executor having sibling trouble

Bazza_a

Hi my brother died last December witbout a will, im sorting everything out and have been granted probate and letter of administration, my sister (whom I'm keeping up to date with this) keeps texting me that her ex son in law ( an American lawyer) seems to be taking an interest, ive told my sister I'll provide all paperwork for her when its done and Bill's/creditors have been paid, I even said I'd make an interim payment when the banks release the money as opposed to waiting till bills are paid, it took me months to track his accounts as he didn't leave any information and I am the only person granted probate,
" will need copies of bank statements,what there is,what needs to be paid and to whom and hopefully what we'll get at the end of it all, before you go off on a tangent my ex son in law will ask wheres the proof,its good having a lawyer in tbe family,but all the T's have to be crossed and all I 's dotted,anything not right he will spot it"
that was the last text after I informed her I'd received the letter of administration
I'm afraid my sister is really beginning to annoy me with this mistrust and seems veiled threats,
a Ii ok to just carry on settling my brothers estate without her interference, she didn't get in touch with my brother even though she new he had Mesothelioma, and only got in touch when she needed money, just seeking a bit of advice
thanks in advance

born_again

What does a American Lawyer know about British system?

Just tell her she will get a update once you have finalised everything, & supply copies of all paperwork at that point.

Keep_pedalling

All you need do once you have got in the last of the assets and paid the last bill is to give your sister her share of the estate and a set of estate accounts. You have no obligation to go further and provide copies of bank statements and bills expect unless you want to. A US lawyer has zero knowledge of UK law and should be told to go forth and multiply. 

mebu60

Keep_pedalling said:

All you need do once you have got in the last of the assets and paid the last bill is to give your sister her share of the estate and a set of estate accounts. You have no obligation to go further and provide copies of bank statements and bills expect unless you want to. A US lawyer has zero knowledge of UK law and should be told to go forth and multiply. 

Exactly this. 

Baldytyke88

I am surprised that you are making an "interim payment", just wait until its all sorted.

poppystar

I’d cross the t’s and dot the i’s by not now making an interim payment! 

YBR

He's an ex son-in-law? what right has he to stick his nose in? Has he an interest in the estate?

Flugelhorn

don't make the interim payment - the American EX son in law who knows little is an EX and hence shouldn't be interfering 

Bazza_a

thanks people,think I needed a bit of reassurance, bit peeved with her as he died on 29/12 last year was his birthday on 21/12 and obviously xmas 25/12 she couldn't be bothered phoning him, I asked my brother should I inform anyone and he said he'd tell them if they phoned.

WillowLeaf

Bazza_a said:

...it took me months to track his accounts as he didn't leave any information and I am the only person granted probate...

Probably a bit late for you now but this service will help you find lost bank accounts -https://www.mylostaccount.org.uk/

Re: the random guy who happened to be married to your niece once, I would say and do as little as possible. Like with the police, you can end up trapping yourself by saying too much. Just provide the minimum you need to with no comment. That's what I would do anyway.

Edit: The ex son-in-law could be a patsy and it's actually your sister who wants all the proof.