Old Style Daily Sat 3rd August 2024

RosyRed

Morning all, much cooler but with patchy sun / cloud.

Mehefin, glad to see you posting, and that DS partner has been a good support to him. I hope you manage to find a solution to the funeral arrangements for your lovely Dawn. My friend's DM had died & was cremated during Covid when you could only have 6 there, but she decided at a later date to put her ashes in the family grave, as Snoozer said , there is that possibility. Thinking of you all.

We are going to pick DS2 & DGS up shortly, there is a friendly football match. The boys step up to playing 9 a side this season so need a bit of a practice ( not that DGS has ever stopped).

DH has just been for a part for the work van, DS1 is going to fit it.

TA bet it was lovely at thecaravan with the nice weather. Take care all x

-taff

Morning...mehefin, it's normal to feel guilty when someone dies and you get stuck on the ciruclar thinking of guilt, self blame, what could I have done differently etc. It's normal, and to be honest, with the speed it all happened, and the fact that most people shrug off being ill anyway because they think nothing is seriously wrong, and your mind does not immediately go to the worst thing it coudl be, there wasn't anything different either of you could have done. If she didn't make her wishes know you're going to have to trust what you decide is best, although as has been said, you could bury her ahses with her mother. My parents opted for a double grave for themselves, so they are together forever and can annoy and enjoy each other always

I have already told OH I want to be cremated and scattered with nothing left behind, he wants to be cremated with the Crazy World of Arthur Browns 'Fire' playing..I don't think as a society we talk enough about death, generally, people seem to carry on as if it's never going to happen and then the families are left with the pieces and the confusion afterwards...So while you are telling people to talk about funerals, I would say, do some Swedish Death Cleaning and don't leave your relatives the job of clearing...

So the building is going apace, foundations and first double rows of blocks are in, I'm purely exhauseted from being 'on' all the time. OH wanted to go somewhere today but it'll take an hour and half to drive there and to be honest, I just cannot be faffed to go..There's washing to do that has be dried when they aren't here, the kitchen to clean because it's covered in dust and dirt and everything to restore to some kind of order...My sister was going to come up so we could book things but I've put her off until next week...Hoping it'll be better next week because it hopefully will be cooler...Next week is also looking pretty busy, funeral on Monday, hour and half drive to the MOT place on Tuesday [ part of the warranty] and then the usual for the rest...

Sorry to be whingeing minny...on the plus side, have a lovely weekend if you can..mehefin, hope you can find some comfort from your ds...

Chrisca50

Morning all

{{hugs}} to you Mehefin and as Snoozer and RosyRed have said about ashes I did the same with my DM.  My dad died 30 odd years earlier and he was buried and I had my mum cremated and put with my dad in his grave so there's definitely options.

Just made a sponge which I'm going to do the filling  after I watch the Olympic road race where we have a chance of another gold.  What to do when the Olympics finish!

A bit of gardening later and more Olympics methinks

Take care all x

RedRuby1231

Morning all

Mehefin please don’t feel any guilt you loved Dawn and she knew that and I’m sure it was a great comfort to her, sending much love xx

Nice day here I have a load of washing just finishing so that can go on the line there is probably enough for another load. Housework to do this morning and then dogs to be walked later as long as it’s not too hot, if it gets hotter they will have to wait till this evening after dinner.

Bbq for dinner I got some nice steaks when shopping and yesterday we had Greek salad and chips and there is some of both left so will attempt to reheat the chips and see if they are edible if not we have some new potatoes we can do with it.

Have good days all and take care xx 

IzzyBee

Morning everyone Mehefin I can only say what others have said take your time and do what feels right for you take care of yourself. TAFF that’s brilliant it did make me laugh and you are right we don’t talk enough about death and it’s the only thing in life we can be certain of I want to be scattered in the sea because I’ve never been able to swim and I want to do it then with no fear and I love the sea oooh I will be a mermaid so if you ever see one you will know it’s me . It’s a bit cooler thankfully I know I shouldn’t complain but it’s nice and bright we have got my friends dog overnight as she is at a wedding she’s an oldie and will probably sleep until she gets picked up but she’s happy enough snoozing. Not a lot happening here just housework as usual. Thinking of all the poorlies hugs to those that need them have a good day everyone whatever you are doing 

Floss

I've told my boys I'm to be cremated & scattered where my parents are. None of my family are buried, and I think were all scattered.

Coxy11

Morning all,

@mehefin I hope having your DS with you and a good network around you is a comfort. It's clear from anyone reading your posts this week that you did everything possible for Dawn so please be kind to yourself x

DH and I are off to a NT place today on a voucher from the paper. We are picking DD up from the airport later as she's been on a solo trip to Santorini. We've had an offer on our house and have had an offer accepted on one we like, so need to fill in a lot of forms for the solicitor this weekend. DH has a second interview for a fixed term one year contract too, so it's all go. 

Suffolksue

Mehefin,please remember to look after you .We all remember what we think we ought to have done but be very proud of what you did for her .

Dawn knows you loved her .I think funerals are for the living  so whatever you do will be right for you and yours 

cling to DS and his partner 

bellabella

Just popping on to say how sorry i am to hear your news Mehifin I hope that you can come to a decision regarding the next steps for your beloved Dawn as others have said take your time and it will come to you x