 a month on continence products, can they force me to use the rubbish pads the NHS wants to give me. What can I do and say if he starts refusing it, which he hasn't yet but I'm anxious.

 If you are being provided with what they deem to be a suitable service they can refuse funding for an alternative they do not feel is necessary. 

I don’t think the OP wants to be supplied with them.

He wants to buy them with his own mone. 

From previous threads he has sufficient income to do this. 

marcia_

sheramber said:

marcia_ said:

williewonder said:

I buy my own pads because the NHS ones are rubbish, they are Tena slip Maxi but they are cloth backed and they are rubbish so I buy my own, which I get the better ones but they are expensive, but they are worth in for pease of security. It seems I keep asking my deputy for money for continence purchases, its not just the pads but skin cleaning foam and dry wipes, XL nappy bags, disposable gloves, it all adds up and its cheaper to buy in bulk, I'm waiting for my deputy to put £220 in my bank to buy my hygiene products, they should last 3 months because its in bulk, can he refuse to give me the money even though its needed. I'm spending £270 a month on continence products, can they force me to use the rubbish pads the NHS wants to give me. What can I do and say if he starts refusing it, which he hasn't yet but I'm anxious.

 If you are being provided with what they deem to be a suitable service they can refuse funding for an alternative they do not feel is necessary. 

I don’t think the OP wants to be supplied with them.

He wants to buy them with his own mone. 

From previous threads he has sufficient income to do this. 

 Ty I didn't realise that. Then yes they can't really withhold the op money for this. 

born_again

While not exactly on topic.

This ties in nicely with another thread from OP. Which does not show the deputy in a very good light in terms of what they are doing to help & protect the OP.


https://forums.moneysavingexpert.com/discussion/6645750/we-are-1326-26-in-credit-with-our-gas-and-electric-should-we-ask-for-it-back

kayte45

One thing you could try is to get you specialist cleaning products on prescription, as they are prescribed to many using incontinence products. The B & B service can help get prescriptions for these, they should be linked to skin wellbeing not use of Tena. 

elsien

born_again said:

While not exactly on topic.

This ties in nicely with another thread from OP. Which does not show the deputy in a very good light in terms of what they are doing to help & protect the OP.


https://forums.moneysavingexpert.com/discussion/6645750/we-are-1326-26-in-credit-with-our-gas-and-electric-should-we-ask-for-it-back

To be fair to the deputy they have no control over other tenants throwing doors and windows open and running up high bills. 

And the OP is presuming the deputy will say no, based on very little  as far as I can tell, because they’ve pretty much had what they asked for in the past moneywise going on other earlier threads. 

KxMx

I think OP has a particular fixation on financial matters as part of their mental health conditions. 

TimeLord1

Why don't you show the deputy your thread on here to show that it's causing you stress? Maybe you can come to an agreement. Just a thought.