Confused

marcia_

FlorayG said:

The only way this will work is if you move in as a lodger and pay rent; but you may have to prove to authorities that you are different households ( and you and your kids will require at least two bedrooms separate to his)
What about where you live now? Is that free or rented? You could exchange one rental for another
Personally I can't see how you can keep food shopping separate if you are in a relationship, but each to their own

 that would be benefit fraud because they clearly says they are their partner 

marcia_

ripplyuk said:

I thought the DWP define a couple as ‘living together as if they were married’ and this doesn’t sound like that at all. I’ve never heard of a married couple who keep their food separate. It seems more like a friends with benefits scenario to me. 

 Living in the same home and sharing a bed is as if they were married regardless of how they manage their finances and food. 

Northern_Wanderer

Rayta said:

I am a single mum with two children, 4 and 6. I have a new partner and he has asked us to move in with him. He has three children to someone else and gets his kids when he is at home form work. He works away more than half the year. 

If this were me I would prioritise myself and my children and not move in and risk losing benefits if he is not going to support you financilally. With the set up you have described, it sounds like he wants to benefit from the fact that he won't be in the property half the time.....and you lose out for that. There are implications for child maintenance in this scenario. Why isn't your ex paying child maintenance?

It is tough being a single parent, and we make certain sacrifices.

sheramber

Rayta, what do you expect to gain out of moving in with your partner?

When he is working away you are on your own and when he is home his three children will be there also.

Is his house big enough to accommodate all these children and will the children get on , all living together?

You will lose your UC as it will be a joint  claim.  Your partner will be expected to support you.

If he earns over £60,000 per year  he needs to consider the higher income charge on child benefit.