What can I do with her things?

Grace_

Depending on whether or not theres anything valuable in your possession that belongs to her, I'd go with the choice of sending her a letter (keep photocopies of anything you do send out). Give her about 3 weeks to make arrangements for the things to be picked up, stating that if she doesn't come for them, they'll be sent to the charity shop.
If your going to court reagrding money that she still owes you, I personally would probably send out the first letter...if theres no reply, i'd then send out another, just to be safe (to avoid her trying to have the value of goods chucked out deducated from whats she owes you!)

floss2

And send all letters recorded, so you get proof of delivery - you can also get a copy of the signature if she disputes receiving anything.

pinkshoes

Send her a letter today saying she has until 10th January to collect them (give her your number to phone to arrange pick up, just incase she deleted it!), and upon collection she can pay you the money she owes.

IF she doesn't turn up, sell the clothes on ebay to pay off her debt, or if she shows up but doesn't have the money, tell her you're selling her stuff on ebay to recover the debt and she can't have the stuff, and you'll be taking her to small claims court to recover the rest of the money if it isn't paid by end of January.

Loretta

I would keep things simple, if you are going to be taking her to Court however inconvenient, I would keep her stuff just a little longer so that when you get to court for say, £200, you don't want her saying that her defence is that she left stuff worth £2000. If you have a court hearing just hand it over when you get there. I would write a recorded delivery letter though saying that if she doesn't collect them in 7 days you will dump them, to give her a chance, but keep the stuff but if she owes you money you want to keep it simple and not complicate it all by having her claiming you destroyed the family jewels or something

asea

Keith wrote: »

Ah the other thing is she already owes me money which I think I'm going to have to take her to small claims to try and recover. So I'd prefer to not spend anything

I was hoping I could just send her a letter stating she has to collect them in 7 days or I'll dump them.

It's a long story!!!

Would selling the stuff give you enough to pay back the money that she owes you?

keelykat

if the items meant so much to her-wouldnt she have collected them by now? she obviously isnt bothered, so just sell/throw away/ebay etc depending what the items are.

Good luck,

keely.

sarymclary

If you want to keep the belongings/outstanding monies separate, rather than using the belongings to recoup some of the cash, I'd suggest trying to find a friend/relative/ex colleague/workplace who is local to you that you could use to pass the belongings on via.

Not knowing your situation, I'll play devil's advocate and presume that the ex might not want to be face to face with you right now (for whatever reason), and this may be why she's not been in touch. If a 3rd party were able to take the items from you, where she could collect from another time, that might suit you both.

There are obviously outstanding issues needing to be resolved here, and if money is involved, there's a good reason for her not to want to get in touch directly, and some people don't cope well with meeting up with exes. The fact she now doesn't live near you may be an indicator, but perhaps I'm reading too much into that!?

I'd leave the issue of the money separate and pursue that as necessary. If you're able to find someone locally who will take the bin bag of stuff off you for her, ask them to sign a note to that effect (to cover your !!!!!) dated.

You are right to be wary about disposing or destroying her property, because she would be able to make a claim for compensation if you did that.

HTH

Lady_E

Totally agree with sarymclary - two issues here , deal with them seperately , far less complicated in the long run.

There must be a mutual friend who can "receive" the stuff on her behalf , again make sure it is all itemised and signed for .

Good luck , reading between the lines , sounds like a messy break up with lots of bad feeling.