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Leaving bulk of assets to children in will rather than spouse
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MarzipanCrumble said:I am going to be really controversial here: don't aggresively troll me.
TBH if you are suffering from dementia and the care is adequate rather than 5 star, does it really matter?
Funding your own care gives you choices that won't be available to you if you rely on the Local Authority.3 -
p00hsticks said:MarzipanCrumble said:I am going to be really controversial here: don't aggresively troll me.
TBH if you are suffering from dementia and the care is adequate rather than 5 star, does it really matter?
Funding your own care gives you choices that won't be available to you if you rely on the Local Authority.
My mother in the other hand suffered from various age related illnesses including dementia but because she could not self fund had to get to a pretty low state before she could get past the LA funding panel and it took a hospitalisation discharge assessment to finally get that through (she really should have been in residential care 8 months earlier) . The choices I had at the time were limited and she was offered a place in a not too modern facility with small rooms with no on suit facilities I can’t complain about the staff who were great but it’s not the sort place I ever intend ending up in,
If we ever need serious support, we either want a live in carer or a place like my step father was in, so we are making sure that we both retain sufficient funds to cover that.1 -
Mum161111 said:It is definitely not my intention to be controversial in any way - but are we saying that those who cannot afford to fund their care privately are, knowingly, being cared for in places where (re pressure sores) the care is so poor, short staffed etc, that they are knowingly being neglected?
https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/uk-wales-56015903
https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/articles/ck55x2deelno
https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/uk-england-berkshire-54174854
https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/articles/c3vx9eegdqqo0 -
I think it depends on the relationship. If you have a loving child they will want the best for you right until the end, no matter the cost. I think some assume they are going to spank all their money on fine wine and holidays. I guess the OP did put it out there but people worry too much about trying not to spend other people’s money. IMO of course.0
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p00hsticks said:MarzipanCrumble said:I am going to be really controversial here: don't aggresively troll me.
TBH if you are suffering from dementia and the care is adequate rather than 5 star, does it really matter?
Funding your own care gives you choices that won't be available to you if you rely on the Local Authority.MFW 2021 #76 £5,145
MFW 2022 #27 £5,300
MFW 2023 #27 £2,000
MFW 2024 #27 £6,055
MFW 2025 #27 £2,350 /£5,0000
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