Rent Arrears my daughter wasn’t aware of

lincroft1710

Mehappy44 said:

Thank you all for your comments, it is as I thought sadly, but your comments have been very helpful.  I am going to reach out to the landlord on my daughters behalf and try and persuade him to pursue the boyfriend.  Not much hope of him agreeing but its worth a shot.

If the LL has contact details for BF, he may pursue him as well as, rather than instead of your daughter!

youth_leader

I think if you contact the landlord he will ask you to pay, and let you chase the boyfriend for the money.  Have you contacted the boyfriend's parents?  I am assuming you are not a guarantor as I was for my daughter at Uni.

ian1246

Report it to the Police. This is criminal - specifically Fraud by False representation. I'd also report it to his bank's fraud department (she has his bank details) - they'll probably do nothing to help your daughter, but what they probably will do is trigger a CIFAS marker which will essentially be the execution of her BF's financial existence for the next 6 years....

.... which given he's defrauded her, is 100% appropriate. Good luck scamming individuals in the future with no bank account (or getting a mortgage or rental).

Tabieth

HedgehogRulez said:

You can’t out a price on love. You should support their burgeoning relationship not creating obstacles with matters of money.

At the very least he’s taken advantage of her. From what I read he’s financially scammed her. That’s not love! 

Emmia

HedgehogRulez said:

You can’t out a price on love. You should support their burgeoning relationship not creating obstacles with matters of money.

I could not disagree more with this. 

The young lady handed over her money for her share of the rent in good faith, trusting her boyfriend would make tte payment... He did not.

Staying with this shyster is a gigantic mistake, which she will regret for a long time.

Trust is one of the most important things in a relationship, and he's surely destroyed it 

user1977

Uriziel said:

 contact the university and merely ask for help and if they can do anything

Where does the university come into it? Other than possibly offering her new accommodation. 

Wyndham

I'm going to sound harsh but...

If your daughter is a student, living away from home, then I assume she is over 18. As such she is legally an adult.

She needs to sort this out. You can help, and advise, of course, but at the end of the day it is up to her to sort it. You could suggest that she comes on here for advice - and she will get advice - but you can't sort it for her.

And, again, I know this is harsh, but unless you were actually living with them, you may not know the full story.

We all do stupid things for love at some point in our lives... unfortunately!

sheramber

Since the daughter paid less than half ‘because she was a student’ it would appear the boyfriend was not a student.

They were renting a private flat , therefore there in no connection to the university.

Since the parents were supporting the daughter to pay the rent they presumably trusted the boyfriend as well. 

It would be interesting to know what the plans were for after they left the flat.

horsewithnoname

HedgehogRulez said:

You can’t put a price on love. You should support their burgeoning relationship not creating obstacles with matters of money.

If you love someone you don’t steal from them. He’s a leech, not a boyfriend. 

Altior

One wonders what was happening with all of the other household bills, especially priority. Was he dealing (or not dealing) with everything else.