Complications with Deputyship for Property and Financial Affairs.

elsien

If the care home can confirm that you’ve been taking things in for her and it’s a reasonable amount to spend on her  for the time that she’s been there, it’s explainable even without receipts. If you’re talking many thousands with absolutely nothing to show for it, that’s different. But that’s not the case, is it?

Guitar180

That is not the case no. it's been spent on sweets as she has always had a sweet tooth and requests for clothing. The bills have also been paid. Still a little worrying.

Guitar180

Should I let them know? Will anyone check where the missing money has gone from her bank account?

elsien

I would suggest just waiting to see what the phone call is about tomorrow. My guess is that it’s going to focus on the need for a deputy and why they feel they want to carry on with the professional deputy.

If anyone asks, then just be honest. The bills needed paying, she needed a day-to-day spending and you were doing your best to make sure that happened. In the future if the solicitors take on the role they might want to check some things, but it’ll be easier enough to get copies of the bills etc.

Moving forwards though you need to make sure that you evidence everything that you can. For your protection as well as for your Mums. This isn’t a police  matter if that’s what’s worrying you unless you have been systematically ransacking her bank account of all her money with nothing to show for it. 

As I said before, it’s not unusual for family members not to understand the differences especially if they’ve been supporting the person with their bank account with their consent before they lost capacity.