Unexpected death & subsequent funeral costs

silvercar

I've seen go fund me appeals set up for similar situations. The problem then is that you may not get enough for what you need, but would be morally committed to spend the money donated on what you raised the money for.

GDB2222

gt568 said:

sheramber said:

gt568 said:

Just an FYI - York council refused to do a funeral for my MIL (complicated - but no one could or would be involved and no-one could pay).  They directly cremated her.

 What did you expect them to do considering it was being paid for with taxpayers' money?

Many people are having direct cremation out of choice these days

I expected them to do what it said on the website.

https://www.york.gov.uk/PublicHealthFunerals

And as such my point was the OP may not be able to attend a funeral for his son at all and should be aware of that fact.

That link suggests that there would be a funeral service of some sort, and I can’t see why the op couldn’t attend?

“Religious or secular services

It may not be possible for us to find out if the deceased was religious or not, but we will always try to find someone to take the funeral service.”

It would be reasonable to ask for the ashes, and then, when funds permit, inter those in a small grave with headstone. 

Billy_Dandy

Thanks for all of your replies.
No more info needed at this time. 

gt568

GDB2222 said:

gt568 said:

sheramber said:

gt568 said:

Just an FYI - York council refused to do a funeral for my MIL (complicated - but no one could or would be involved and no-one could pay).  They directly cremated her.

 What did you expect them to do considering it was being paid for with taxpayers' money?

Many people are having direct cremation out of choice these days

I expected them to do what it said on the website.

https://www.york.gov.uk/PublicHealthFunerals

And as such my point was the OP may not be able to attend a funeral for his son at all and should be aware of that fact.

That link suggests that there would be a funeral service of some sort, and I can’t see why the op couldn’t attend?

“Religious or secular services

It may not be possible for us to find out if the deceased was religious or not, but we will always try to find someone to take the funeral service.”

It would be reasonable to ask for the ashes, and then, when funds permit, inter those in a small grave with headstone. 

The link does - the council refused to carry it out and had the individual directly cremated with no option of attendance.