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Doing the right thing?!?

Jones01 · 2008-01-02 13:56:29

First post so please forgive me if I make any mistakes etc!! I bought a flat with my now ex boyfriend almost 3 years ago, we were given £20,000 as a gift towards buying the house from his parents (of which about £6,000 he spent on himself, not for the house) Now that we've split up he's asking for the £20,000 back from the…

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pinkshoes Posts: 20,593 Forumite

3 January 2008 at 11:09AM

But the money she spent was on stuff for the house, that they both used, and no doubt increased the sale price. If he gives her ALL the money, then wouldn't that be the equivalent of HIM having paid for all the work, which is the inverse of the current situation where SHE has paid for all the work?

This is something that should have been paid for 50/50, as they both benefited from it, so he only owes her for half of it.

The £14k is different, as that was a gift from his family, and perhaps what permitted them to buy a property in the first place. Maybe she's entitled to demand a half share of the £14k as it was a gift to both of them, but I just find that rather petty, and for the sake of keeping peace, she should just let him have it back.

Should've = Should HAVE (not 'of')
Would've = Would HAVE (not 'of')

No, I am not perfect, but yes I do judge people on their use of basic English language. If you didn't know the above, then learn it! (If English is your second language, then you are forgiven!)
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