Accept entitlement under a will?

Marcon

kuepper said:

Despite maintaining good relations with my ex-wife and her mother I've been very surprised to be notified I am a beneficiary in the will of my ex-wife's mother to the tune of a few grand. Not sure what my ex wife and other members of her family feel about it, I imagine none of them will be happy. I haven't talked to my ex wife yet and not sure what to say if I did. I like money as much as anyone else but I feel torn about whether to accept it or not (who does it go to then?). Anyone had a similar situation?

You don't think you might be overthinking this...? Seems to be a bit of a drama for no good purpose - nobody is going to contest a bequest of a few grand.

kuepper

Ms_Chocaholic said:

kuepper said:

Ms_Chocaholic said:

lk goesNot had a similar situation but she clearly wanted you to receive a portion of her estate.  Do you have children with your ex-wife, if so maybe this is why.  Did you have a good relationship with her when you were married.  

Try not to worry what your ex and other members of her family think, this was a decision of her mother and she has to accept it. 

I'd enjoy the money.

Yes we always had a good relationship and yes she had a granddaughter from my marriage, I'm surprised she didn't give it to her directly but apparently she didn't give anything to her grandchildren from my wife's second marriage either. So if I give the  woul to my daughter (which I'd thought might be a solution ) that might cause ructions between her and her half siblings (and their mother too).

Presumably though your MIL left some of your estate to her daughter (you're ex) so she can share her share with the children if she so wishes.

Yes , besides a charitable donation the bulk goes to her 2 daughters from what I gather

poseidon1

Accept it then put it in a bank account or junior isa, for your daughter to take control when she attains age 18 (assuming she is minor).  

Grandmother may not have been in  the habit of passing money to her grandchildren but nothing stops you building a nest egg for your own child. I' m sure she would come to appreciate it.

kuepper

Marcon said:

kuepper said:

Despite maintaining good relations with my ex-wife and her mother I've been very surprised to be notified I am a beneficiary in the will of my ex-wife's mother to the tune of a few grand. Not sure what my ex wife and other members of her family feel about it, I imagine none of them will be happy. I haven't talked to my ex wife yet and not sure what to say if I did. I like money as much as anyone else but I feel torn about whether to accept it or not (who does it go to then?). Anyone had a similar situation?

You don't think you might be overthinking this...? Seems to be a bit of a drama for no good purpose - nobody is going to contest a bequest of a few grand.

I wasn't thinking that anyone would contest it, just the morality of taking it or not

Emmia

kuepper said:

Marcon said:

kuepper said:

Despite maintaining good relations with my ex-wife and her mother I've been very surprised to be notified I am a beneficiary in the will of my ex-wife's mother to the tune of a few grand. Not sure what my ex wife and other members of her family feel about it, I imagine none of them will be happy. I haven't talked to my ex wife yet and not sure what to say if I did. I like money as much as anyone else but I feel torn about whether to accept it or not (who does it go to then?). Anyone had a similar situation?

You don't think you might be overthinking this...? Seems to be a bit of a drama for no good purpose - nobody is going to contest a bequest of a few grand.

I wasn't thinking that anyone would contest it, just the morality of taking it or not

I don't see that there's a moral question - take the money, if you don't want it yourself, invest it for your daughter to have when she's 18.

If you'd inherited the entire estate I might advise differently (unless reasons were set out in the Will or a letter with the Will) on a moral basis, but this is presumably only a small percentage of the overall total.