Self managed DMP HELP

miumius

Okay thanks. 

We have been divorced for years now but am only coming to terms with the intimidation as I consider myself quite a strong individual. 

He has made some poor decisions that affect our children as of late which created the problems as he doesn’t like being told he’s wrong. 

Should I write an email to him with the effect of 
due to x and y, this amount is no longer affordable at the moment but I can pay x amount? 

I’m not scared of going to court I think he would come out quite poorly, just want to know if I could face small claims for that amount. 

Grumpelstiltskin

Don't go into details with him just tell him as from next month you will only pay him £xx.

If he phones don't get  into a conversation with him.

2021rdsunshine

miumius said:

When I broached it previously about money he’s owing he argued the loan is separate from child maintenance and didnt want to conflate the two. He intimidates me so I left it at that till I could think about it. 

In that case I would just stop paying him! What can he do? Take you to court? I don’t think any judge would be very happy with his intimidation tactics and dishonesty regarding the children maintenance payments. 

miumius

Should I say I’m entering a DMP in the hopes that information wont trigger some type of argument. I understand this is my choice in what I say but I appreciate your opinions and thank you for all the advice so far. 

Grumpelstiltskin

Personally I would only tell him the minimum you can get away with, don't encourage him.